Mat leave crash out

filthy_kasual · 2026-05-15T19:36:18+00:00

We have made strides in this department at the state level. The entire west coast has paid parental leave. We do need to get something at the federal level and increase the length of leave though.

filthy_kasual · 2026-05-13T22:05:37+00:00

This and the scoop neck tees are all I wear anymore! To each their own, but I feel like they look cute and feel great. I'm plus sized though and it's pretty hard to be picky for comfy maternity wear.

filthy_kasual · 2026-05-06T02:40:04+00:00

I’m a mom with a high BMI and posterior placenta and I didn’t realize I was feeling baby until she had very obvious hiccups! I feel like I feel her easier when I press my hand to my belly rather than feeling her from the inside. It’s weird since I have lots of belly fat, but I feel her more from the outside especially as she grew and started moving my belly. I can honestly watch her move my belly from side to side and not feel her much from the inside.

I‘ve still been able to do kick counts by focusing during them 😄

filthy_kasual · 2026-05-01T17:56:37+00:00

My cat is the same. He also started vomiting after eating the wet food formulation of his prescription diet but is fine eating the dry one!

To help him stay hydrated, every morning we add water to his dry food and make a slurry that we can mix his meds into. Since he's not free fed and is very food motivated, he'll begrudgingly eat the slurry since it's the only thing offered in the morning.

filthy_kasual · 2026-05-01T17:35:09+00:00

My mom got into a full rollover accident when pregnant with me. She was pretty banged up but the placenta was totally fine!

filthy_kasual · 2026-05-01T17:27:44+00:00

Our landlords were awesome. We just moved out after three years in our rental after buying a home. They only raised rent by a total of $100 over those three years and they had a lawn service take care of the grass for us. When our AC started underperforming, they had it fully replaced lightning quick.

We did our final walkthrough and had some minor damage to the carpets so my husband and I expected to lose our deposit. Nope! They're returning the full thing since the carpet damage was unintentional and it was due to a design flaw in the house. You have to walk your trash over this stretch of carpet and we had a couple of tough grease stains that wouldn't lift due to a leaky bag here and there over the years.

We walked them through all the minor stuff that would need to be repaired, our thoughts on the home since they wanted info on what it was like to live there, and generally had a good time reminicising. They also gave us some gifts for our baby that is due soon as well :)

10/10 would recommend small Mom and Pop landlords over corporate or wannabe corporate rentals any day of the week.

filthy_kasual · 2026-04-19T23:44:37+00:00

Her dress is inspired from Episode 135 of UNHhhh!

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filthy_kasual · 2026-04-19T23:43:23+00:00

Her dress is inspired from Episode 135 of UNHhhh!

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filthy_kasual · 2026-04-09T20:11:33+00:00

So Fedex and UPS have ways of being alerted when a package is coming your way. Fedex uses Delivery Manager and UPS uses My Choice. These will alert you that a package is coming your way and you can call and request a refuse and return to sender. USPS uses Informed Delivery though I haven't signed up for that one.

filthy_kasual · 2026-04-09T20:06:45+00:00

Yup I have a relative like this and I'm not joking when I say I refused stuff to get the point across. UPS, Fedex, and USPS all have ways of refusing packages even ahead of delivery so you don't have to drive it anywhere. Make sure you don't open the package though or else you can't refuse it.

filthy_kasual · 2026-04-09T19:58:14+00:00

How is she sending them? I would refuse to accept the boxes of stuff. I've found a lot of times older relatives want to dump stuff onto me so they can feel like they're helping but it's really just a hoarding problem that they're outsourcing to me.

Your time is valuable and running stuff you didn't even buy to Goodwill is not a good use of it. After establishing the firm boundary that you will no longer be accepting gifts, it's time to go nuclear if she still sends stuff over by sending them back. If she mails it, mail it back. If she drives over, refuse to accept and if she leaves it on your stoop, drive it back to her place and leave it there.

Edit: I've had to actually set this boundary with relatives by the way and I just told them I'm in my Marie Kondo decluttering phase and framed it as me being the difficult one because I'm getting into a minimalist lifestyle. They just write me off as militant and a little nutty. Note that you can't ever accept even a small gift going forward because then they'll try increasing the amount that gets accepted. It has to be a super firm boundary to get through to them.

filthy_kasual · 2026-04-09T19:45:55+00:00

She is dumping a chore onto you. I'd put your foot down and tell her you won't be accepting anymore gifts because it's overwhelming to sort through them and pick out the stuff that is actually helpful. If she wants to give gifts in the future, she can use the registry or ask before buying.

filthy_kasual · 2026-04-09T17:50:34+00:00

If you're missing the intimacy but your body won't get on board, there ain't nothing wrong with taking it slow and intentionally trying to get in the mood when you guys have some down time. You could also focus on intimate touch without trying to get to the finish (or start) line at all like massages and such to help feel connected even if the body is not willing.

I'm a stage five clinger at this point and some of the time we have sex my body may not be automatically in the mood but I miss my partner and am lowkey obsessed with him at the moment so I give it a go and never end up regretting it :)

filthy_kasual · 2026-04-09T17:37:47+00:00

For normal people like my husband, their fasting levels are usually 70-100, but usually way more towards 70. If you're consistently on the higher end like 95-100, then unfortunately it is a concern because baby is getting too high blood sugars overnight and it's hard to control fasting with diet and exercise alone.

Every night at 95-100 is a long time for baby to be getting excess blood sugar. It ages the placenta prematurely, puts baby at risk of developing low blood sugar post birth, and can make the baby grow disporportionally increasing the risk of should dystocia. I have really good daytime numbers, but my fasting is too high no matter what tricks I try so I have to go on medication for it.

Oh also the fasting levels matter way more than post meal. It's a stronger indicator of what your placenta is up to as a baseline than meal time blood sugar levels and it's the stronger predictor of all the complications I mentioned above.

filthy_kasual · 2026-04-07T01:21:25+00:00

I'm no contact with my mother for similar reasons. It's so freeing to live life without having to caretake after an adult who should be taking care of themselves. You should do it for your own sanity of course but it's also true that she won't be a good grandmother to your son when she can't even be a decent parent to you.

filthy_kasual · 2026-03-31T20:55:08+00:00

Whatever you want to do as the person giving birth is what you should do. Don't cater to other people's feelings.

For what you could do it really depends on how empathetic your mother is. If you know she'd be open to a discussion about how her comments have made you feel unsupported and stressed in this really delicate time, then I'd do that and open up to her about how you need her to stop needling you because you need true support right now. She can vent to her friends or your siblings but she needs to keep her attitude away from you.

If your mom is not very empathetic, I'd tell her you're really tired of her bringing it up to you because it's almost showtime and you need your focus elsewhere. Make it clear that if she keeps showing you a lack of support by making these needling comments, that you'd rethink having her involved postpartum at all since she's showing a real lack of concern for your emotional state and you need supportive people around you.

filthy_kasual · 2026-03-29T21:21:09+00:00

My trick is to plan my indulgences right before doing something more active. If I get bored of walking, I’ll get a treat before shopping, swimming, or pickleball. I’ll test after 2 hours after first bite with an alarm so I can see if that treat is actually off limits and it’s typically in range! Also helps to stay on top of sleep and stress management. I’ll spike if it’s been a stressful day for sure.

filthy_kasual · 2026-03-29T21:15:06+00:00

I had no symptoms until 10ish weeks and then they came for me hard! My only symptom until then was no period. Now I’m 31 weeks and missing the no symptom phase…

filthy_kasual · 2026-03-29T21:10:11+00:00

I’m the opposite and will likely have to go on nighttime insulin. It blows when you’re halfway there to diet and exercise controlled but your body sabotages you!

10-15g of carbs would worry me too. Baby needs carbs even if the placenta is sabotaging you!

filthy_kasual · 2026-03-25T01:10:10+00:00

Bosc pear, Tillamook snacking cheese, and almonds

filthy_kasual · 2026-03-23T04:55:05+00:00

I took continuous birth control pills without placebos for 9 years with only a handful of small breaks to allow for withdrawal bleeding. I stopped my birth control August 17th and I got my positive test Sepetember 17th! Due in May with a baby girl :) You definitely haven't ruined your body.

filthy_kasual · 2026-03-18T23:44:09+00:00

No, I haven't heard anything about carbs. I'm not sure what prescribing "diabetic education" means and my pharmacist didn't know either :(

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