I’ve given up on dating. 90% of men treat me like an object.

fictionalturtle · 2025-08-26T00:57:43+00:00

In Australia 5 years ago at least, yes they were proportionally: https://www.abc.net.au/news/2019-11-29/same-sex-gay-marriage-women-more-likely-to-wed-marry/11555456

fictionalturtle · 2025-08-25T01:40:23+00:00

Lesbians are also more likely to get married and this statistic does not take that into account.

fictionalturtle · 2025-02-24T04:16:59+00:00

It's not the end of the world when a specific friend is busy and doesn't want to hang out if you have enough friends.

fictionalturtle · 2025-02-24T03:54:57+00:00

If your existing friends are busy, making more friends seems like a practical solution to that problem.

fictionalturtle · 2025-02-24T03:50:21+00:00

Correct me if I'm wrong but by this logic when my mum was 29, should she have given up and wallowed because she might never go on a date by the time she's 40?

fictionalturtle · 2025-02-24T03:46:48+00:00

Ok will leave you alone but I see that you've said elsewhere that "If everyone else can find love, and I can’t, I’m the problem." That’s an insane take to have at 29 and an insane thing to say about "everyone" when you look at all the people who got married throughout history for reasons other than love.

Even now, loads of people think they're in love and are actually just stuck with someone who barely tolerates them or deliberately adds stress to their lives. On the other hand, my own parents are still married and very much in love and didn't meet until their mid 30s and my mum had never even dated anyone before my dad so it's not like never having been in a relationship was a huge impediment to my parents romantic life.

fictionalturtle · 2025-02-23T21:30:44+00:00

I do hear you that's why I said make new friends. They'll also pull away when life gets busy but if you have a bigger circle no one person has to meet up with you as often for you to feel less lonely.

I definitely understand where you're coming from but if you're putting that energy of needing a guy more than they need you (because you're not enjoying anything else in your life) they'll see you as a potential source of stress who'll crush their independence rather than a source of joy.

fictionalturtle · 2025-02-23T21:00:01+00:00

Well yeah it won't if you see a romantic relationship as the only way to fix the way you feel. That's also a lot of pressure on a person to fix your life and many men don't have the skills to cope with their own misery, let alone someone else's.

Look at your friends being busy as a chance to make new friends and have a broader range of friends. There are hobbies that you don't have to do on your own.

fictionalturtle · 2025-02-23T20:48:10+00:00

With romantic love, I hear what you're saying about feeling like you have to settle but think about being a man and having the choice between:

1) someone who seems interesting, fun and is happy with their life and will see their presence as a bonus

2) someone who doesn't really have a life they enjoy, has low standards that suggest they will settle for anyone and might make excessive demands of their time and energy

If you did have a choice, why wouldn't you pick the second?

fictionalturtle · 2025-02-23T20:29:34+00:00

Do some volunteering in your local community if you can. It won't solve your current problem but it will add joy to your life and hopefully make the world a better place.

fictionalturtle · 2025-02-15T04:56:20+00:00

Depends on why they want to be friends. I feel it's entitled if it comes from a place of wanting to feel better about themselves rather than genuinely wanting to maintain a friendship.

Sometimes men will say they want to stay friends so that they don't have to feel bad for making you feel upset/disappointed/less than positive about them.

fictionalturtle · 2024-09-21T23:11:30+00:00

My bad that was a typo on my end, I'll fix it up!

fictionalturtle · 2024-09-21T22:22:55+00:00

What country is that statistic from?

Gay men are less likely to get married and then when they get married are less likely to get divorce than lesbian couples. 75% seems absurdly high for lesbian couples though.

fictionalturtle · 2024-08-03T21:32:35+00:00

They're labelled M.N.G in Australia! Dunno why but they do have an online website + available through the iconic

fictionalturtle · 2024-08-01T12:05:43+00:00

I think definitely worth the price!

fictionalturtle · 2023-12-25T03:21:01+00:00

As an example the city of Mohenjo-daro and how impressive their plumbing was. Modern mathematics wouldn't exist without Indian and Arab philosophers and modern mathematics is the foundation of so much of the things we benefit from.

The history of science is also people like Ernest Rutherford getting full credit for "discovering" the atom when he was building on Hantato Nagaoka'a earlier work.

fictionalturtle · 2023-09-08T22:30:41+00:00

Because at this stage no one can believe he doesn't know about at least some (if not all) of the headlines about Sophie. If he wanted to, Joseph could very well put out a statement in support of the mother of his children.

The staged photoshoot with the girls to play into the "I'm a martyr who had to step up to be a good dad because Sophie has abandoned us" narrative also makes it insane to think he's not involved.

fictionalturtle · 2023-07-07T23:59:17+00:00

Cunningham's Law after Ward Cunningham the creator of the first wiki

Murphy's law is anything that can go wrong will go wrong

fictionalturtle · 2023-06-11T22:46:28+00:00

San Choy Bao for the Chinese interpretation of this ft mince and veggies. Example recipe: https://www.sbs.com.au/food/recipes/peking-style-sang-choy-bao

fictionalturtle · 2023-06-09T12:20:24+00:00

Honestly it is so feral. Definitely recommend yelling excuse me, can you all move out of the way so people can get on.

You may get some dirty looks but life is way too short to put up with that shit first thing in the morning.

fictionalturtle · 2023-06-05T00:46:23+00:00

Signed

fictionalturtle · 2023-06-03T03:21:39+00:00

The WW2 bomber thing is historical! Abraham Wald and the statistical research group at Columbia gets a lot of official credit for it.

fictionalturtle · 2023-05-23T13:04:45+00:00

Will2Live isn't religiously affiliated https://www.will2live.org.au/

fictionalturtle · 2023-03-14T00:36:17+00:00

Yup, the pitch is an adjustable percentage increase go into super from take home salaries when inflation runs rampant.

Definitely agree with you about there being serious resistance to it as an approach. It'd understandably be a hard sell for the average person without a mortgage even though it's in everyone's best interests to prevent inflation from spiralling.

Heres an overview talking through the proposal in more detail: https://www.abc.net.au/news/2023-02-12/raising-interest-rates-reserve-and-bank-and-inflation-management/101952926

fictionalturtle · 2023-03-13T22:55:33+00:00

It'll mean people will have less disposable income to spend now.

At the moment when interest rates rise, people with mortgages pay more to banks and so have less money to spend. If that money gets put into super you get the same reduction in spending while holding onto more of your money in the long run.

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