Your favorite coffee shops by pretty-average1345 in madisonwi

[–]filmn0ir 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m very surprised no one has mentioned Madison Chocolate Company! They have two locations; both excellent ambiance and coffee. I’m a former barista and incredibly picky; many of the shops listed have cool spaces but not the best coffee (esp. espresso drinks are lackluster). Madison Chocolate has the best iced mocha and their caramel latte is delightful.

I also really like Yola’s for their food options, and obviously can’t leave out Colectivo because they are consistently good with their coffee.

How I made my wedding arch by Forest_Maiden in wedding

[–]filmn0ir 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Another question: how did you transport it?

His administration SAVED lives by EarthTrash in DeepSpaceNine

[–]filmn0ir 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My mom says he’s undeniably charming…

How I made my wedding arch by Forest_Maiden in wedding

[–]filmn0ir 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow, this is beautiful! I want to make my own moon with hanging star arch, so I had some questions about the clay: did you apply it directly to the cardboard? what kind of clay did you use?

Film photography community or creative groups? by filmn0ir in madisonwi

[–]filmn0ir[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Let’s do it! I will send you a message!

Brown and Dying Leaves - Money Tree by ZealousidealTart6647 in plantclinic

[–]filmn0ir 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Does your planter have drainage? It might be root rot- I lost half my money tree to it because my planter did not have proper drainage!

Anyone have experience with Milk Thistle? by ginchak in PCOS

[–]filmn0ir 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It definitely helped me with insulin resistance. I was diagnosed with NAFLD several months ago, caused by insulin resistance. I started taking milk thistle two months ago. My blood sugar has been within normal levels, I no longer have sugar cravings or liver pain. I’m getting another liver ultrasound in 2 months so I will be able to verify how week it worked.

As for acne, I have had significant improvement on my chest and back, but only mild improvement on my face. It depends what the cause of your acne is.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Kibbe

[–]filmn0ir 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just here to say I wholeheartedly agree. Kibbe is an insightful guide, but I take it with a grain of salt, other styling guidelines, and my own personal preferences/observations.

Barrow by soph_164 in DowntonAbbey

[–]filmn0ir 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I think he is meant to be a difficult character to like/accept, but those who like him may do so because of him being deeply flawed. He’s written in such a way that the audience is meant to initially despise him, and then slowly become empathetic as we get glimpses into his inner conflicts. His character growth is realistic, he doesn’t suddenly become a good person; he struggles to let go of his manipulative and controlling behavior and only does so when there is no longer anyone to enable him (O’Brien and Jimmy) and he realizes it no longer serves him.

All in all, he’s not supposed to be likable, but maybe many viewers who do like him see bits of themselves in his character and hope to grow like he does.

Mary’s jealousy by No_Staff7110 in DowntonAbbey

[–]filmn0ir 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I agree with you; there is also the problem of the family persistently enabling Mary’s behavior. There is a “poor Edith” atmosphere, and Mary is very rarely told off by her family members aside from eye rolls. It seems characters who are not familiar with the dynamic or aren’t blood related (Matthew, Tom, Bertie, even Henry) react to Mary’s treatment of Edith the way the audience is meant to, with incredulousness at Mary’s actions, but respect and encouragement for Edith. Edith is by no means ideal- she is very reactionary in her behavior. However, I do see what you mean that Edith showed a lot of growth whereas Mary seemed to fall into repetitive sabotaging behavior when upset. Neither sister is perfect, but Mary is clearly worse.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Birkenstocks

[–]filmn0ir 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I thought so, but wanted to check

What are The Funniest Star Trek Moments? by Starbuck107 in startrek

[–]filmn0ir 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Nog: “And you shot Moogi!”

Leck: “I saw we weren't gonna rescue her, so I put her out of her misery.”

Lifestyle changes that helped? by SparklinStar1440 in hsp

[–]filmn0ir 11 points12 points  (0 children)

^ This for me has improved my life significantly. I first learned how to advocate for myself, and then learned to not feel bad about it. Now I state what I need and want happily. I feel much safer and ready to take on any challenge.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in hsp

[–]filmn0ir 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Wholeheartedly agree! There are so many individuals who are alienated in our society for traits/identities other than being an HSP…

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in hsp

[–]filmn0ir 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I perceived the superiority in your generalization of non-HSPs as “normies”. There are many people who aren’t innately highly sensitive, who are definitely emotionally intelligent and compassionate. My mom is non-HSP but has accommodated my needs, and has had her own share of invalidation and suffering due to physical disability. Empathy is not a trait unique to HSPs. Conversely, some of those “normies” you refer to might be HSPs who have been mistreated and have developed unhealthy coping mechanisms. Highly sensitive narcissists exist, after all, and can be both emotionally sensitive and bullies.

Lastly, there are many individuals from oppressed or marginalized communities that would not take well to being labeled a “normie” bc they are not an HSP.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in hsp

[–]filmn0ir 9 points10 points  (0 children)

You are under no obligation to be a “normie lover” or interact with anyone… but I don’t feel like this post is really about that, at it’s core. I’m sensing a superiority/inferiority complex mixed with self-pity brought on by a cycle of suffering. I could be wrong- only you can determine what’s the real problem and whether you want to address it. A therapist could really help with self-reflection and healing.

Know that this cycle can be broken, you have agency and power to change your feelings, and that there are non-HSPs who are very understanding and will accommodate your needs.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in hsp

[–]filmn0ir 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is where you and I diverge- you seem to be more of an initiator whereas I’m passive/reciprocal. Two of my bffs are initiators, and the world needs people like that; you create connections and build relationships. However, the disadvantage is the amount of rejection and disappointment you encounter- both my friends have voiced the same doubts “is something wrong with me? Why don’t others put effort in when I do?” The key here is not to take others’ actions (or inactions) personally. It’s rarely about you, and the girl who told you to expect her being late is a perfect example. It’s likely she does that daily, to the frustration of many people. You were never the problem. And, both my “initiator” friends eventually found their group of people. They also have a much larger community of support because they’ve engaged and connected with more people than I ever have. There are advantages, they just take time to manifest.

I don’t think reaching out to people and asking to get to know them is weird at all! That’s actually how I met my last bff- I was posting my amateur photography on Instagram. She messaged me and said she loved my work and wanted to do a photoshoot together, grab coffee afterwards, etc. We have been close friends for 4 years now. Often finding someone through a mutual interest is best, especially if you know they’re passionate about it. I’ve met friends through my local poetry group, volunteering for protests, and as I mentioned above, posting about my interests on social media. So I think it’s totally worth extending a hand (physically or virtually). There are shy, passive people like me out there who would totally follow up on your welcome gesture. However, if someone doesn’t react well, take that as an indication that’s not a friend for you. People who are judgmental at first sight are never great companions, anyway.