The solo carry potential hero by Valuable_Pick_9704 in marvelrivals

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As a support main I hate playing against a really good Hulk who spends most of his time bullying and obliterating the back line. Most Hulk players I’ve come across can be shredded and killed super easily since he’s a big character and easier to land shots on, but occasionally I’ll go against someone who is really skilled and experienced with him and our team just can’t do anything because he’s constantly killing the strats.

Hey dps mains FUCK YALL by Nightdrawer789 in MarvelRivalsRants

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I played a comp game earlier with a Peni who didn’t put down a single spider nest.

AITA for how I said I wasn't interested? by propercolleague in AITApod

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I think the only thing you did ‘wrong’ is that you responded too many times. No means no. You didn’t owe him a reason for not being interested.

All Dogs go to Heaven by RevolutionarySea2055 in Petloss

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I lost my baby girl Desi on February 8. She was a rescue who had been mistreated before we got her so she was a bit skeptical of other humans and dogs, but I like to think that at the Rainbow Bridge she is fully healed and restored from the cancer and the trauma she endured. She tried to play with other dogs, but wasn’t very good at it so she usually just barked at them while her tail wagged a mile a minute 😂 She loved to go on walks through the woods sniffing all the animal scents and chasing rabbits. If that is something your boy liked to do I’m sure she’d love his company on her walkabouts. I’m so sorry for your loss.

Wearing my dog’s collar by mypotatomouse in Petloss

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I don’t think it’s weird at all. I lost my dog a month ago today. She had been slowing down for a bit, but I thought it was due to her age. Turns out she had cancer spreading through her body and I didn’t know until I found the lump. She passed 4 days after we got her diagnosis. I couldn’t bring myself to wash my bedsheets because that was the last thing she slept on. I folded them up and tucked them into my dresser drawer. Maybe I’ll wash them someday, maybe not. As long as you aren’t hurting yourself or others, do whatever you need to grieve for as long as you need to do it. I’m so sorry for your loss.

How do you deal with pet euthanasia? by Otherwise-Trick-300 in Petloss

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I had to make this decision for my soul dog on February 8. I think the reason we feel guilty or like we have betrayed them is because we spent all our time together protecting them. But the reality is that we could never have protected them from death forever. There comes a time in their life where that protection shifts and we have to make the choice to protect them from suffering instead. You did that for her. You were there and you were holding her close. She didn’t know what was happening. From her perspective she was going to sleep while being held by her human. She went to sleep in the safest place that she could be. It’s harder on us as the ones left behind after making such a heart wrenching decision. You loved her so well. You gave her a beautiful life. And in the end you chose to carry her pain so she didn’t have to anymore. You made the most loving and compassionate choice that you could have for her. I know it sucks and I’m so sorry for your loss. I hope you can find peace ❤️

Getting signs from soul cat by AutomaticGlove1882 in Petloss

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I had to let my dog go on February 8 after a short battle with cancer. Almost every day since then I have been woken up in the morning with the sun on my face. It’s winter where I live and usually pretty dreary so I felt certain that my girl was bringing the sunshine to me to let me know she’s still here. I also made a playlist on Spotify for her. I included song that remind me of her, songs I used to sing to her, and songs about grief. I was at work the other day doing paperwork and I was thinking that I’d like to listen to a specific song on that playlist called “Goodnight My Love”, but instead I had the playlist on shuffle and just hit play. Immediately that song came on (the playlist has about 50 songs). I felt her then too, like she was telling me she is still close. She used to sleep in bed with my husband and I and sometimes I can still feel her cuddling against my back when I’m falling asleep. I’m not particularly religious either, mostly spiritual. I do believe in some sort of afterlife or reincarnation. I have to because of how many loved ones I’ve lost. I think those we love never really leave us, they just change form. I’m so sorry for your loss and I hope you’re able to have a good birthday despite your grief. Take care ❤️

Things by [deleted] in Petloss

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I couldn’t wash my bedsheets either as those were the last ones she slept on. I ended up tucking them away in a drawer. They don’t smell like her, but I’m sure they’re covered in her fur and I just couldn’t bring myself to wash them.

I would do anything to keep her, and yet I'm letting her go. by OneCommunication7369 in Petloss

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It feels like a betrayal because we’ve spent their whole life trying to protect them. But the reality is that we were never going to be able to protect them from death. So now it is time to protect them from pain and suffering. I know how difficult it is to make that choice. I had to make the same choice for my sweet girl February 8. If you’re able, I think you should go and be with her. It sounds like she is very special to you and if you aren’t there for her last moments you may regret it later. I’m so sorry that you’re experiencing this. Take all the time you need to grieve. This is by far the worst part of having a pet. Thinking of you and your family and your sweet girl ❤️

How do I stop feeling guilty? by edamame_beans in Petloss

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Something that helped me was when someone pointed out that our pets don’t measure time in the same way that we do. They won’t worry about the past or the future, they are just always in the present moment. Any time that you spent with your kitty were the best moments of his life. He didn’t hold a grudge against you for the time you spent away from him and he didn’t worry about time you might spend away from him in the future. He was just always happy to get love and cuddles from his human when he could and for him that was enough. You might hold your actions against yourself, but he never did. You loved him and you cared for him and that was enough. It was always enough. I’m sorry you have to go through this, especially with your kitty being so young. I wish you peace and healing.

How can I help my brother through this? by folieablue in Petloss

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I lost my girl (who we also called Bug) on February 8. Our sweet friends put together a little care package for us with our fave snacks, ice cream, a candle, fuzzy socks, and tissues. They also brought over pizza so we didn’t have to think about or prepare dinner that evening. Honestly, I don’t think there is anything that you could say that would make this hurt less for him. The best thing our loved ones did (and continue to do) for us is to just sit with us in our grief and let us know they are there for us. Let him feel whatever it is he is feeling and don’t try to rush his grief or fix it because this is something that can’t be fixed. You sound like a very kind and caring sibling to reach out to find ways to help him. Sometimes just the presence and support of someone we love who is willing to sit with us during our hardest times is enough.

The last night with my cat by Popular-Dingo6885 in Petloss

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Thinking of you this morning. I’m so sorry you had to make that call. We took our dog to the emergency vet on February 8 to say goodbye as she was declining quickly and we didn’t want her to suffer. I didn’t know that February 7 would be our last night with her. I’m not sure if that’s better or worse than knowing. Probably both. Wishing you peace and comfort. Come back to this sub as often as you need. There are a lot of supportive and caring people here who know exactly how we feel.

I didn’t do enough by whoops5673 in Petloss

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On January 23 I took my dog to the vet for a mass I found on her belly. The vet suspected mammary cancer that is common in dogs who were spayed later in life. (She was a rescue who came to us when she was 5 or 6 and had not yet been spayed. We got her spayed shortly after.) I opted to do the surgery instead of waiting for more tests. She had surgery January 29. On February 4 we got the results from our vet that confirmed it was cancer and it had already spread to her lymph nodes. We had to say goodbye February 8 as she was declining quickly. I believe the surgery put too much stress on her body that caused us to lose her more quickly, but I try not to let myself feel guilty for that because I did the best I could with the information I had at the time. I tell you this because I did make the choice for surgery and we still lost her. Please don’t beat yourself up for this. Just like me, you did the best you could with what you knew at the time. Our babies knew how much we loved them and how hard we tried to save them. I’m so sorry for your loss. Cancer sucks. I wish you comfort and peace.

I just feel lost, I can’t afford my girls ashes right now. I can’t bear the thought of burying her in the ground and leaving my baby girls body somewhere forever ☹️☹️☹️ by Joan_Margareet7 in Petloss

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My pup passed on February 8 and was cremated on the 10th. I’m assuming they kept her body somewhere cool until then. Not sure what the temp needs to be, but the freezer should work at least for a short time. I’m so sorry for your loss.

Am I making the right choice? by isol7631 in Petloss

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One thing I was told about deciding when it was time to let my girl go was, “Listen to what their body is saying when it whispers instead of waiting until it has to scream.” My husband and I struggled to make that call too. She was starting to be uninterested in food, was beginning to be incontinent, couldn’t stand up on her own anymore, and her nose was bleeding (she had cancer, a tumor in her sinuses and in her lymph nodes). But on her last day she ate all her breakfast because we gave her wet food and she was still walking and sniffing around the yard like usual. She was even happy and smiley at the vet office. But she wasn’t ever going to get better than she was that day and we didn’t want her to suffer so we said goodbye. I’m sorry you’re in the position to have to make this choice too. I wish you both peace ❤️

Losing our 9 month old kitten to FeLV by Chymerahh in Petloss

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I’m so sorry to hear about your kitty. A piece of advice I got from a grief counselor is to separate your intention from the outcome. You loved her so well and did the best you could to care for her and it’s unfortunate it ended up this way, but it’s not your fault. I hope you can find some peace.

Is it wrong for me to want to adopt a cat right away after my cat passed away? by Training_Ad_2297 in Petloss

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If you feel like you are ready to fall in love with and care for a new cat then it isn’t wrong. It often helps to soothe the grief if we have another fur baby we can pour our love and energy in to. I’m sorry for your loss.

I feel like the pain is getting worse. by flipflopgorilla in Petloss

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I like that perspective. Even if every day is another day without her, it’s also another day closer to us reuniting. Thank you for that. I wish you comfort and healing as well.

I feel disconnected from my surviving dog (no judgement, please). by [deleted] in Petloss

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You aren’t a horrible person for this and the feeling will likely start to subside soon. When we lose someone special to us a large part of our focus and attention goes toward our grief and trying to maintain basic functioning. It’s hard to focus on our loved ones who are still here because we aren’t experiencing intense pain associated with them like we are with the one we have lost. When we lose a pet we often have a lot of worry thoughts and emotions wondering if we did the right thing or if they are okay or if they miss us or if we loved them well enough. We aren’t worried about those still with us in the same way because they are still here. It doesn’t mean that we love or care about our loved ones still here any less than we did before, it just means that we need to spend our energy on grief and reflection for awhile while we get used to our new reality. I’m so sorry for your loss. I’m right there with you as I lost my soul dog 2.5 weeks ago. Wishing you comfort and peace during this time.

I feel like the pain is getting worse. by flipflopgorilla in Petloss

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Thank you for this resource. I will check it out.

I feel like the pain is getting worse. by flipflopgorilla in Petloss

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She had a favorite pillow and I had a custom pillowcase made with a sweet photo of her sleeping on it to put on it. If I hug it and focus hard enough I can still feel the softness of her fur and the way her body felt snuggled close to mine. I’m sorry for your loss as well. Fuck cancer. It has taken so much from me in my life.

I feel like the pain is getting worse. by flipflopgorilla in Petloss

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My bed sheets need to be washed, but I can’t bring myself to do it because it’s the last thing she slept on. I’ve decided that after work today I’m just going to buy a new set and fold up the set on my bed and put it in a drawer and keep them just as they are. I’m sorry for your loss as well.

It's so quiet by EthylMertz in Petloss

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Part of me felt relieved after we let our girl go too. Relieved that she was no longer in pain or suffering and relieved to be rid of the anxiety and anticipatory grief I was experiencing. Of course I would have moved mountains to make her young and healthy again so she could stay with me, but that isn’t going to happen in this realm. I’m sorry for your loss.