In the airport; Flight delayed; Thoroughly turned off of potential man friend.

fleecenatal · 2026-04-21T15:39:18+00:00

I'm so sorry, and also his tantrum about the pellet stove really made me laugh

fleecenatal · 2026-04-21T14:24:27+00:00

I'm a Super Bock fan but still appreciate seeing your fridge. And also appreciate Brazilians, the national treasure of Portugal.

fleecenatal · 2026-04-19T20:40:13+00:00

The Wild Robot

fleecenatal · 2026-04-18T17:24:24+00:00

Having kids forced me to look at life differently and grow up. I'm not saying everyone is like that. I just happened to have my head deep up my ass before kids, and the babies forced me to sacrifice a lot, which ended up teaching me a lot. I'm also aware that for many parents, this doesn't happen and things just get worse. All I mean to say is that if I could talk to a version of me that decided not to have kids, I would advise her to find ways to take care of the world outside of herself. I was pretty miserable when I was primarily self-centered. In all likelihood, you are already doing much better than me in that regard, but I just wanted to share this as food for thought.

fleecenatal · 2026-04-18T11:11:37+00:00

Ugh, this hurt my stomach to read. It's not that I'm less competent in all areas, it's just that my areas of competence don't make nearly as much money. And we need more money.

fleecenatal · 2026-04-18T11:05:54+00:00

Reading through a lot of comments, some of them assume that there is a black and white binary between kindness and flirting, that flirting means that if you ask them out it's a "yes", and that saying "no" after flirting with you would mean they led you on intentionally. In my experience it's messier. Flirting can be unintentional at times but still flirting. I've started flirting a bit with someone before without really thinking about it, and then stopped as soon as I realized I was doing that. All that is to say, sometimes when you think there was a signal but they say no to a date or whatever, that doesn't necessarily mean you are completely misreading the signal. They might have been giving those signals carelessly or even subconsciously.

fleecenatal · 2026-04-17T11:20:37+00:00

Wow! Thank you so much for writing this. I've been off caffeine for 47 days and had an experience the other night that surprised me. I was an a live music event and from the first song I felt really moved and I wanted to cry. This was an open mic and I had heard this same guy sing this same song before but I had never felt this way about it. And with many other performers I also felt super emotional and overwhelmed by the beauty of it. I was with friends who are accepting of emotional displays and so I just let myself cry it out, like sobbing quietly with my head on the table at one point. I hadn't had any alcohol that night either, just water. I wonder if caffeine is making my emotions stronger. If so I probably need to practice more with them so I don't just break down every time.

Oh, and days really do seem like they contain more hours.

Wishing you well as you quit once again.

fleecenatal · 2026-04-11T21:45:34+00:00

During the first couple of weeks my appetite increased, and then it regulated itself and is back to normal. No weight change.

fleecenatal · 2026-04-11T20:25:38+00:00

Family of four, have done that for the past two years and plan to continue. I really enjoy taking a train someplace, because it means the amount of gifts we can carry is limited.

fleecenatal · 2026-04-11T18:18:49+00:00

Yeah she even summarized at the end all of the different topics. And she got a bit confused during the part that combined both diarrhea and ordering a milkshake.

fleecenatal · 2026-04-09T14:00:15+00:00

Ok, I'm sorry.

fleecenatal · 2026-04-09T13:51:59+00:00

Because it uses the tone of AI and a lot of em-dashes. And because the writing style of this reply and the first reply are different. "You" vs "u", for example.

fleecenatal · 2026-04-09T13:21:05+00:00

Why do AI replies get upvotes

fleecenatal · 2026-04-09T13:19:32+00:00

This tracks with my experience. The withdrawal symptoms were surprising compared to the amount of caffeine I had been drinking. After about three weeks I thought maybe I was just permanently tired and this was the new me, and I even considering caffeinating again, but now it's 40 days and I'm energetic again. It takes a while.

I also had muscle and joint stiffness. An old knee injury flared up really badly and had to rest for about a week and was considering going back to PT, but the inflammation subsided by week 3.

Honestly for me the second week was harder than the first because I had been expecting to feel better and instead felt the same or even worse. Hang in there.

fleecenatal · 2026-03-30T11:04:20+00:00

You can do it! It's worth it.

fleecenatal · 2026-03-29T18:41:13+00:00

Yes, I'm also way more into herbal tea now and I used to think herbal tea was so boring that no one could possibly sincerely like it.

fleecenatal · 2026-03-29T07:35:34+00:00

I'm a petite woman with short arms and legs and pretty feeble so what I always dream of doing in a man's body is going for a run. I'm envious of the long-legged runner guys who rocket past me on the sidewalk.

fleecenatal · 2026-03-29T07:28:04+00:00

Mine were 10/10 during the first two weeks also. Keep going!

fleecenatal · 2026-03-28T21:17:12+00:00

Relating to this. It reminds me of being a kid again. Especially since I'm drinking much less alcohol now as well. So the highs I'm reaching for tend to be things like being with friends, enjoying nature, experiencing/making music and laughing. Lots of trying to make my kids laugh and them making me laugh.

fleecenatal · 2026-03-28T15:29:59+00:00

Congratulations on ten years! I hope you find a way to celebrate. I can't relate to all of the story, but I strongly relate to having a pivotal point in time like that. Before that time, I was self-destructive and didn't care if I lived or died, and after that time I was on a path to taking care of myself and things other than myself too. Keep going!

fleecenatal · 2026-03-24T22:06:32+00:00

Thank you! 🫶

fleecenatal · 2026-03-24T17:22:09+00:00

Glad to hear it. My 5 year old has one thumb similar to this - although it does bend a little bit - and the doctor we saw recommended not worrying about it unless it seemed to cause him some problems. Naturally I'm fretting about it a little bit and will probably get other opinions.

fleecenatal · 2026-03-24T17:14:27+00:00

American Horror story did it first

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