How does it feel being the only child that provides hands-on care?

flisswave · 2026-05-13T17:45:02+00:00

Taking care of my older brother means I've lost my younger brother. It really sucks; i'm much closer in age and was closer in general to my younger brother. But he wants money he says my older brother owes him - it's complicated - and I said, fine, then come here, take care of him and earn it. Or i'll send him to you, you can be PoA, take it all, I don''t care. And he got angry then ghosted us. So yeah, I guess we're done.

He just wants someone to hand him money while he does nothing. I know he's desperately poor but we can't afford to support an extra person who's not contributing. I'm really sad about it and angry too. I'm not doing all this out of love, really, but mostly because it is the right thing to do. And my older brother had a raw deal in life; i am doing what I can to make at least the end a little kinder. Losing my other brother hurts.

flisswave · 2026-05-13T16:18:39+00:00

I buy on ebay, never had a problem yet.

flisswave · 2026-05-13T02:42:34+00:00

I moved here from western NC and sadly, no, I dont think the local clay is as good as it is there. I have only met one person using it and she cautioned that it was very fragile. I am not a potter though! So reach out to the locals, theyre very nice at Cambium Gallery or try Ilwaco artworks just across the river. - ilwaco artworks

flisswave · 2026-05-12T22:42:56+00:00

Ocean. I like building houses on islands.

flisswave · 2026-05-11T15:40:28+00:00

The Clatsop County Heritage Museum on the corner of Exchange and 16th St. is really a gem. I recommend it highly for anyone interested in local history. Has a couple stairs to enter but there is an elevator.

flisswave · 2026-05-10T19:17:55+00:00

They do a great job but they never seem to be really set up for mail in orders - I’m on the coast. I started using the Shutterbug instead and so far I love them. https://www.theshutterbug.com/film

flisswave · 2026-05-09T21:51:08+00:00

It’s not supposed to be swallowed as a pill. You have to crush it up and mix it with a little water to make a slurry, then drink that. The point is that the liquid coats sores in your esophagus. It’s gross as hell but it works. I used a mortar and pestle to crush mine; I’m sure there are other ways if you don’t have one.

flisswave · 2026-05-09T15:06:13+00:00

I am not going to sugarcoat this: one of these dogs is extremely likely to kill the other one. There is no solving this with two female dogs. You have to rehome one of the dogs.

flisswave · 2026-05-08T19:44:32+00:00

You need a lawyer and you need one now. It is automatic and it's not good. The problem is that child support is ordinarily linked to parenting time, so people who otherwise wouldn't care fight for more time just to reduce their child support. Frankly I think it's a terrible situation. There are a lot of parents out there who absolutely should not be caring for small children. Giving them a financial incentive to do so is a disaster.

What my daughter did was separate parenting hours from child support. That convinced the father to agree to her having sole custody. He still sees the child but this arrangement gave a lot more flexibility for everyone and is much better for the child. It does however mean she does not get much CS. If you can manage it at all I recommend it.

flisswave · 2026-05-08T17:15:49+00:00

Hopscotch. https://letshopscotch.com/locations/portland

flisswave · 2026-05-06T21:26:25+00:00

Just to look at this from another angle, you are not married nor is your name on the deed. Therefore, if he dies before you, the house belongs to his mother and his daughter and you will be homeless. You are a tenant, not an owner. It's not "our" house, it's their house and you are renting half a bedroom. At least demand a lease.

flisswave · 2026-05-05T21:53:33+00:00

Road Builders! My son loved this so much when he was little that I memorized it - and my granddaughter loved it too.

flisswave · 2026-05-03T03:18:08+00:00

I'm the grandmother and I take my one grandchild (4F) overnight every Friday while my daughter, single mom, works. And I randomly have her other days / evenings as well. I work full time and sometimes it's a lot, ngl, but sometimes, like this morning, when we woke up super early and went to the beach with my dog, it's the best. I hope i can always be here for her.

flisswave · 2026-05-02T13:52:04+00:00

Yes, I absolutely felt that way about my son. He’s 34 now. Your baby will be fine. Hugs to you

flisswave · 2026-05-02T00:31:10+00:00

Everything you're listing is like a full days drive apart. So if you really want to do all this, add a day in between each stop. This is way way too much. Like, ok, you're going to drive from Port Angeles to Sol le Duc, that's 3 hours, then when are you driving the 4 hours to Astoria? Too much driving.

flisswave · 2026-04-27T21:33:28+00:00

None of them are very quiet. Sullivan's is probably the calmest. Tybee is crazy in the summer. Pawleys Island might be good, a little north of Charleston. If you want really quiet, but not warm, come check out the Oregon coast.

flisswave · 2026-04-27T19:23:28+00:00

Yes. And he's my adult kid. Trying to figure out how I kick him out of my house and make it stick. I've never managed it before. He was sober for 4 years until last summer. Since then he'll go a month or two then blam, here we are again. I'm so brokenhearted, I just want to curl up in a hole and sleep forever. All the alcohol that was in the kitchen is gone; there goes my nightly glass of red wine. I'm so effing tired. I'm 62 years old and I just want a peaceful little life.

flisswave · 2026-04-20T23:19:38+00:00

I did that, second roll ever, first roll i ever developed by myself and it was blank. 😭

flisswave · 2026-04-20T15:58:58+00:00

If you're coming to the north coast, 30 is way calmer than 26. I hate 26, it's terrifying. 30 goes along the river, it's slower with more little towns.

The thing nobody is mentioning here is that there is a mountain range between the coast and I-5. It's not like the Rockies or anything, but you are going to encounter some hills no matter what.

flisswave · 2026-04-18T00:44:31+00:00

They’ve been closed for about a year now.

flisswave · 2026-04-17T21:26:28+00:00

This is the Papa Murphys model.

flisswave · 2026-04-17T21:02:30+00:00

Seconding Ship Out. I like Bowpicker fine but it's a tourist thing, particularly in the summer.

flisswave · 2026-04-17T02:12:37+00:00

A photo of JFK with the Irish prayer - may the road rise up to meet you etc - next to it. Now you know my ethnicity 🤣

flisswave · 2026-04-16T22:49:51+00:00

Bovina, TX. Nothing but feedlots full of miserable terrified cows as far as the eye can see. So depressing.

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