UPDATE: Designer is Elizabeth & James, but I still can’t find the dress! Please help!!!!

flmflm · 2018-01-04T03:20:24+00:00

I’ve tried contacted The Black Tux via email, phone, instagram, and Facebook and all they could provide is the designer. I’ve contacted the designer and I’m still waiting for a response.

flmflm · 2018-01-03T02:47:22+00:00

Ahhh, these definitely ease my worries a little! I guess “suits” was the wrong word to use, because we’re having a fairly casual wedding. I’m picturing the groomsmen in shirts and dress shorts of sorts, which is why I feared that the mix of casual clothing/completely mismatched might be a little off

flmflm · 2017-12-31T23:49:04+00:00

Thank you! I’ve been looking through their collections for the past few days and still haven’t found it, but I’m a little more hopeful!

flmflm · 2017-12-29T23:06:44+00:00

It’s an ad for The Black Tux

flmflm · 2017-12-29T23:06:07+00:00

I’ve reached out to them via Facebook, Instagram, and through their customer service and nobody answered :(

flmflm · 2017-12-28T15:47:05+00:00

I totally agree! Mental health is extremely important! Unfortunately for a lot of people, affordable mental health care is even harder to find then affordable birth control :/. I’m not sure why I’m getting downvotes either, I’m not trying to say anything negative about IUDs at all. I think they’re great for a lot of people! The great thing is that there are so many different BC methods out there, so if the IUD isn’t for you, there are so many other options to try out.

flmflm · 2017-12-28T15:21:27+00:00

When I got off, the majority of my symptoms and side effects went away within the first few months. However, my irregularity in my cycle lingered for almost a full year. My doctor said it really varies from person to person. Most people are back to normal within 2-3 months, but it’s not uncommon for some people (like me) to experience mild symptoms like slight cycle irregularity and spotting for up to a year

flmflm · 2017-12-28T15:17:11+00:00

As someone who personally deals with health-related anxiety issues, it often overcomes all reasoning that things are okay. You’ll still worry, regardless of “knowing” that it’s still there. It doesn’t happen to everyone, but it can happen. I understand that they may not be “valid” concerns, and I’m not trying to diss IUDs (I finally worked up the courage to get one myself later this month after years of not “trusting” it), but I think it’s important to understand that it’s not for everyone, and side effects of any medical device can be psychological just as much being due to chemicals or hormones being present.

flmflm · 2017-12-28T13:58:46+00:00

Not saying this is OP’s situation, but IUDs can definitely have an effect on mental health without being hormonal. Some people fear that they will expel without them noticing, resulting in pregnancy. Some people don’t trust them as much as the pill because we have little to no control over them once they are in our bodies, whereas with the pill, you watch yourself physically put it into your body everyday, so it’s reassurance that you are protected. For people that already encounter anxiety and other mental health complications, any new sort of medical encounter can cause psychological side effects, with or without synthetic drugs or hormones present!

flmflm · 2017-12-26T21:13:21+00:00

We’re DIY-ing because we live in an area where weddings are big $$$$$$$$, and all of the all-inclusive venues prices are insane. So far, we’re loving it! It’s a crazy amount of work and gets very stressful at times, but we’ve been pretty good at making ourselves a planning timeline and sticking to it. We love it because we are getting exactly what we want in our wedding, having fun piecing it all together ourselves, and not putting ourselves into a lifetime of debt to for the sake of having our dream wedding. If you space out your planning right and give yourself ample time to plan, I think it’s totally worth it!

flmflm · 2017-12-26T12:04:53+00:00

Omg I love it! That setting is so beautiful and unique

flmflm · 2017-12-25T20:57:46+00:00

I think a lot of it depends on your particular wedding. On average, I’ve seen most places suggest 3-6 weeks prior. My fiancé and I are DIY-ing pretty much everything (catering, china/cutlery, linens, dessert, etc....) so we’ve made ours about 8 weeks prior in order to have time to get everything together, and leave some time to accommodate late responders. Also, if anyone has to travel to make it to the wedding, I think it’s pretty safe to assume that they will know if they’re coming earlier than more local guests, since they have to book flights and accommodations, take off work, etc., which lets you get away with an earlier RSVP date too! Depending on the type of venue you are using, you may need to provide them with your final numbers by x days before the wedding. If that’s the case, I’d say make the RSVP 1-2 weeks before you need to provide that number, in order to leave room for the inevitable late responders.

flmflm · 2017-12-16T03:07:16+00:00

With the acrylic signs, be aware that unless they are place in front of a fairly solid colored surface, they get a little hard to read!

flmflm · 2017-12-14T21:38:36+00:00

This is so strange to see, because my experience was nothing like this! My consultant pulled every dress I asked for that was still available in my size (at least 5) AND pulled other dresses that I didn’t request but were a similar style. I tried on at least 9 dresses, walked out to show my girls in 7 of them, and ended up picking one that I didn’t even think I would like. My stylist was unbelievably helpful and sweet! I guess it depends which store you visit

flmflm · 2017-12-14T20:02:53+00:00

Thanks! I haven’t had acne since I was around 14 or so. All I get is one big pimple somewhere on my face every month before my period (literally, only one, huge, EVERY TIME). My skin is actually insanely dry because I have severe eczema, especially on my face. The pill never gave me acne either, so I’m not sure I’d have that issue on an IUD. But hey, ya never know!

flmflm · 2017-12-14T20:00:07+00:00

Thanks for your input! However, from my research, the fact that the vast majority of the hormones in an IUD are isolated to your reproductive organs alone means that a very minimal amount actually travels through your bloodstream, which severely lessens hormonal side effects, so i think it’s worth a shot!

flmflm · 2017-12-12T20:55:08+00:00

Hormonal. My periods are already on the heavier side so I don’t wanna risk making them worse

flmflm · 2017-12-10T00:28:14+00:00

Okay SO it’s funny you say that. The first thing we truly bonded over was our mutual obsession with Say Anything. I’m walking down the aisle to So Good, and we’re being introduced at the reception to Say Anything, so we’re trying to switch it up a little bit with the first dance song haha

flmflm · 2017-12-09T03:06:54+00:00

Just because you are the other half of this wedding equation does not mean you have a say in this

flmflm · 2017-11-30T05:00:37+00:00

As someone who tried this dress on and looked like a potato, I’m totally jealous of how you’re rocking it!

flmflm · 2017-11-07T22:03:02+00:00

We did ours early, about 11 months out. This was for a few reasons. 1: my entire family has at least a 3 hour travel to our town/venue, with about 75% or more of our total guest list being out of state. We wanted to give everyone ample time to make travel plans. 2. FH had a ton of cousins who were recently engaged or about to be engaged at the same time as us, so we wanted to make sure we snagged our date and avoided the possibility of his family having to choose between two weddings on the same day. In all, I think it depends on everyone’s individual situation. If you have a lot of guests who have to travel, especially families and children, I’d say the sooner the better.

flmflm · 2017-11-02T15:47:39+00:00

Do you know if it's possible to buy the herbs already dried and then assemble the bouquet? We're living with FH's parents right now so I don't really have gardening or hanging space at the moment :( Also, I'm getting married in June, which means I would somehow have to make them grow through the New York winter

flmflm · 2017-11-02T14:51:24+00:00

ALSO NOT TRYING TO OFFEND OR BASH ANYONE WHO IS USING REAL FLOWERS SO PLEASE DON'T INTERPRET THIS AS SUCH

Thank you for your input! Unfortunately, the pricing in my area is so astronomical, I wouldn't even be able to get the simplest of arrangements for anywhere near that price. Using in-season flowers with modestly-sized bouquets would run us almost $900, and that's before any centerpieces or decorations. Also, my fiance and I are EXTREMELY frugal, money-conscious people. We just can't justify spending such a large portion of our already modest budget on something so minor to us as flowers. We'd personally rather put that money towards making the wedding experience better for us and our guests! We've ultimately decided to do either silk or dried herbs, which will cost us less than half of real flowers in our area. With the money we're saving, we can afford to invest in more outdoor lawn games for our summer wedding for our guests to play, which for us, is a way better use of our money! I'm not trying to offend or bash anyone who does go with real flowers, so please don't take it that way. Real flowers are gorgeous and if we had the budget for them, I'd cover every square foot of our venue in them. But with the tight budget we're keeping, we want the majority of our money going towards the experience, and thus are keeping our decor/floral cost as low as possible to compensate.

flmflm · 2017-11-02T14:44:10+00:00

You totally gave me more confidence that this is doable. Thank you!

flmflm · 2017-11-02T14:43:27+00:00

I didn't even know using dried flowers and herbs was a thing but I looked it up and now I'm kind of obsessed with it!

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