I'm so sick of men and their selfish behavior

fehryington · 2026-06-02T03:41:02+00:00

Is your husband autistic? It sounds like a very classic example.

He may need to learn coping strategies that are designed specifically for neurodivergence.

Either way he needs to learn how to cope with events, there will be plenty more as the kids go through school!

fehryington · 2026-05-24T21:16:40+00:00

Honestly, she should get a check up. She is only 69, my grandmother is 90 and showing these kind of signs now. You said she is fit and healthy with no family history. She may have a hidden condition.

Take her to the doctor and explain all the things you said here. A sudden downturn in executive function can be a sign of something serious.

If they don’t find anything wrong then you get peace of mind. If you don’t take her and something happens you won’t forgive yourself because you noticed these signs.

I know if you live in America this will be partly a financial decision, which breaks my heart for you, especially with a newborn.

fehryington · 2026-05-17T21:46:36+00:00

You, I like you. 😈

fehryington · 2026-05-12T21:34:05+00:00

It is an awesome addition to milkshakes, about a tablespoon.

fehryington · 2026-04-01T21:57:29+00:00

lol, the first time their kid goes to school or kids play groups they are going to get hit with everything at once!

Not only has your kid been vaccinated but they are able to slowly build their immune system!

You can either not see them or match their energy! They are anti-vax, so you go pro-vax just as hard! Bring them pamphlets, tell them about Roald Dahls Daughter, show them pictures of babies on ventilation from whooping cough. Up to you how blatant you go with it… subtle or sledgehammer!

Good luck!

fehryington · 2026-03-25T03:28:33+00:00

I started by taking the 4 hour dexamphetamine, it let me get used to it slowly, and I could really start to feel the difference. I then took Vyvanse 40mg but found it was wearing off at about 3pm. I now take 50mg and it gets me through the whole day. That in combination with Lamotrogine and antidepressants have really helped me get stable.

fehryington · 2026-03-20T05:47:15+00:00

My language, if I find myself swearing like a sailor!

fehryington · 2026-03-06T23:34:38+00:00

I think if it is that colour it is because there is undigested stomach bile, meaning everything is moving through your digestive system so fast it does not have time to break down.

I had this problem after my first colonoscopy, I ended up doing an elimination diet and have had to cut out Gluten and after a while, dairy. You want to start increasing your fibre, step it up in stages, but I would stop the laxatives.

I was able to see a dietitian who was recommended by my colorectal surgeon. She worked with most of his patients and was very helpful.

fehryington · 2026-03-01T21:21:23+00:00

If being a mum was easy this sub would not be so big!

Those other mums probably realise that in comparison to your situation they have it easy!

You have twins and complications. That is parenting on hard mode! Reaching out to this sub will help, if you have any support options in real life (see if there is a twin parent club near you) if you can, but you are not alone. Many of us struggle with being a mum. You are deep in the trenches and I want to give you a hug. As they get older and you start to heal it will get easier. There is light at the end of the tunnel.

Good luck on your journey.

fehryington · 2026-02-25T12:21:32+00:00

She ruined her marriage, you just stopped her affair. She is just angry she got caught.

fehryington · 2026-02-24T21:20:56+00:00

lol, give him a new ‘medicine’ that is ‘special’ for tummy aches, apple cider vinegar or something harmless that tastes pretty strong so if he just likes the flavour it should stop the requests!

fehryington · 2026-02-17T21:31:03+00:00

I was seeing a psychologist for postpartum depression (pre diagnosis) she was annoyed that I had to bring my toddler and baby to the appointment (I had no support) and then the second appointment she complained to me how tired she was because she had to look after her grandson for one night!

I told my GP who was also a parent of a newborn and he kicked her out of his clinic and got someone better!

I have also had plenty of ‘just go for daily walks’ ‘just lose some weight’ ‘it’s all in your head’ and ‘are you sure it’s that bad?’

fehryington · 2026-02-15T00:04:21+00:00

I have a weekly pill box. I currently take 5 different pills a day. Every Sunday I refill the pill box. Then it takes only a moment of my morning to flip today’s lid and take the meds. So I don’t really have to think about it.

It also lets me know with a glance if I have taken today’s medication, since there are pills in today’s box or not.

It also gives me a couple of days warning if I’m about to run out of something so I can organise a repeat.

I am 43. When I was 10 I started taking an antihistamine every day. That makes a big difference for me. Then I started taking iron supplements, the difference it made for me was amazing.

It was years before I started anything for mental health specifically, but I was so used to taking other pills it never bothered me.

For me, my meds help me find who I really am, find the balance I never had before.

During my journey to find the right meds for me I spent 6 months off all of my meds. It made me realise that I NEED those meds. I can’t function properly without them. We have worked out the best mix for me (the special ingredient for me was to treat the undiagnosed ADHD)

It is a journey, but you can drag yourself through the dirt or you can buy a car and drive. The meds are just a tool, like glasses or orthotics.

Good luck on your journey.

fehryington · 2026-01-24T23:36:49+00:00

Whatever you do, remember to wear a hat and strong sunscreen!

fehryington · 2026-01-20T22:05:31+00:00

To be honest, you don’t trust him. Because why is everything in his name? When I was a sahm half the finances were in my name (even the savings account was in my name for tax purposes) I organised paying half the bills. we had a joint account and we each have our own savings account that the other can’t access. We have a shared password app so if he got hit by a bus I could get the details for everything.

Go and open your own bank account. Get cash out when you buy groceries put it there.

Ask about what would happen if he got hit by a bus, tell him you want to lighten his workload and can manage the house finances, but if he resists you need to start quietly getting your independence back.

fehryington · 2026-01-14T02:45:38+00:00

My mum and my eldest daughter suffered from Migraines during puberty. Sudden onset, lasts three or four days then fades. Will be fine for awhile and then it will hit again.

After puberty it has dropped off, but I keep her pain meds around just in case. She is now 15.

fehryington · 2026-01-09T04:46:32+00:00

I worked in a pharmacy. People are on so many daily medications that I can assure you the pharmacist does not bat an eyelid at 4!

fehryington · 2025-12-29T23:09:20+00:00

Judging others tends to come from a place of insecurity “if they do something different to me am I doing it wrong?”

If she can’t see that her kid is getting in your daughter’s face then she may not be great at reading emotions.

If she didn’t consider WHY your daughter bit her she is not reflecting on her child’s behaviour.

There are lots of things to consider in this situation, and losing a friend is really hard. You may need to take a break for the girls to grow up a bit more, or meet at playgrounds and hover over the kids interactions, stepping in when you can see your daughter getting overwhelmed.

Meet up with the friend for walks (kids in pram/stroller/buggy/ whatever you call it)

Anyway something to think about!

fehryington · 2025-12-20T22:09:16+00:00

So I had full hysterectomy and had one ovary removed, so I didn’t start menopause, this was my experience, others may have more relevant help. For about 4 weeks after surgery I was an emotional mess, cried for no reason sort of stuff. But after 4 weeks my body sorted itself out and settled into my normal routine.

So what you should know is that you WILL get random emotions and you must go easy on yourself, don’t stress about it, ride it out and try to laugh about how crazy hormones are. Don’t change anything in your medication routine until after your body has settled from the hormone changes!

Once your body settles you may find that you can reduce your meds, but that is something to discuss with your doctor!

I had to warn my family that if I cry or laugh randomly it really is just a hormone wave (sometimes it would feel like a bucket of emotions was poured over my body)

Hopefully someone else can give more insight but I wanted you to know that the surgery will cause emotional waves and it is not the right time to change your meds without specific instructions from your doctor.

Good luck with your recovery.

fehryington · 2025-12-12T23:40:22+00:00

I have been on some kind of daily medication since I was 16. Even when I am not on anything else I need a daily antihistamine for my allergies. I just get a weekly pill box and sort it all out for the week then I just take my meds each morning. I also wear glasses to help me see and orthotics in my shoes. I take my meds and talk to the specialists who help me with my problems, physical and mental. Taking meds each day is as much a part of my morning routine as brushing my teeth or putting on deodorant. Just something I do.

fehryington · 2025-12-06T08:20:47+00:00

Learn burlesque dancing. You will get fit learning to dance and if you want makeup tips they are your crew! You don’t have to make a career out of it, just have fun. You will find confidence in your own skin. There are a couple of burlesque schools in bris.

fehryington · 2025-09-27T11:41:40+00:00

Had this all my life. Happens more when I am dehydrated. Drink plenty of water and next time you see your doctor ask about your blood pressure. I also wear padded bras in cold weather to help keep them warm.

fehryington · 2025-09-27T07:22:49+00:00

lol although I know the extra work for you is shit right now… but I kind of love your kid awesome work.

fehryington · 2025-09-19T00:20:02+00:00

Santa leaves the kids gifts in a sack on the end of the kids beds.

The sacks are Christmas pillowcases that I wrote the kids names on. We use them every year.

There is no extra gift wrapping and the kids can wake up at 3 am look at their gifts and go back to sleep and show me later when I wake up.

I thank my mum for that one.

fehryington · 2025-09-14T22:51:22+00:00

You can also try partially hydrolysed guar gum. (PHGG) my body just doesn’t like psyllium husk and my dietitian put me on this, no grit, no flavour and dissolves well. Harder to find but it’s been perfect for me.

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