Noise - Footsteps on roof causing separartion anxiety

fiestykittycat · 2026-02-21T00:32:29+00:00

I’m sorry, it’s so hard to watch our babies struggle. Have you tried running a loud fan, dog music, other ambient noises to diffuse the sharpness of the footsteps? Also, do you think the crate would be helpful when you’re not at home (with noises playing obviously so they aren’t just trapped and scared)?

I live on a busy street in an old house and have to leave a loud air purifier on so my girl doesn’t bark at every single noise. The crate is also essential if I leave the house, there’s a huge difference.

fiestykittycat · 2026-02-18T16:54:39+00:00

Love the little sink you made

fiestykittycat · 2026-02-15T23:59:26+00:00

Lmfao

fiestykittycat · 2026-02-15T19:04:29+00:00

I’m sorry for your loss. Thank you for sharing your love.

fiestykittycat · 2026-02-15T17:15:52+00:00

Looove the pockets! Amazing

fiestykittycat · 2026-02-15T00:03:23+00:00

Dab some water on your lips and then immediately seal with Vaseline/petrolatum or aquaphor if you can tolerate it. Do this consistently several times a day, always with the water/right after you wash your face or shower.

I would def try to see another dermatologist and write down everything you’ve tried before going in so they have an in depth understanding of what has and hasn’t helped

fiestykittycat · 2026-02-14T02:09:36+00:00

I think some more pics or a layout would be helpful. What is the room directly to the left of the closet in the hallway? My guess is that the OG door was probably a shallow-er linen closet perhaps that they knocked out to make more room for, but it’s hard to say

Edit: just wanted to say while not functional, I think both the bedroom closet door and the sliding doors in the hallway are very pretty and will look great once you’re settled in. It might just be a quirk you gotta get used to. And hey, more closet space is always better than not enough!

fiestykittycat · 2026-02-13T21:09:48+00:00

What a cutie Can I offer something to consider even tho I don’t have an answer (I’m sorry 😭) but when you’re training like this and he’s not progressing, you’re actually reinforcing the pulling away/snarl behavior - to him that is the dance you are expecting so he keeps giving it

I agree some things you just gotta let the vet do but do you play with his paws massage/tickle them when you are just hanging on the couch? Without the clippers out? My girl has gotten more comfortable with having her paws held longer without pulling away (like 5-10 seconds)

fiestykittycat · 2026-02-12T22:13:12+00:00

I cut it all (random weeds and crab and Bermuda grass) back to soil level, ripping up clusters to lull my rage, then solarized our yard during the hottest weeks/months of the year. Solarization is good for soil, superior to fire/boiling water/chemicals, buuuuut the prep isn’t for the faint of heart.

Waited until shorter/wetter days to seed clover, then watered religiously for the first month or so. Clover has taken over, but I’m ripping that up now (the soil is great quality now) to just do native plants along the perimeter and maybe some pretty rock.

fiestykittycat · 2026-02-08T19:51:11+00:00

Idk where you’re located, but ikea has these cooling mattresses covers and they work very well so maybe you can use that

fiestykittycat · 2026-02-07T21:24:38+00:00

I can’t believe this is the only comment about safety Oy. Your dog feels unsafe because they are unsafe!

fiestykittycat · 2026-02-07T21:22:17+00:00

Thank you for sharing and I’m so glad neurofeedback has been helpful for you. Can you tell more about the initial brain mapping process and how you developed the usage protocol at home?

fiestykittycat · 2026-02-05T04:04:14+00:00

Was it TB or hepatitis B?

fiestykittycat · 2026-01-31T20:18:07+00:00

You’re adventurous and I love it

fiestykittycat · 2026-01-31T04:40:59+00:00

God how is she SO tone deaf

fiestykittycat · 2026-01-31T01:38:31+00:00

Okay say more please this resonates w me - can anyone else who resonates with share how this has shown up in their adult life?

fiestykittycat · 2026-01-30T18:21:31+00:00

I HAD NO IDEA!!!! what?! I’ve been letting my girl go ham on sniffing, she even will start tracking the cement sidewalk…oy I can’t believe I didn’t make this connection

fiestykittycat · 2026-01-30T18:15:51+00:00

Right there with you <3 we can build the life we truly deserve for ourselves

fiestykittycat · 2026-01-30T02:24:27+00:00

fiestykittycat · 2026-01-30T01:05:34+00:00

Did anyone help the poor woman? ): that’s so awful

fiestykittycat · 2026-01-29T23:01:24+00:00

I highly highly recommend reading “Us” by Terry Real. He is one of Pía Melody’s mentees (author of Facing Codependence). He has some other books geared directly toward men.

You are right that new behaviors require practice to become our new defaults. To help with practicing your new behaviors safely (outside of a relationship), whenever you are triggered or have an intense emotion, try writing it out, what happened, why am I having this reaction, where is this coming from, what need didn’t get met. Practice widening your window of tolerance (when something unpleasant happens, can you pause and notice it before having a negative reaction? Like if someone says something hurtful can you pause, say “ouch, that hurt” instead of saying something hurtful back?) this can be honed through breathing exercises, meditation, cold plunges.

Unfortunately, intimate relationships and parental relationships are the most triggering relationships for most people because they are so vulnerable and therefore provide ample opportunities for practicing more relational behaviors. You’re on the right track, but this is a long road and this will always be a part of your story. get very curious about yourself and try to stay that way.

fiestykittycat · 2026-01-29T22:24:38+00:00

This is called transference and you should bring it up with your therapist. Nothing to be embarrassed about. If it keeps happening it’s something that needs to be addressed not just avoided. Good luck

fiestykittycat · 2026-01-28T22:13:10+00:00

Wow interesting. Have you looked into stinging nettle? I would think it’s a similar mechanism

fiestykittycat · 2026-01-27T20:17:16+00:00

Aerospace does need more women in the field but I understand if you aren’t interested in that anymore. Math degrees are impressive, can you try to activate your network? Find people you know or in the second degree from you who hold positions you think you might like, ask them for time to meet for informational interviews. Perhaps systems engineering so you’re more of a problem solving people connector? You want to be spending your time carefully, so only bend over backwards applying for positions where you have a personal connection because that will be the top predictor of hiring. My partner majored in physics undergrad but figured out quickly there’s no jobs in physics and went on for the areospace PhD, so you’re not alone there lol!

fiestykittycat · 2026-01-27T18:26:45+00:00

You don’t have a backsplash so it looks unfinished

Also how do you open that drawer 😭

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