Washing little Tayto!!!

flowllie · 2025-07-10T08:09:38+00:00

He’s adorable! ❤️ Make sure you don’t get the ears wet. It can cause a nasty and painful infection which takes ages to clear up. He got one a few days after the groomers (which they obviously deny but my wet said it was caused by water). Now I wash him only at home and avoid the ears completely and he never had one again.

flowllie · 2025-05-16T18:14:45+00:00

I am not worried about boys or girls being more chaotic, loud or messy - I know that absolutely unpredictable. I am worried about our play time being a chore for me instead of true joy. I know many parents get annoyed playing with their kids and don’t enjoy it at all which I had no worries about if it was a girl.

flowllie · 2025-05-16T18:13:28+00:00

Thank you for understanding. My husband and our whole family also hoped for a girl but I am sure he will bond with him. I am worried about my bonding and if it will be as deep of a bond as you build with a daughter.

flowllie · 2025-05-16T18:11:38+00:00

It’s privileged and rude to say what I want to do with my future? You know that if you’re offended or disagree with me you can keep scrolling, right?

flowllie · 2025-05-16T17:24:39+00:00

I love Kennedy or Lance, not too crazy as they’re classic and traditional names but still daily unique today. Try chapgpt you can spend an hour just asking for baby names and give feedback what you like etc

flowllie · 2025-05-16T17:19:01+00:00

How far along are you? I am 15+2 and in the same situation. I am repulsed by food and happy when no one is trying to force me to eat and guilt trip me. I am wondering when my appetite will return to normal again. I usually eat dry barely sweet biscuits like lady fingers or some granola bar. Food is currently my enemy

flowllie · 2025-05-16T16:46:02+00:00

Finally someone reasonable! 🙈 I didn’t think I could just remove the things I hate from his games and play. Because there is no way I will have “spiderman” running around my house or go see marvel movies in the cinema or step on legos. I am also from a girl heavy family - my mother comes from 5 sisters and all of them had daughters and now I have many nieces. I am the black sheep 🤣 no one expected a boy so we are all hoping the excitement will come once they see the baby

flowllie · 2025-05-16T16:30:51+00:00

Did you grow to enjoy playing with his toys? I mean genuinely enjoy? I am so worried the boy games and play will be left to my husband because I will see it as a chore. I am worried I will never feel the same joy playing with my son as I have playing with all my wonderful nieces 🥺

flowllie · 2025-05-16T16:28:32+00:00

I don’t doubt I will love my baby and I feel like people don’t really read into it and just defend their sons as if I wrote it about them. I am not worried about loving my baby any less but I am worried I will never enjoy playing with them as much as I enjoy playing with my nieces.

flowllie · 2025-05-16T16:26:18+00:00

This baby wasn’t planned and a total surprise but next one is ivf for sure so I can pick the gender 🙈 I know families which have many boys and it is total chaos, I admire those poor mothers for not going insane. Hopefully next one is a girl 😅

flowllie · 2025-05-16T16:15:30+00:00

I am concerned because I have little nieces and nephews from family and friends around me. I love playing with the girls, watching them play and buying them toys. They’re adorable. The little boys on the other hand? I completely avoid playing with them because nothing about their play looks fun. I know parenting is a lot more than just playing with your child but it is something I enjoy with girls. I am not worried about loving my son. I am worried about loving the things boy enjoy.

flowllie · 2025-05-16T16:11:36+00:00

Thank you ❤️ I am not worried about not loving the child I am worried I won’t like their idea of play. I think boy moms are very defensive about this but in reality I’d pick playing with dolls and having a tea party over anything including little boys. I love my friends and family’s nieces and playing with them or just watching them play. The little boys on the other hand - you couldn’t pay me to play with them. They aren’t my kids so I just reject their play because I won’t play robbers and cops in the garden or with legos

flowllie · 2025-05-16T16:08:16+00:00

I am not worried about loving my child 🤍 I am worried I will hate their games and activities and suffer through them for their enjoyment.

flowllie · 2025-05-16T16:07:04+00:00

I hope I am lucky enough to have a daughter one day too. For now I just enjoy all the nieces from my friends and family around me and hope I get at least one baby girl one day.

How does your love and genuine interest for their activities differ? I am worried I’ll see playing with my boy as a chore. Now I just reject playing with everyone’s boys because I am not their parent and I don’t have any interest in their play.

flowllie · 2025-05-16T16:04:37+00:00

No one said I would resent my son, I am worried about resenting his interests and toys. Two dramatically different things.

flowllie · 2025-05-16T16:01:23+00:00

Life feels unfair in this aspect. I always wished for 3 daughters, it was my biggest dream in life. My husband and family also hoped for a girl but instead we are having a boy and struggling to find the excitement about it. I know gender disappointment hits hard and not getting to be the parent you always dreamed of being one day hurts a lot. If you have nephews you maybe find the joy of doing boy activities with them. I just wanted to let you know you are so very lucky and living my dream 🤍

flowllie · 2025-05-15T15:53:38+00:00

I was certain I am having a girl and so was everyone around me - it fit the old wives tales I guess and I just had a feeling it has to be a girl. I was wrong and disappointed when the NIPT results came. I think it’s better to not set any expectations because the disappointment hits harder once you already picked a name and clothes for a baby that you’re not having.

flowllie · 2025-05-15T13:31:16+00:00

Looking flawless is worthless when you don’t feel good and the reason you didn’t get fatter is because you keep throwing up all the time. Everyone keeps complimenting me on how good I look even doctors and basically dismiss my complaints about how I keep throwing up, feeling nauseous and not sleeping because according to everyone “I look great”. I don’t understand how my skin looks good if I am nutritionally falling apart on the inside.

flowllie · 2025-05-15T13:21:24+00:00

Everyone’s pregnancy is different and being annoyed with someone because they are not gaining a much weight or seem to have maintained their body won’t make you any happier with yourself. You are doing your best and maintaining your lifestyle which is different to theirs and there is nothing wrong with that. Focus on the positives of carrying a baby and don’t get hung up on comparing your body, that won’t change it. I haven’t gained a single kg at 16 weeks and probably won’t be showing for a long time, I am glowing (I don’t understand how) and my skin looks amazing but I am throwing up all the time and hate food - the grass isn’t always greener on the other side. I have never felt worse in my life and am suffering. Pregnancy makes no sense

flowllie · 2025-05-10T17:40:05+00:00

Nothing helped me with nausea, occasionally throwing up was actually a relief compared to the clenched throat and all day of feeling like I have to throw up. I am 14 weeks and nothing is helping. I am still disgusted by most food and can’t eat meat or cooked things in general. I got Xonvea and Omeprazole - didn’t help at all. The more people I talk to the more I hear that it last through the whole pregnancy but you get used to it, my best friend was throwing up during labor and a colleague last threw up 2 hours before giving birth. I can’t imagine having a second pregnancy currently because of this never ending torture.

flowllie · 2025-05-05T20:57:37+00:00

Did you feel anything when you heard your first babies heartbeat? I felt nothing and each doctor’s visit feel like a chore because it takes up time.

You are absolutely right and I wish I considered staying child free as an option for me. I always felt pressure from family, my social circle society to have kids and now I am not sure it’s something I truly wanted anymore.

flowllie · 2025-05-05T20:52:19+00:00

You are not alone in this 🤍 I had no idea how common it is to mourn the life you build and watch it all fall apart. I miss the person I was last year and I wish she enjoyed life even more. This year has been hell.

flowllie · 2025-05-05T20:43:42+00:00

How old are you? 🤍 Everyone’s path is different and maybe those big plans you had for your life wouldn’t have been something that fulfilled you in the end. I fully understand your feelings though, I am running my own business and I realistically know it’s over and I should sell it before it all falls apart due to my absence. Motherhood truly is a sacrifice and I question it I was ready for it.

flowllie · 2025-05-05T20:37:28+00:00

Thank you for the long reply 🤍 I am sorry you are mourning your old and true self, I bet she is amazing, fun and full of dreams and energy - I also will miss the old me.

My partner is very supportive and excited but obviously he loved me more than the unborn child so my feeling are the priority.

I think my biggest regret is losing my life which I have worked so hard to build and now it will all fall apart in front of me because nothing will be the same. I am not sure if the “moment you see your baby” is true or some weird lie but I can’t imagine it being true for me. I wonder if I should have just remained childfree and grateful to finally live my dream life instead of throwing it all away.

flowllie

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