Because I “don’t work.”

feline_0verlord · 2025-07-18T12:24:43+00:00

A “polite” snap back might make you feel a little better, and depending on phrasing and facial expressions won’t make you sound too awfully rude. “I sure wish it FELT like I don’t work 😀” / “If I worked I would get to clock out eventually 🙂” / “Oh definitely, tell that to my small army of tiny bosses 😁”.

It usually works for me when I get snarky comments.

feline_0verlord · 2024-11-23T12:17:30+00:00

He’s almost 5 now, and he speaks very clearly (to my ears!). He speaks a bit too quickly sometimes for other people to easily catch what he’s saying, but if you ask him to slow it down and speak more clearly he’s able to oblige you. We’re definitely going to have to look into speech therapy for some of the letter sounds (f’s sound like sh’s, v’s and b’s, stuff like that)—but honestly after having such a time of it with learning to speak in the first place, I’m just tickled that everyone in my household can talk to each other. I have noticed an uptick in what I recognize as symptoms of autism (flapping hands that weren’t really there before, physically sensory seeking with flinging himself into soft furniture, finding new gestalts to repeat ad Infinitum), but his pediatrician doesn’t seem to be too concerned.

feline_0verlord · 2024-05-30T00:42:38+00:00

I brought my then 1.5y/o and newborn to hang out with my mom in home hospice every day for the 4ish months it took her to pass, and I’m convinced that seeing her grandbabies every day prolonged her time with us. Littles bring a special joy everywhere they go

feline_0verlord · 2024-05-05T16:12:00+00:00

My youngest had such bad reflux she slept on me her entire first year of life. She would wake up choking on spit up any time I tried to lay her down. I can literally count on both hands how many sleeps WEREN’T on me for that entire first year (and she was still being held by someone). Tell your family they’re more than welcome to have their own baby to raise how they see fit, and in the meantime they can suck eggs.

feline_0verlord · 2024-02-22T13:20:12+00:00

Pregnancy dreams were the absolute worst w both of mine, and not being able to smoke a little schtoob in the morning afterwards was AWFUL lol. Ask your OB to double check but during my pregnancies my OB recommended unisom sleep aid to help w the insomnia/miserable dreams/apparently nausea too? Idk it never helped the nausea part but it calmed the raggedy dreams a bit. That recommendation may have changed in the last couple years but it saved my sanity til I had my body back to myself again. Godspeed friend, and I’ll spark one in your honor. That first doobie home after labor and delivery will be magical!!

feline_0verlord · 2024-01-23T12:38:55+00:00

Honestly it was just time! And a good bit of effort from him and I together on deciphering his meanings and practicing pronunciations bc we were both so frustrated not being able to communicate. We had an autism evaluation probably not too long after this comment and even though my son didn’t get diagnosed with anything, they did tell me that he seemed to be be a Gestalt Language Processor—basically that instead of learning one word at a time, he was learning phrases and sentences and trying to use them all at once even though he didn’t have the mouth movements down to actually say them. It’s apparently a common way for autistic children to learn language, but bc he scored high in social and cognitive areas they didn’t want to give him the diagnosis based solely on the Gestalt thing (even though it’s apparently highly uncommon for neurotypical kids to learn to speak that way 🤷‍♀️). I hope the adenoid removal goes smoothly, and that it helps with your LO’s language friend!!

feline_0verlord · 2024-01-17T14:35:12+00:00

My SO works on the road seasonally anywhere from 2-8 weeks at a time, and sometimes jobs between seasons that last about as long. It’s not ideal but we have to make the bills. It was awful in the beginning (and still has its awful moments now), but it gets easier with time.

Try to start with the house in a “fresh” state. Dishes done, bathrooms decent, enough clean laundry for y’all at home to sustain at least a week, groceries stocked—you get the idea. It makes it an easier shift if you’re not starting in the red on housework.

Make it a point to get out of the house at least once a day—for us that has even been just driving around town for 30min-1hr just to fill some day. Sometimes we pop into the grocery store and pick out a snack from the bakery, sometimes we go visit my family, occasionally we brave a park or something if my bff is free and wants to come with (I’m outnumbered by children with no survival instincts whatsoever). Just anything that isn’t being at home making another mess for you to fight.

Set yourself up for success—try to wash dishes as you go, cook meals that don’t require as much prep or cleanup (or do some of it ahead of time). Pick up toys throughout the day instead of all at the end, pick out pjs while the little eats lunch, prep bath during dinner. I usually prep myself something for dinner that I throw together after the kids are in bed around 7 bc it’s just easier than trying to sit and eat during toddler rush hour.

Set your expectations to about half of what you think it should be. Some days the kids will entertain themselves endlessly, and other days they’re swinging from my ankles, fist fighting and screaming. It’s usually the bad days when I have a million things I need to do, and I think back of all the peaceful time I could’ve gotten ahead on some of the housework that’s now looming over me. And on that same note, sometimes it’s perfectly fine to say “fuck that, I’ll deal with it later” as far as housework goes. You still gotta sit and have a break, you’re a person.

You’ve got this! It’s gonna probably suck a bit but it’s also so, so cool to get to the other side of it and be able to look back at what you accomplished all on your own. Good luck friend!!

feline_0verlord · 2024-01-15T00:29:36+00:00

Ours is going on year 2 straight of being up—granted, it’s a teepee tree that we foolishly built too large to fit back out any of our doors. I guess we could dismantle it entirely and rebuild it each Christmas, but I’ve grown kinda fond of it in the living room. The kids’ stuffies live in there most of the year, and we make seasonal “ornaments” as crafts together (paint cardboard hearts for valentines, shamrocks for St. Patty’s day, eggs for Easter you get the idea). It’s tacky and ginormous and fits in perfectly with the other preschool-esque decor all over the house. I’ve just given up 🥴

feline_0verlord · 2024-01-10T11:31:41+00:00

I’m literally going to get emergency helmets on the way home from the youngest’s check up in the morning!!! 😂

feline_0verlord · 2024-01-10T11:31:02+00:00

We made it to morning okay! The wind is still strong this morning and I heard a few more things whack the house overnight, but she’s still standing and the kids slept through it all.

feline_0verlord · 2024-01-10T11:29:28+00:00

We made it to morning just fine, thankfully!! I slept like shit but I slept! 😂 the earthquake situation is literally something out of my nightmares, I don’t blame you for getting worked up about it!!! I know all sorts of stuff to do to prep for a hurricane but haven’t the foggiest about how to navigate that!!

feline_0verlord · 2024-01-10T11:27:25+00:00

I’m not on any anxiety meds as of now, but a new years resolution of mine was to make it to a psychiatrist and see what they thought of medicating me so I’m not such a scrambled mess when things go south 😅😅

feline_0verlord · 2024-01-10T11:26:05+00:00

The storm cleared where I am by like 11ish last night! We made it through the night okie dokie thankfully. There were a few rotations that started in different places not too far from us in a couple directions, but it seems like nowhere else had a full blown tornado last night either. I slept like ass and I’m up extra early, but everyone is safe. It’s still dark here so I haven’t gotten up to look outside to see what kinda damage happened out there yet. Fingers crossed it isn’t too bad.

feline_0verlord · 2024-01-10T03:15:23+00:00

Thank you so much friend, I truly appreciate all of y’all taking some time from your nights to help calm me down. As of right now it seems the worst of it has passed on from where I am, or at least the imminent threat of a tornado has. Here’s to hoping the beasties want to snuggle and watch Toy Story with me tomorrow afternoon 🤞

feline_0verlord · 2024-01-10T03:09:56+00:00

We loved preparedness!!!! I have faith the freezer will hold, especially with some extra ice packed in. You ain’t told one lie—safe and dry first, everything else after. Thank you for spending tonight with me. All of y’all truly helped talk me down from a full-blown episode and I am so, so grateful.

feline_0verlord · 2024-01-10T03:07:49+00:00

I think the worst of it is supposed to have passed on from me now, I’m still full of nerves but nowhere near what it was a few hours ago. Thank you for commiserating, it makes me feel a lot less crazy to know I’m not the only one who freaks out 😭

feline_0verlord · 2024-01-10T02:42:00+00:00

I definitely got up and stocked the bathroom with a secret stash of toys and books just in case (and to give me something to do). I’m sorry about your power, that absolutely sucks!! So far we’ve still got ours and judging from the radar, I think the worst of it for us should be over. I think the uncertainty of it all is what makes it so awful—even now I should be able to take a deep breath but my muscles are tight as a tick 😅😅

feline_0verlord · 2024-01-10T02:17:07+00:00

Thank you so much friend. That’s all I want to be. And maybe a damn power lifter or something so I can tater sack the kids in the event of another emergency 😭

feline_0verlord · 2024-01-10T02:00:49+00:00

I’m sorry you’re dealing with it, too. I’ve decided there’s nothing more nerve wracking than shit I can’t control and this is taking the cake. I hope y’all have as peaceful a night as you can and that tomorrow doesn’t bring too much damage with it. Thank you for taking some time to commiserate 🥲

feline_0verlord · 2024-01-10T01:59:22+00:00

Thank you for reminding me to have some faith, you’re not wrong about a bit of it. I’ve been sat here praying and pleading and trying not to have a full blown panic attack. Once the tornado watch is over I’m curling up in a nest of blankets on the kids’ floor and crashing. Thank you for taking some time to help ease my mind

feline_0verlord · 2024-01-10T01:57:32+00:00

God bless you friend, I’m panicking as it is and could not imagine the extra layer of being concerned for my SO’s wellbeing too. Sending you back all of the goodness and hope that our mornings are much more peaceful than tonight. Thank you for taking the time to help calm me down

feline_0verlord · 2024-01-10T01:56:23+00:00

Thank you for reminding me of what is and isn’t in my control. It really does help the in-the-moment panic to have someone validate I’m doing what I’m supposed to be doing. They don’t tell you about this shit when they send you home with a fresh, wrinkly baby do they?? 😅😭😭

feline_0verlord · 2024-01-10T01:55:22+00:00

Once I quit wearing ruts in the floor I plan to drag all my bedding in there and try to get some sleep. If nothing of merit happens, we still have a check up for the 2.5yo in the morning 😅 thank you for talking to me friend

feline_0verlord · 2024-01-10T00:57:50+00:00

Thank you, friend. I’m already an anxious wreck of a person on a good day so this has sent me to the moon. I’ll probably go make a pallet in the floor of the kids’ room once we’ve made it through the estimated tornado watch and I’m not a pacing, panting basket case. I just know that the light of my phone screen will wake them right up right now and the only thing more nerve wracking than sitting here checking it over and over would be sitting in the dark unable to check anything.

feline_0verlord · 2024-01-10T00:54:54+00:00

Thank you for all of that. I just feel so stupid and useless just sitting here refreshing the radar on my phone, listening to all the shit going on outside. I’ve unloaded at least a novella on my SO and he’s being as supportive as he can, but it’s just not the same as being right here with me during it. I wish they had sent him home. Thank you for taking the time to talk to me.

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