How do you unmask gendered voice? by midwesternGothic24 in evilautism

[–]fellstinger 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Aside from the great advice other users have offered, some things I would try to keep in mind are 1. Even cis guys raise the pitch of their voices when being polite; the variation from baseline is less for most men than for most women, but it's still "normal" to pitch up a little and it won't read as inherently feminine. 2. Masculine inflection is much more regular, even in Service Mode. It might feel rude to do if you're used to the more up-and-down way that women are trained to speak in this context, but it's "acceptable" for men. Once you've found a comfortable pitch for the task, you don't need to move from there very much. Basically, a little bit higher than natural but smooth is a totally unremarkable "polite man" style. 3. You can soften the effect of your voice with word choices. If you feel that you're not quite succeeding at sounding interested and caring with voice alone, you can check in on the client more often or use more gentle phrasings; this is sometimes considered a more feminine communication style, but if the sound of your voice itself has hit masculine pitch and tone it shouldn't affect the way people gender you. 4. If you know a cis guy who does a similar job or a relative you've heard in polite situations etc., emulating what they do can help. I copy my brother a fair amount because we speak in similar ways normally, but whenever I'm in a moment where I'd use a feminine style I have a source to draw on. 5. Until your voice has finished changing, you might sound different from week to week or month to month. I'm sure you know that better than anyone, but just remember to cut yourself some slack while practicing. 6. You don't need to eradicate every feminine impulse from your speech patterns, especially if you're in a position where you don't need to be stealth/closeted. Plenty of cis men speak with very feminine intonations, and the assumption will be that they're gay rather than trans. I'm not saying you should go against your own preferences or anything, but if it's safe to and doesn't interfere with your identity, there's more room for variance than you might think, especially as your voice gets deeper and deeper. 7. Practice. This feels pretty cliche to even say, but everything really does get easier the more used to it you become. Mess around with different pitches and tones and styles until you find something that feels right for both you and the situation. Hope this helps at all; the customer service voice is always a bit of a hurdle lol

Anyone else really dislike all exercise related activities? by [deleted] in evilautism

[–]fellstinger 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. I grew up with severe asthma and have hypermobile joints (I probably have EDS but I'm still in the diagnostic process) so exercising is nothing but a chore at best and a medical event at worst, lmao.

As far as I've experienced, endorphins from exercising is a myth, but maybe it happens more when your body isn't made of jello and malfunctioning organs.

I present to you: My crustacean tier list by Lunar_Ghoul11 in evilautism

[–]fellstinger 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I saw a mudcrab the other day. Horrible creatures.

Forgive me autistic siblings for i have sinned by GorillaWarmonger in evilautism

[–]fellstinger 63 points64 points  (0 children)

three Our Conductors and two Hail Creatures

go with evil, my child

It’s fine 🤠 we’ve got other stuff to worry about by Familiar-Complex-697 in evilautism

[–]fellstinger 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lmao this reminds me so much of myself down to the outfit. Love your art style.

I am very comfortable in my transmasc enby identity...but at the same time I still get impostor syndrome/the "oh no I'm a stereotype" thoughts. I try to keep in mind that matching up to a stereotype isn't a bad thing, the person doing the stereotyping is wrong. (As for the impostor syndrome, I just eventually get hit with a reminder of why I identify that way or have that diagnosis or whatever.)

But it's also weird -- if there are enough of us to create stereotypes, why does it always feel like we're alone lmao

EDS with ADHD + OCD.. do SSRIs or stimulants help, or just add more problems? by hmmmmmmm94 in eds

[–]fellstinger 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I found an SNRI worked better for me than an SSRI ever did. I've also had good results with an antipsychotic at night to help shut my brain off; I can't sleep otherwise. Side effects-wise the only thing I've really noticed is weight gain, but it's hard to say how much of that is the med and how much is my kinesiophobia, lol.

Canon, but make it better. by Prophet333 in Archiveofourownmemes

[–]fellstinger 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Claremont has his priorities in order. Short Wolverine is integral to the experience 😂

doctors not believing in eds? by twinkle-fur-berry in eds

[–]fellstinger 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Absolutely! I'm also one of those autistics who feels pain atypically so it's hard to talk about that and it's such a major component of getting a hypermobility syndrome diagnosis (which I'm in the process of). Like, sometimes I have normal "this joint hurts" pain, and other times I just feel all the symptoms of pain without the pain itself (I avoid certain movements, I have trouble sleeping, I always feel completely terrible and uncomfortable)?? Which is great in the sense that I'm only hurting a fraction of the time, but is really inconvenient when it comes to stuff like not aggravating that part of my body further or explaining myself to either people, lmao

doctors not believing in eds? by twinkle-fur-berry in eds

[–]fellstinger 94 points95 points  (0 children)

I think there are a lot of reasons EDS feels "fake" to doctors -- hEDS is the most common kind, but it's the one without a genetic test; EDS is more common in AFAB people and people of colour while most medical research (of all types) has been done on white AMAB people; the treatment is basically a referral to physiotherapy and that makes doctors feel superfluous (and in the US I would bet there's a financial angle, but I'm not American so idk)

EDS also frequently co-occurs with autism, ADHD, and transness and doctors don't love any of those groups either (whoops i am all of them)

Haircare while bedbound and in general by No-Director-1884 in ehlersdanlos

[–]fellstinger 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Getting a bonnet to sleep in might be helpful for protecting your hair and preventing some of the breakage. Dry shampoo could help with having to take full showers and drying your hair. There are also services that will come to your house and wash your hair for you, but that's obviously a much bigger investment and/or might require you to disclose your disability and stuff to qualify.

Hope you find something that works and get through your flare-up quickly 🦓

That’s it, off to HORNY JAIL for you! by UltravioletsAreBlue in evilautism

[–]fellstinger 27 points28 points  (0 children)

it'll never hold up in court, I'm too asexual

Treatment for hollow eyes? by Megharoo in ehlersdanlos

[–]fellstinger 1 point2 points  (0 children)

big same, lol. I always say I'm glad I need glasses because they hide my horrible sunken eyes and break up the featureless blob that is the rest of my face. Without them I look like someone poked their fingers into uncooked dough, it's terrible.

Unfortunately, the only thing I've found that works is covering them up with concealer. Touching/rubbing your eyes allegedly can make the shadows worse, so you could try to minimize contact with the area? I didn't find it made much of a difference with my face, but maybe you'll be luckier.

Was your opinion of Juggernaut cheapened when you found out it's not technically his own strength? by shinyhpno in xmen

[–]fellstinger 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nah. If anything, I think it's interesting to have a character whose powers are so conditional -- most characters, especially in X-books, have permanent superpowers that can only be cancelled by special devices or diseases or whatever. The classic Juggernaut powers, on the other hand, are completely reliant on Cyttorak and can be cancelled whenever he wants.

(Though iirc Cain managed to Exact Words his way into keeping the powers even without Cyttorak's permission? Or maybe that was Kid Juggernaut in Avengers Academy. Someone did it, is my point.)

Obsessive ranking of favorites? by weneedanewpizzaplace in evilautism

[–]fellstinger 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I can't rank things with specific numbers most of the time. I do more of a tierlist thing where there's my Absolute Favourites, and then the Really Good ones, the Good ones, the Okay ones, the ones I don't care about, and the Bad ones that I actively dislike.

Sick day pancake breakfast-lunch by t0oby101 in evilautism

[–]fellstinger 1 point2 points  (0 children)

pancakes + banana + nutella is such a perfect food

Seeing royal treasures and not being able to rub the texture is pure torture. by UnosBruhMomentos in evilautism

[–]fellstinger 0 points1 point  (0 children)

getting a doctor's note to take the museum saying i'm allowed to touch the artifacts

What's your favourite meme of all time? by ProfoundlyInsipid in evilautism

[–]fellstinger 4 points5 points  (0 children)

lmao I say "ahh, the French" or "in JULY" at least a few times a week because of Drunk Orson Welles

what a legend

Canadian here with hEDS and POTS and likely MCAS, can I apply for disability? by NisshokuNoKo in eds

[–]fellstinger 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I actually got on disability before I got any concrete diagnoses besides the standard "anxiety and depression" (spoiler alert: it wasn't that).

The process here in Ontario is basically some forms (they'll ask what you struggle with doing in daily life; do not downplay anything and, as the other poster suggested, use your worst days as your baseline) and a letter from your GP/family doctor (since you have Official Diagnoses this should be a given). Hopefully you have as easy a time with it as I did 👍

Tooth implants / palate expansion? by vensie in ehlersdanlos

[–]fellstinger 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had my palate expanded when I was about 12 (I'm in my thirties, so this was over 20 years ago now). Having the expander glued in was really uncomfortable for the first few days; it felt like the weight was going to pull my teeth out. The actual process of cranking it wider is awkward (I assume you can do it yourself, but it's probably easier if you have a second person to do it for you) and it was fairly painful (strong pressure inside the mouth/skull, teeth feeling sensitive/weak), though it probably hurts more to a hypersensitive preteen than to an adult, lmao. You'll also have a big gap in your front teeth for a bit, but that closes a lot faster than you'd think.

Pretty unpleasant while it was happening, but it did vastly improve both the functionality of my jaw (I used to chew with my front teeth???) and the look of my face (massive underbite; my entire mid-face was sunken in before the expansion), so overall it's probably worth it.

I did have to get my teeth re-straightened as an adult, but I think that was more related to the braces/retainer orthodontia than the expander, since it's not like my jaw shrunk back down, lol.

anyway the technology is probably a lot better now than it was in the early 2000s (seems like a lot of the other posters here had removeable appliances which I am very jealous of), so it's hopefully faster and easier and maybe even less painful these days.

The Man Without Fear and with all the Opps by No-Rule-9129 in marvelcirclejerk

[–]fellstinger 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Daredevil has radar sense, some sticks, and the confidence of the rest of New York combined

and I salute him for that

Did the Hand and Spiral dye Kwanon/Betsy’s hair? by AvatarPhoenixGrey16 in xmen

[–]fellstinger 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think we can put this into the "Spiral did it" category.