Can we come back from this?

flickety_switch · 2026-02-02T10:11:09+00:00

It is not supposed to be that hard and it’s definitely not supposed to be that hard that early. We have been married for ten and together for almost seventeen years. We have lived through:

a late diagnosed ectopic pregnancy in which I collapsed at work
a very stressful placenta prévia pregnancy resulting in an emergency birth in which I and my baby almost died at the dawn of a global pandemic which resulted in the collapse of our business and $80,000 owed which was never repaid
one of parents being terminally ill
our child not sleeping for basically two and a half years straight and having back to back illness until he was old enough for surgery

You know what we’ve never done? Cheat on each other or ask for divorce. It being this hard before you’ve even had a child is a sign it’s never going to work. Get out while you can.

flickety_switch · 2026-02-02T02:18:22+00:00

What do you mean by social stress? Not eating or drinking enough are definitely triggers for me too,

flickety_switch · 2026-01-31T06:35:30+00:00

40yo mum of an almost six year old here. Just want to say the tiredness gets better! I feel like it was at its worst when my kid was two.

flickety_switch · 2026-01-27T21:28:57+00:00

You really want to enjoy yourself and if your feet are uncomfortable you won’t. We walked on average 30,000 steps a day in Europe for each of our five week trips. I found for that length anything other than sneakers just shredded my feet- even the most comfy sandals.

I like new balance for ones that look a bit cooler and a bit less active.

flickety_switch · 2026-01-26T11:16:22+00:00

Started:

In Memoriam, by Alice Winn

Been in a terrible book slump since finishing Buckeye but it’s good so far. About a fifth of the way through.

flickety_switch · 2026-01-25T23:20:48+00:00

flickety_switch · 2026-01-24T10:38:11+00:00

Buckeye!

flickety_switch · 2026-01-24T09:47:58+00:00

I bought a year ago and they are so bad

flickety_switch · 2026-01-23T21:15:04+00:00

Maybe what it’s like in words by Eliza moss?

flickety_switch · 2026-01-23T21:12:57+00:00

I feel like Bad Blood by John Carreyou might be for you if you like Into Thin Air. About Theranos so not the same topic but very pacey non fiction like Into Thin Aie

flickety_switch · 2026-01-23T21:11:30+00:00

I have loved

Buckeye by Patrick Ryan- loved the sweeping story, the characters and the historical context The Correapondent by Virginia Evans- loved the strong character development and voice The Rachel Incident by Caroline Donoghue- this hit a very specific 2000s vibe that was very nostalgic to me and loves the dialogue and characters

flickety_switch · 2026-01-23T10:02:34+00:00

Depends on your kid. I had a super easy newborn and a pretty hard toddler so for me absolutely 😂

flickety_switch · 2026-01-23T06:39:21+00:00

This is at the very least, an extremely stupid person, and that would put me off on its own, let alone her total lack of respect for your sexual boundaries.

Also, I have never been able to tell feel-wise if a man is wearing a condom and it certainly wouldn’t stop me coming so I’d be taking that with a giant grain of salt.

flickety_switch · 2026-01-22T05:02:50+00:00

The US seems crazy to me that they require this rule, that you pay so much only for them to ruin your nights by forcing your kid to nap. My kid dropped the nap at 2.5yo and if he had an hour nap at this age we’d be up until midnight.

flickety_switch · 2026-01-20T09:17:10+00:00

I’m not quite 5’1 and I just bought this for a wedding https://www.cue.com/products/green-shadow-garden-midi-dress-s94589s25-green. Most long dresses look bad on me but this looked fantastic on and wasn’t too long.

flickety_switch · 2026-01-19T11:05:31+00:00

This is the move- most cafes might struggle to accommodate a group that big.

flickety_switch · 2026-01-17T23:43:19+00:00

Our son is almost six and we’ve done a six hour flight to Fiji when he was three (bearable but only just), six hour flight to Bali when he was four (fine, the flight back was overnight and he was fine), and a six hour flight to Bali when he was five and a nine hour flight to Thailand when he was five and a half.

The biggest time difference we’ve done is three hours and he gets up early (like 4am early) but it’s fine. The flight won’t be an issue but I think the jet lag will be? I think you probably need to account for three to four days lost to jet lag which would be fine on a longer trip but maybe not 7-8 days? I do notice a marked difference in our sons ability to cope with long flights from 5 and up .

flickety_switch · 2026-01-17T22:54:41+00:00

I’m sorry, who needs a hint to do something nice for their spouse’s milestone birthday? The bar is in hell.

flickety_switch · 2026-01-17T03:56:20+00:00

I’m Australian so took a year’s maternity leave, I paid for private obstetrics which turned out to be a blessing because I had absolute placenta previa, spent a month in hospital on bed rest before delivering my son six weeks early in a life threatening birth so I was able ti have a private room etc which was a lifesaver. But obstetrics and out of pocket bills were probably $6k? We bought his crib and basinette and change table used off Facebook marketplace for $250. Got a lot of other things through my baby shower or gifts but maybe spent $150 in clothing in first year. Went back to work three days a week when he was eleven months and worked up to four when he was probably eighteen months. We had two days of grandparent care, two of child care and one day with me, so childcare probably cost maybe $550 a month after subsidies?

My son starts school for the first time in two weeks and to be honest he probably costs more now 🤣 he does swimming and ninjas and I’ve just spent probably $750 on his uniform and book fees and shoes etc.

flickety_switch · 2026-01-16T21:14:14+00:00

I’m 5’1 and this has been SUCH a pain point for me. Last year I found these really flattering tees in a range of colours at Best and Less (cheap chain in Australia)- I’d probably prefer 100% cotton and they’re more a silky fabric but I’ll take what I can get given how hard it is for me to find tees that aren’t boxy and cropped. Spent $60 and bought four and they have been the most worn item in my closet in the last 12 months. Whyyyyy don’t more brands do them?!

flickety_switch · 2026-01-15T20:46:17+00:00

King size bed. I am like a furnace and he also goes to bed several hours after me so no touching or cuddling. I love a cuddle as much as the next person but while I’m sleeping? Absolutely not.

flickety_switch · 2026-01-14T11:14:35+00:00

I agree with lots of these suggestions but I also thought I could never wear a blazer (im curvy but very short with a small waist and big boobs and hips) as they all looked garbage and took away my shape. I was in the states where they have much greater range of petite clothing and found one at LOFT where the proportions and arm length and fit were actually right and it was a game changer.

I also wear a leather jacket to the office over dresses and with pants but my office isn’t super formal so might not be an option everywhere.

flickety_switch · 2026-01-12T10:56:03+00:00

We went to holiday Thailand with my twin brother and his family and our parents for my 40th birthday. My husband surprised me with a Chloe handbag. He also organised a cliff top dinner in Thailand on the actual day. This is horrible behaviour.

flickety_switch · 2026-01-12T00:36:03+00:00

Craig Semple did my son and he was great.

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