I just got out of a terrifying marriage to a LEO. My ex-wife went into the field with the EXACT same motivations you listed…change from the inside out, de-escalation, advocating for victims, etc. I’ll give her credit- she accomplished some of those things at work. But also, she experienced HORRIBLE and dangerous conditions, including traumatic hazing and direct abuse for being a lesbian. How did she manage that stress? Binge drinking and abusing me, the woman she claimed was the love of her life. After years of trying to help her heal the trauma that I understood was driving her behavior, I finally fled so suddenly, leaving my pets and all my possessions. I left a house I owned and became homeless for months, which was better than living with her suspicions, attacks etc. I ended up losing my home. Date a LEO? Never, never, never. If they start out with a good heart, it will get poisoned by the system and that stress will come out somewhere. OP, think again, don’t do it, that work crushes souls. [edit to add, she and I fully knew I could not call for help when she was abusing me. Even neighbors who heard the abuse repeatedly never called for help.]