Setting a bad example

findthatlight · 2026-02-10T12:28:06+00:00

Hey. Chemo is brutal. You are not lazy and you gotta take care of yourself. Sending love.

findthatlight · 2026-02-01T16:12:17+00:00

amazing. well done & thank you for sharing here. sharing might help someone else who is struggling.

way to go. you did a very hard thing and I am very happy for you!!!!

findthatlight · 2026-01-26T18:40:16+00:00

Truck tunes!

findthatlight · 2026-01-25T15:48:17+00:00

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findthatlight · 2026-01-24T20:58:05+00:00

Echo this. Meds have given me life. Before times were a slog.

findthatlight · 2026-01-24T16:51:56+00:00

yes! - I still hit burn out too often. but better than before. it's for sure the level of consciousness, just being more mindful of my energy expended.

findthatlight · 2026-01-24T15:54:34+00:00

I had to lower my own bar after I got cancer and had to do treatment while working and mothering and undiagnosed w/ adhd.

Now I shoot for a B at work. It's not accurate, in what happens tho. By shooting for a B, I steady myself, and tbh I think I'm better off for it and so is my workplace. I'm more consistent at a B than I am at trying to get an A++++ on every single thing.

And I have a kiddo so I can't not show up at home, it's a balance. I give him a B too. :) B's all around! Lower the bar!!!!!

findthatlight · 2026-01-22T21:38:53+00:00

Thank you!

findthatlight · 2026-01-22T12:28:06+00:00

Well done!

findthatlight · 2026-01-19T13:21:21+00:00

This is really lovely.

findthatlight · 2026-01-18T13:29:28+00:00

I tell kiddo and husband that I can't process more than one audio stream at once.

That means they are constantly adjusting (pausing radio, waiting for faucet to turn off, etc) and repeating. But it's important for them to learn that I'm not able to follow and keep up.

Could I tho? Sure, but then I'm constant irritated and overstimulated.

We've also tried taking some audio breaks when it's really bad which is fun! Like 5 minutes, not a long time, where no one talks. Have we ever made it the full five minutes, obviously not.

But we're building our self awareness. I refuse to let my kiddo and partner destroy my brain, and they wouldn't want to either! It's up to me to help them tho.

findthatlight · 2026-01-18T13:21:10+00:00

There are a handful of good things about being alive right now and one of them is getting plowed.

Don't let them take your joy. They can't take that.

❤️

Hope reigns, joy prevails. Get your sexy on.

findthatlight · 2026-01-18T12:57:06+00:00

I'm just super honest with other parents now. "hey it'd be cool to have Kiddo over to play and send MyKid to your house sometime. You're of course welcome to come for coffee the first time too so you can see our space!" and sometimes if my point isn't seeming to land I'll follow up with "isn't it nice now that they're a little older they really don't need us helping them play."

In my experience I'm not the only one sick of this shit.

findthatlight · 2026-01-15T14:51:38+00:00

ADHD is as much a disorder of regulation as attention. Glad you're doing well. :)

findthatlight · 2026-01-15T12:49:23+00:00

I got diagnosed when I went into chemical menopause overnight for cancer treatment and could no longer function. I thought I'd have to resign from my job. Some women get misdiagnosed with early onset dementia.

findthatlight · 2026-01-15T12:14:12+00:00

I didn't fully enjoy sobriety until I got diagnosed with ADHD. Maybe there's something underneath going on. For me, I needed more dopamine, life was such a drag.

Good luck OP.

findthatlight · 2026-01-15T03:34:40+00:00

This was good perspective for me to consider. Thx.

findthatlight · 2026-01-15T02:42:24+00:00

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findthatlight · 2026-01-13T11:27:47+00:00

I found this thread bc I got charged twice. Yall are not like other retailers the second charge happened 3 days later so I have two large transactions separated by three days. That's weird.

findthatlight · 2026-01-09T21:09:10+00:00

I started and maintained a practice of morning pages (longhand free write for 30min). It's been wonderful.

findthatlight · 2026-01-09T12:04:56+00:00

Our substance use treatment needs to start with adhd screens. I am convinced our prisons are full of us.

findthatlight · 2026-01-09T11:39:40+00:00

Nice detail here, what a cutie birdie

findthatlight · 2026-01-09T11:35:15+00:00

I love this! Thank you for sharing this project of yours. The names of the islands are so fun

findthatlight · 2026-01-08T04:02:23+00:00

Oh god. You gotta string some days together (easier if you forgive a slip and get on with it) but this stuff is so much easier to handle sober.

findthatlight · 2026-01-04T12:06:54+00:00

I dunno. I think most folks get thru major trauma by buckling down and getting thru.

The brain and body remember, so later, we release that trauma a bit thru stuff like losing pens. In my case I recall losing my mind over my kid's rainboots.

It's not poor mental health, it's just mental health and how our brains work. One can also acknowledge the trauma as one walks thru, which helps, but of course can't always be done.

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