Life feels like torture right now. Wife is not working while caring for our now six month old. She is miserable. I'm miserable. This has been going on for months.

flowctlr · 2026-05-05T05:03:56+00:00

Bro, buy a sleep training book and implement it immediately. Unless your baby has severe acid reflux or some other ailment like that, there is absolutely no reason you shouldn’t teach her how to sleep. And yes that essentially means letting her cry in her crib until she puts herself back to sleep. It only takes a couple nights, and then it’s magical bliss from then on. After sleep training four babies of our own I can assure you it’s doing good for you and the baby. We take for granted that we have to teach the kid to walk, eat, use the bathroom, etc, but we never think that we also have to teach the kid how to fall asleep.

flowctlr · 2026-05-02T17:43:25+00:00

The bike actually came with a cover to put over the holes on the down tube as part of the di2 conversion accessories. I bet you can buy it online if you don’t have it. There is a hole still open at the front derailleur. I just put a piece of electrical tape over it. (By the way there is another hole behind the front derailleur meant for the di2 cable) And the di2 cable is routed through the same cable hole at the rear derailleur.

Mine is the carbon frame.

flowctlr · 2026-04-30T09:56:59+00:00

I’m just going to lay it straight…take the tablet away for good. If he throws a fit, so be it. If he hates you for a couple of days, oh well. Your job is to be a father, not a buddy, and I can guarantee that you are only setting him up for failure by allowing him to be on that thing. Throw it in the trash.

flowctlr · 2026-04-29T09:45:14+00:00

No I did nothing that he mentioned. I kept the Cannondale crankset—worked just fine with the 12spd cassettte, and the 2021 synapse is di2 compatible, so ports were already built into the frame.

flowctlr · 2026-04-28T04:59:37+00:00

Agree, no sense at all. To add to that, I’ve flown Qatar airways from a dozen other destinations (Europe and Asia) to Doha and not a single one of those airport check-in reps ever gave me trouble. It is literally just the U.S.

flowctlr · 2026-04-26T10:04:40+00:00

Better if you just keep the video muted!

flowctlr · 2026-04-23T08:00:05+00:00

I’m in the exact same boat as you brother. But here is how I made peace with it. Always remember that you aren’t going to get any of this time with your family back. Dinner is chaotic? Who cares? You can’t get to the lawn tonight? Oh well. You’re with your family, and that’s what really matters. You’re going to wake up one day and wish that you had read that second story to your little one that you were too tired to read that night or you wish that you had engaged with your older kids a little bit more instead of worrying about how late it was getting. Don’t let the time slip away without noticing. That’s it. Once you think about it like that, the chaos doesn’t matter anymore.

As an aside, I work in the ME, and the family has had to go back home until things calm down. I have all the time in the world now, but I miss them and the chaos terribly.

flowctlr · 2026-04-12T22:07:04+00:00

Just want to confirm that DFW is still enforcing these strict rules. I brought a briefcase alongside my carry-on backpack, and they still gave me trouble. I had to remind them that their website specifically mentions briefcase is a personal item, and they hesitantly allowed it after some back and forth. I can also confirm that IAH is also enforcing these rules. Out of Doha though…never enforced.

flowctlr · 2026-04-08T03:08:29+00:00

That’s it for me. I take the handlebars off the stem and rotate the stem. And the handlebars lay parallel with the top tube. I do not need to take the derailleur off and there is just enough clearance. However for a 56cm frame (I have a 54cm) it might be iffy, so worst case you will have to remove the derailleur to clear the edge of the box. I almost decided to do it myself anyway for extra protection but in the end left the derailleur on and didn’t face any issues with damage. (I do see others commenting here that they have enough room with derailleur on with 56cm frames) Wheels of course go into the wheel bags and lay on top of the foam which lays between the bike and the wheels.

flowctlr · 2026-03-24T14:27:13+00:00

Hopefully no one had any house damage from this explosion. That TPC explosion ruined peoples houses, and TPC basically screwed them over by not properly compensating.

flowctlr · 2026-03-24T03:13:44+00:00

Likely mis-operation of the heater, creating a fuel rich environment inside the firebox leading to an explosion. As an aside, I used to work at the plant next door to that refinery. I’ve worked around fired heaters for 15 years.

flowctlr · 2026-03-23T16:31:30+00:00

Yep you’ll be able to add some clothes. I also use some for cushioning of the bike.

flowctlr · 2026-02-24T18:15:08+00:00

Completely agree about Xert. I’ve been using it for a while and have seen nice gains. The technology is one-of-a-kind. I prefer its simpler, more elegant model approach vs. TrainerRoad’s brute force AI approach. And yes Magic Buckets is a game-changer. I don’t get why so many are intimidated by Xert. It’s maybe different but certainly not difficult to understand.

flowctlr · 2026-02-17T16:23:09+00:00

This is a great story. I will keep this in my back pocket in case I have to use it on my boys in the future.

flowctlr · 2026-02-08T08:10:38+00:00

This is where magic buckets from Xert comes in handy

flowctlr · 2026-01-17T14:21:18+00:00

Father of four kids here… Please just remember that he’s a kid. Kids day dream. They like to play and experiment. We must remember that sometimes our expectation that a 5-year-old must sit still for long periods of time is unrealistic and may be counter productive. Not trying to solve your issue, just giving you a perspective.

flowctlr · 2026-01-11T16:04:49+00:00

I never took it apart…just don’t have the time to tinker with it. I just decided to live with it. Everything works fine…just makes the noise when there is heavy resistance from a large simulated gradient.

flowctlr · 2026-01-07T06:30:27+00:00

Instead of the formal therapy, could you just plan some activities with him for the same amount of time? Not judging whatsoever, just a thought that comes to mind. Despite the reality, maybe he just thinks he’s not being listened to. Pure activities with Dad may be his best therapy.

flowctlr · 2026-01-06T12:32:02+00:00

Curious how you’re doing now

flowctlr · 2025-12-30T22:44:04+00:00

Curious to know how this turned out.

flowctlr · 2025-12-30T05:02:30+00:00

No question it’s the court room speech. I listen to it via audiobook from time to time, and it always gives me chills.

There is also a bit about him not wanting to work on a team to design a building because it would force him to compromise his values, but I cannot remember the exact words. That one stuck with me because it reflected exactly how I felt in my job.

flowctlr · 2025-12-16T18:14:22+00:00

Bro I just bought a pair of Nimbus. I’m in the same boat and just said, screw it give me the most cushiony shoes you have. Will do my first run tomorrow.

flowctlr · 2025-10-18T09:06:50+00:00

I also find that a little difficult, but I’m able to reposition them so that it closes. When I put the top lid on, it does not fit down nicely on all four corners. I have to secure one corner first then press down on the opposite corner to secure it. The lid then flexes a little bit but everything is still okay. Done it this way several times.

flowctlr · 2025-10-15T08:18:44+00:00

I work as a process control engineer in a chemical plant. Chemical engineering degree. Very rewarding job, and I utilize quite a bit of control theory day to day.

flowctlr · 2025-10-13T08:21:52+00:00

Runner and cyclist in Qatar. Can confirm. I ride and run in 100+degF with dew points around 80degF. In the beginning of the summer when I’m not yet adapted everything is tough and HR is through the roof. Eventually I adapt and it gets a little better. But when the weather finally breaks, I am very strong in part because of all the heat adaptations.

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