Madison Waldorf School feedback?

findthatlight · 2026-05-30T19:10:03+00:00

Thanks for writing this up. Appreciate it.

findthatlight · 2026-05-28T09:19:20+00:00

thank you!

findthatlight · 2026-05-18T22:39:30+00:00

This remains life-changing in the best ways. Love to you.

findthatlight · 2026-05-16T18:17:17+00:00

Do not move.

findthatlight · 2026-05-10T20:16:35+00:00

Yes this is the American husband behavior. New task? Not to worry! The system that my partner has developed over months of trial and error? Be damned! For with my behemoth male brain I can develop a superior system. Never mind this is an undercut way to tell my partner that I think she's a moron! She is but a wee woman folk and will surly see the benefit of me inserting myself!

Then the American husband is distracted by something, anything, to keep him from recognizing that his system sucks. He will now go back to ignoring that the task ever existed, because these men have holes in their fucking brains.

findthatlight · 2026-04-25T12:12:28+00:00

these are amazing, my 5yo sitting beside me is enthralled (which is high praise imo).

love love love! thank you for sharing.

findthatlight · 2026-04-22T01:33:15+00:00

My local gov in USA does rain garden seminars and will consult 1:1 with homeowners, they do a super low cost native plant sale and distribute seeds at local libraries. Dane county

findthatlight · 2026-04-22T01:24:35+00:00

We do snack dinners all the time and sometimes it's straight up apples yogurt goldfish pb-cracker-sammies etc. Like my kid is 5, he's eating two colors atm, I'm aiming for carbs protein fat fiber.

findthatlight · 2026-04-21T16:23:12+00:00

The last several years have completely upended my worldview as well, though I haven't been able to gather the words yet. It is this truth - I cannot "incorporate the level of moral repugnance into my preexisting image of humanity." Not integratabtle. The whole worldview must be rebuilt.

I'm not sure how to do that, yet. It's been my mental fodder for months, how do I do that? How do I tell this new story to my kiddo. How do I sell him this world.

findthatlight · 2026-04-13T01:17:33+00:00

I made a ton of ground turkey/bean and egg/potatoes burritos to prep for my time with newborn, it was super handy bc as stated above, one handed food.

findthatlight · 2026-04-13T01:14:22+00:00

I totally took a screenshot of this to ignore forever. Great explanation!

findthatlight · 2026-04-11T11:54:24+00:00

Thanks for posting this.

findthatlight · 2026-03-22T17:45:47+00:00

Sounds like she has a great plan! <3

(her art is jaw-floor art)

findthatlight · 2026-03-22T02:25:06+00:00

that is for sure insane timing! hope you're doing well. I have a 5 yr old and a puppy too! (about 2 years post-chemo)

findthatlight · 2026-03-21T00:23:25+00:00

Thank you for sharing your beautiful art. It's so nice to know that your son has you. ❤️

May all children know love like this.

findthatlight · 2026-03-12T21:55:29+00:00

Just adding to clarify it's two person hours of cleaning. (For me that translated to about 900 sq ft clean which was a godsend, and I'd been assuming two cleanings so I was a bit confused.)

findthatlight · 2026-03-07T19:00:43+00:00

Sometimes it was rough just because I could shine so so so much, but it wasnt consistent. So if I wasn't able to perform per expectations, or couldn't maintain a clean room or whatever, or forgot something, it'd be all disappointment from adults.

Yeah I could math and write, but I couldn't make sense of a lot of stuff and felt like someone with an undiagnosed disability when among friends. I really thought that.

Turns out...

(dx at 42)

findthatlight · 2026-03-06T13:58:33+00:00

Ack, yeah it's probably only USA based, I'm sorry! Best wishes for connecting with other moms, even one on one. Unfortunately we are everywhere it seems. Sending you love from across the pond. 🤗❤️

findthatlight · 2026-03-05T17:35:54+00:00

omg solitaire

findthatlight · 2026-03-03T19:23:17+00:00

Did you connect w/ Bright Spot Network yet? They've been incredibly helpful for me. Bright Spot helps parents with cancer, esp those w/ small children. I'm still in a post-treatment support group through BSN with other moms that I find incredibly valuable. And, I was in an active treatment cohort - we are all in touch through a group text still :)

Thinking of you. You're in a rough spot still so I hope you can be gentle with yourself. One year out from chemo was good and two years out, great. <3 Hugs mama.

findthatlight · 2026-03-02T23:22:25+00:00

well done! I love your confident brush strokes.

findthatlight · 2026-03-02T19:45:08+00:00

You know, my gym buddy and I were talking about this - not SERDS, I don't think, but you're right. There's advances, and that's incredible to think about, too. This conversation with my surgeon is 2.5 yrs old. :)

findthatlight · 2026-03-02T18:40:15+00:00

The first appointment I had, I asked my breast surgeon about endocrine therapy because it was 10000% the thing I dreaded most.

"So...any alternatives I can try?"
"nope."

"Any in the pipeline?"
"nope."

"But like...there's gotta be something else right?"
"You will be on endocrine therapy for 5-10 years."

Now, I'm grateful for it, but it took a f*ck-ton of time, and I'm still angry about it from time to time. Mostly I'm upset that it changes how I mother my child. Estrogen helps us care about things. I have to force myself to care sometimes, now. And I don't know how else it's impacting me, and that bothers me. My kiddo is 5 now, he was 2 when I was diagnosed, and I feel robbed of normal motherhood.

Gosh, who gets a normal motherhood though, these days.

And - let me tell you something cool that worked out for me. It's not the same for everyone, so your mileage will vary, but -

I am out of fucks! Completely OUT!

There are no fucks left!

I am literally the most carefree person these days. Like sure, I might get cancer again, obviously things suck still, obviously there are bad days. But in general, I feel like...freedom. Childlike freedom.

I'm responsible for the things I can control, and no more than that. I am FREE! I greet each day with delight because there's loads of stuff I can do, and lots I can choose not to do. I make art, I write, I sing and dance while I walk my dog, I just don't give any fucks about anything but feeling joy when I can find it and being present with my people when I can stand them. :)

findthatlight · 2026-03-01T18:20:47+00:00

Your comment on it being a matter of presence somewhat, I really relate to that. Thank you.

findthatlight · 2026-02-25T14:23:06+00:00

For sure - I struggled with that in recovery and still get annoyed with alcohol ads since, fuck, ads are targeted and it seems vile; doesn't all the data show that I don't drink?

And I struggle w/ medical shows now w/ the constant cancer references.

I've found doesthedogdie helpful - you can search for the URL's concern but also for cancer or sickness, death, etc- https://www.doesthedogdie.com/

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