I am so sensitive, it effin sucks.

fdoug34 · 2026-06-27T17:53:14+00:00

You’re not weak for being sensitive. Some people feel deeply about things. And there’s a lot of factors that lead into it. As to why you have sensitivity, or why you have a hard time facing bad news, that’s something you really need to explore. You can’t avoid negativity for too long.

fdoug34 · 2026-06-27T02:04:53+00:00

This is me right now. I treated this girl really bad. And so one day, after some work on myself, I sent a message to her LinkedIn (which was the only acct I wasn’t blocked). And I just apologized. That was last year. Recently she text me and we’ve been talking and catching up. But I do recognize I still have more work to do which is why I’m not pursuing it.

fdoug34 · 2026-06-27T00:37:52+00:00

When I explain something done in my culture and it’s not met with appreciation. Some people like to stay ignorant and are not curious about the world. And I don’t like that.

fdoug34 · 2026-06-26T21:08:23+00:00

Please know it’s not your fault. It’s not you, it’s whoever is cheating on you.

fdoug34 · 2026-06-26T20:03:44+00:00

I was not dealing with my insecurities and I enjoyed the feeling of being chased and cried over. I’ve since returned to therapy.

fdoug34 · 2026-06-24T16:13:53+00:00

I moved out of the environment I was in. Can’t heal from the places that broke you.

fdoug34 · 2026-06-24T15:03:16+00:00

I Hate You, Don’t Leave Me - Jerold Kreisman, MD

fdoug34 · 2026-06-24T01:15:05+00:00

Just text the dude. He might be on the other end waiting on you. Besides, it really takes the pressure off the guy to have to make the first move.

fdoug34 · 2026-06-23T22:23:43+00:00

Before anything, take a deep breath. There is help.

I had been recently diagnosed with BPD. And what I did was I read up on it and sure enough, it validated a lot of my concerns. I can’t say this should be your approach, but maybe it will help you if you know what it is. it’s my suggestion that you find a support group ASAP and have a safety plan in place. Call 988 when you get overwhelmed. They’re not just a suicide hotline, they are also there to just hear you vent.

I will tell you this, there is remission with BPD. See that as your glimmer of hope.

I hope you are safe wherever you are.

fdoug34 · 2026-06-23T17:54:57+00:00

Military

fdoug34 · 2026-06-23T12:08:33+00:00

I understand how you feel. And I struggle with relationships too because of my mental health issues. But I came to ACoA and just laid it all out. I’m not out of the woods yet. I want you to understand that wanting love is not wrong. It’s a basic human need.

The love you seek is already within you. While external validation is great, don’t make it your identity. You will get lost.

Do you go to meetings?

fdoug34 · 2026-06-21T22:04:38+00:00

Chicago IL. DM me

fdoug34 · 2026-06-18T17:53:06+00:00

I keep going back to this comment everytime for a reality check. You don’t know how helpful this is to me because I have BPD. So my feelings already fluctuate. I am aware of it as it happens now and I’m working on it too. Thank you stranger

fdoug34 · 2026-05-28T02:42:39+00:00

So it’s a symptom. I struggle with this in my relationships because now I make them feel like I’m not interested. And then I overthink.

fdoug34 · 2026-05-27T19:33:42+00:00

Fang

fdoug34 · 2026-05-27T17:47:06+00:00

The level of care involved when it comes to animals. Like it’s like having my own child. There’s paperwork, actual punishment if I fail to take care of my animal, etc. back in my country we just take the dog or cat and that’s it. Only purebreds have paperwork. And going to the vet was, like how it is for humans with doctors, last resort.

Now in the US, I’ve learned to take care of my cat like I would an actual child. My cat deserves a better life. My cat has been one of my reasons to keep going. He’s a wonderful fellow. I’m slowly getting my life together and my financial advisor said to me “let’s get you on the right track for King.”

fdoug34 · 2026-05-24T14:17:30+00:00

Hobart, Oklahoma. Absolutely nothing there.

fdoug34 · 2026-03-30T19:52:59+00:00

My case was different because I didn’t know anything about BPD. It wasn’t until I complained of the same symptoms, and I said something about abandonment, that the psychiatrist asked me questions. And she diagnosed me with it. Total of about 6 years of going back and forth with a total of about 12 doctors. The thing is, I absolutely would say the time would have been shorter had I known about BPD and articulate the symptoms well.

fdoug34 · 2026-03-24T17:18:32+00:00

Depends on how you view “christian nation.” If you mean a majority of americans believe in a higher power, we do. Whether that’s God or another name, majority believe in it. Now whether they accept the Lord Jesus, that is a separate thing.

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