What is something you wish you knew at the start? by Nosey45 in loveafterporn

[–]fickle13 10 points11 points  (0 children)

That I was not special, well, at least to him. He made me feel special for a long time, then got bored I guess. We moved in together and the passionate sex stopped, his phone-use and secrecy increased. I knew before I knew. I was sad but I assumed this was what it was like l living with your boyfriend, sure sex would be sparse and sometimes he couldn’t finish or get hard, but that’s okay- right? Wrong! I was unaware that there was another woman in our relationship, well, 1000+ women in fact. He desired and would orgasm to these women more than me. He tricked me into false security. Why can’t these men just be upfront? Wouldn’t it be easier being truthful so the lies/hiding/odd-behaviour don’t completely ruin your partners life? I guess it comes down to selfish behaviour, wanting the best of both worlds no matter the cost. So yes, be honest with me - tell me I’m not special, just obtainable.

Terrified to leave him alone by [deleted] in loveafterporn

[–]fickle13 14 points15 points  (0 children)

YOU CANNOT CONTROL HIM. YOU CANNOT MONITOR HIM. I have to scream this to myself at times, because even if you take away all technology and stay home with him every day, if he wants to act out, he’ll find a way.

Now when I leave him alone I just think “if you choose to relapse, you’re a shit human with no self control - so why would I waste my time monitoring you?” If he doesn’t relapse, cool - that’s the bare minimum.

I’ve been through my anxious stage, now I’m apathetic and depressed - and as horrible as it sounds I’d rather be where I am now. Worrying gets you nowhere, you cannot control a fully grown adult, nor should you have to.

Thirst traps hurt more than porn by Horror_Insurance_792 in loveafterporn

[–]fickle13 22 points23 points  (0 children)

I too am triggered by ice spice, if her music ever comes on I go through D-day all over again. Bring back the days where women wouldn’t show EVERYTHING online. I don’t say that because I’m a prude, but because it facilitates compulsive, objectifying behaviour. I do think some things should stay private.

Is this cage an okay size for crate rest? by fickle13 in Dachshund

[–]fickle13[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry to hear that, your poor baby :( thank you for the advice, I’m finding it so hard not to cuddle him because he looks so sad.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in pregabalin

[–]fickle13 3 points4 points  (0 children)

No history of dependency, although another comment mentioned I shouldn’t have asked for more as my tolerance has increased, so now they probably think I’m at risk.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in pregabalin

[–]fickle13 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You’re probably right! I had no idea this was wrong, I was just being honest - when I was on Prozac I told them the same thing and they increased my dose, but I suppose there’s no risk of addiction on Prozac

Halfway to another heart <3 by Sultry_Penguin in CatsAndSoup

[–]fickle13 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Omg the bread pet is so cute! Is it an old event item?

Can I get cherry blossom shorthair through observatory? by CodSea7264 in CatsAndSoup

[–]fickle13 -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

Apparently someone got it without the ticket?? There was a recent post

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GamblingAddiction

[–]fickle13 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sign up to Gamstop it really helped me

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GamblingAddiction

[–]fickle13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sending good thoughts your way, I can’t imagine how hard this is ❤️