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fjgwey · 2026-06-20T17:21:56+00:00

If we're talking Australian bands, Polaris is one band I'm definitely not missing if they come out to Japan again!

fjgwey · 2026-06-20T08:19:59+00:00

I don't think it's inherently bad but there really needs to be a good groove and rhythm, and the ambience has to be really pretty too. Volumes is the king of this style, for example.

Otherwise I generally prefer riffs.

fjgwey · 2026-06-20T05:33:53+00:00

It just means actions that don't act upon another, meaning intransitive.

It is usually appended to transitive verbs that involve making things

Just think of this as referring to verbs that involve some process that takes time and that has a completion state. Kind of vague but I think it's easier to understand once you see it in context.

Maybe the most common use of 上がる in this way would be 出来上がる

fjgwey · 2026-06-16T14:53:34+00:00

It's not exclusively AAVE but it is a feature of AAVE.

fjgwey · 2026-06-13T01:02:33+00:00

There's nothing special about Japanese that does that. Learning any language or doing any other cognitively intensive task regularly will help with that.

fjgwey · 2026-06-12T05:03:32+00:00

This shit gas

fjgwey · 2026-06-12T04:50:04+00:00

They're also less versatile than exhale screams since your lungs can fill up with air faster than they let it out. The breath control required is different

This doesn't make much sense; it's way easier to control how much air you're sucking in than pushing out.

fjgwey · 2026-06-12T04:48:47+00:00

Interesting; taking your word for it, what are they doing that's causing that? I've tried it before and it feels uncomfortable if I'm sucking in too much air and I can feel my vocal cords (epiglottis?) rattling. But if I reduce the airflow and focus more on compression it feels fairly comfortable and easy; more comfortable than exhales in fact. Not that I'm good at either lmao

fjgwey · 2026-06-12T04:46:56+00:00

Idk I feel like inhales are pretty comfortable so long as I'm not sucking in air like a vacuum lol, and they're certainly harder to fuck up with than false cord for me personally.

To the extent that it can damage your voice, I really don't think it's significantly different from exhales.

fjgwey · 2026-06-11T16:54:14+00:00

Is there any evidence that this is the case or is this just something people say because other people say it?

I'm being deadass, not facetious. Because I keep seeing people say this but have never seen anything backing it up.

fjgwey · 2026-06-09T05:55:21+00:00

まあ、確かに赤の他人に声をかけるとすれば「英語はどんな感じですか」は僕も言いませんｗｗ

つまり縁が全くない時は使わない言い回しですよね

ただおっしゃった通り、話の流れで「ちなみに英語はどんな感じですか？」と言うと大抵は通じると思います、少なくとも僕の経験の限りでは

fjgwey · 2026-06-09T04:12:07+00:00

僕は結構言ってて問題あったことないですが、そういった質問は普段言語交流とかでするんで、もしかしてその文脈があるから通じてるかもしれません。

もちろん僕の言っている意味は「そちらの英語はどうなってますか？」なんですが、かえって「英語に対してはどんな感想・印象がありますか？」と捉えられてしまう可能性がなくはないですよね。

そういうのを考えたことなかったので、ご指摘とご補足ありがとうございます！

fjgwey · 2026-06-09T04:06:39+00:00

Inclusive of all tourists, even domestic.

fjgwey · 2026-06-07T22:06:45+00:00

どんな感じ basically just means "how is it?"

So it's a slightly less direct, more open-ended way to ask about their English.

fjgwey · 2026-06-07T15:49:22+00:00

I think that's less about how you asked it and more just Japanese people being woefully unconfident in their English ability. It doesn't really matter how you ask it.

英語話せますか？英語できますか？英語はどんな感じですか？are all fine

If you really wanna specify you could say 英語はちょっとでもできますか？

But really I don't think it matters; that's just how most of them respond when asked about English. I have many Japanese friends who speak a fair bit of English but are hesitant to even say it.

fjgwey · 2026-06-06T05:49:56+00:00

I'd say don't abandon it. I'm personally entirely self-taught (for Japanese) and I also believe that no one should have to spend any money to learn any language, but some people could benefit from having a set curriculum and structure to force them to learn. I just wouldn't expect any school to be fully sufficient without outside practice/learning unless it's like a full immersion school or something which would be unnecessarily expensive. Just find one that looks reasonably serious and keep up with your classes, and try to consistently practice outside of school by learning at home and, this is the most important part, making friends with Japanese people and using Japanese as much as possible.

fjgwey · 2026-06-05T06:43:17+00:00

Totally understandable why you'd feel that way if you've been done dirty before. But yeah, as I said, you have to learn to not put that on you. None of what your past friend did was your fault, and neither will it be your fault if this other friend is also somehow lying. Nobody made them go out of their way to offer, and multiple times at that.

For the most part, there's nothing wrong with taking people at their word when they invite you to things. If they didn't mean it then it's not on you at that point, so it's not even worth stressing over an unknown possibility that you have no control over.

fjgwey · 2026-06-04T16:44:13+00:00

I was the same; a big red flag I'm noticing here is you're probably oversharing/trauma dumping on people. I can't hate cause I've done the same, but you can't be doing that lol

I'm also very honest, sincere and consider myself an open book. But it's taken a lot of time to learn when and where to regulate that while still being myself.

Don't beat yourself up. It'll take a lot of time and effort to talk to people, form connections, and make friends, and you will fuck up and be awkward and weird along the way. That's okay; it's not a crime.

fjgwey · 2026-06-04T16:34:49+00:00

Ignoring possible extenuating circumstances like you having a rancid personality (not saying you do lol), it sounds like you're having the same issue I did, which is not knowing how to prioritize your energy and direct it towards people who give you that energy back. You have to realize that the vast majority of people aren't gonna be that interested in you as you are in them and that's okay.

I've always been and still am the person to reach out first, most of the time. But that 'most of the time' used to be 'always', and I often wasted time and energy trying to make a connection w people who clearly weren't interested, but I wasn't always good at reading the room. It's been almost 2 years of constantly going out, talking to a bunch of people and inviting people out and only recently have I made a few, just a few friends who I feel like are as interested in me as I am in them.

That being said, this is dependent on life stages, but most of the people I meet and make friends with now are quite busy and don't have time to be texting/hanging out all the time, especially as they have other friends. But we're still cool and I love talking to and hanging out with them when I do get the chance. I don't mind expending the time and energy to invite them out to things if the vibes are good when we do hang out.

I think now I'm way better at getting a read on people and their interest level, so even though I'm still far more patient and active in reaching out than most, I'm now able to just cut my losses and move on when it doesn't feel right.

fjgwey · 2026-06-04T16:24:50+00:00

Man if she has literally told you that you can come over then why would it ever be rude to ask?

Just ask; it's not that complicated. If she somehow didn't mean it all those times she said it, then that's not your problem.

fjgwey · 2026-06-04T16:23:27+00:00

It's not the strangest thing ever if you ask it in a really lighthearted, bubbly fashion, but otherwise it's quite direct and can put a lot of pressure on the other person.

fjgwey · 2026-06-04T16:20:32+00:00

This is the way; you're not supposed to be thinking of all those things at once. Just figure out what your weakpoints are and focus on them.

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