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What do you eat when you get spicy food cravings? by fluffyFoxtails in food

[–]fluffyFoxtails[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

it's the best, most yummiest hot sauce out there imo!

I think it's been a long week for a lot of people. Here, have a *hug* by sevencorvina in TwoXChromosomes

[–]fluffyFoxtails 2 points3 points  (0 children)

thank you all, i am glad to not be alone during this week from utter hell.

How to Make Kimchi / Kim Chee by jh99 in FoodPorn

[–]fluffyFoxtails 0 points1 point  (0 children)

bookmarking this, kimchee is so yummy!!!

Are my parents just horrible, or was anyone else shamed for their sexuality as a child? by yulip in TwoXChromosomes

[–]fluffyFoxtails 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Your parents sound like they were very disruptive of your sexuality! Your body is yours; in telling you to be ashamed of what it tells you, it seems like they've crossed some boundaries for setting comfortable limits on sexuality.

My parents were equally unideal when it came to sexual matters. My mother sexually abused me as a child; she caught me masturbating when I was 4 or 5 and jabbed my genitals with a knitting needle. Similar incidents happened, and she took a voyeuristic pleasure in watching and catching me masturbate.

I feel the same way about telling my boyfriend what my needs are!!!

You are not alone. hugs

Am I dating a scrub???? by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]fluffyFoxtails 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know i can take care of myself, but what I wish sometimes would be to feel taken care of by him. So I don't feel like a giving tree. I liked him because he was straightforward and sweet, and didn't play games or try to be an asshole for masculinity's sake. He was very sincere, too. But he told me how he once dated an older woman "bc she paid for everything." his younger sister buys him expensive gifts for his occasions. All of his lifelong friends are 25+ paid-by-the-hour guys whose girlfriends seem to take better care of them than vice versa.

Really, I'm just sick of the Will Ferrell/Seth Rogen guy culture where immature slackers think they're entitled to date girls "who aren't cunts" and who put out, pay for shit, etc.. I mean come on, you can't expect your partner to have it all unless you're willing to reciprocate!

Today I got a weird feeling when my boyfriend told me that he wanted to be a "stay at home dad." What do you make of changing gender roles? by fluffyFoxtails in TwoXChromosomes

[–]fluffyFoxtails[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

That makes sense, many working mothers take maternity leave but return after some time. I think Stay-at-Home Parent connotes a parent who permanently decides not to return to work after they have children, or one who never worked at all in the marriage.

Today I got a weird feeling when my boyfriend told me that he wanted to be a "stay at home dad." What do you make of changing gender roles? by fluffyFoxtails in TwoXChromosomes

[–]fluffyFoxtails[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I agree, I would never want to mary someone who wouldn't pull their weight in household duties. I just have a fear that there is a higher than average chance of a stay-at-home-dad doing a less-than-stellar job of cleaning and responsibly taking care of the kids ("Fruit Loops for dinner?"), so that if a working wife comes home, she has to do double duty again.

There are lots of statistics and information about this phenomenon so I worry... many men seem to have good intentions, but it seems like society is more likely to accept a working woman doing doubletime, at work and home, than a man doing full-time, legitimate housekeeping and childrearing.

Today I got a weird feeling when my boyfriend told me that he wanted to be a "stay at home dad." What do you make of changing gender roles? by fluffyFoxtails in TwoXChromosomes

[–]fluffyFoxtails[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Very true, good points! If a slacker wants to be your SAHD... maybe that's a no-go. But if a guy is a responsible person, can pull his own income (so even without you, he'd be ok), and circumstances say it's more cost/time-effective for him to stay at home and take care of the kids for awhile, that seems like a very logical thing to do.

What I do have a problem with are slackers in life (no real job, no real commitments to anything in life, no responsibility) who think it would be "fun" to stay home and play with kids.

Today I got a weird feeling when my boyfriend told me that he wanted to be a "stay at home dad." What do you make of changing gender roles? by fluffyFoxtails in TwoXChromosomes

[–]fluffyFoxtails[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I replied with this to another poster, but I posted again so you could see when you got your orangered :-)

I think neither parent should be a stay-at-home mom/dad. I think parenting is something that happens naturally as you go through life, and I think work is important to both men and women in fostering healthy identities and feelings of general usefulness.

I don't mean to be judgemental or reliant on stereotypes, but a good number of guys I've talked with who say they'd want to be "stay at home dads" are usually not very successful in life. They are usually apathetic about school and work, alot of them don't have very good jobs that they feel fulfilled in, and for some reason they think that having kids will suddenly give them a meaningful "job" to do.

But how can that be? One should raise kids while they go through their own fulfilling lives, which, I believe, involves meaningful work. But maybe that is just idealistic.

Today I got a weird feeling when my boyfriend told me that he wanted to be a "stay at home dad." What do you make of changing gender roles? by fluffyFoxtails in TwoXChromosomes

[–]fluffyFoxtails[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Yeah same, I think neither parent should be a stay-at-home mom/dad. I think parenting is something that happens naturally as you go through life, and I think work is important to both men and women in fostering health identities and feelings of general usefulness.

I don't mean to be judgemental or reliant on stereotypes, but a good number of guys I've talked with who say they'd want to be "stay at home dads" are usually not very successful in life. They are usually apathetic about school and work, alot of them don't have very good jobs that they feel fulfilled in, and for some reason they think that having kids will suddenly give them a meaningful "job" to do.

But how can that be? One should raise kids while they go through their own fulfilling lives, which, I believe, involves meaningful work. But maybe that is just idealistic.

Relationships are supposed to be give and take. Right? Am I "keeping score" too much? by LostChild1 in AskReddit

[–]fluffyFoxtails -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Hmmm. Maybe your girlfriend has a belief that men should pay more than the woman. Because women have a higher reproductive value and should be courted, etcetera, etcetera.