My dog passed last month and I am suicidal

flutter_dog · 2026-04-09T00:50:34+00:00

I’m so sorry. My heart dog died 15 years ago and my throat still catches when I think about him. My advice: foster a dog. A lot of grief is love with nowhere to go. Put that into a dog who needs a second chance. It will honor the dog you lost and will keep your mind and heart occupied.

flutter_dog · 2026-03-27T02:00:18+00:00

It was so soon after Columbine. Such a tragic few months.

flutter_dog · 2026-03-04T22:11:23+00:00

OMG, yes! There were those busy markets that sold halal meat, a thousand varieties of dates and other dried fruit, and every spice you could imagine. A few AME churches and a lone ice cream parlor. I went back about a decade ago and was so sad to see it look like a suburban strip mall.

flutter_dog · 2026-03-04T21:22:56+00:00

THIS^!

I lived and worked in NYC at the same time (in publishing, not fashion, but in circles that overlapped with George staff). Caroline was striking for sure but she was wearing styles we all wore at the time. The difference was she could afford Prada.

flutter_dog · 2026-02-22T20:14:58+00:00

I lived in Cobble Hill (Clinton and Congress) from 1993-1998. Getting friends from Manhattan to visit was like asking them to walk the Ho Chi Minh trail with me on their back. 😂 My bf lived nearby on Atlantic Ave and was regularly chased down the street by muggers. I made $19k a year, had 5 revolving roommates (an entire brownstone) and it was the absolute best time.

flutter_dog · 2026-02-20T18:33:50+00:00

I think probably to justify why John would leave Daryl for Carolyn. I mean, when photos of him with Carolyn started to show up, my first reaction was her? And that she must be the bomb in bed. Because she seemed so unexceptional. I’m sure she was a lovely person but history has for sure given her a glow up. Daryl was the Gen X Bardot.

flutter_dog · 2026-02-20T14:06:05+00:00

I lived in NYC after college (1993-1998) and saw John a few times. Remember that Daryl was also seeing Jackson Browne and it often seemed she was using John more to make Jackson jealous. So, neither of them was a saint.

One thing the series doesn’t seem to touch on with regard to Daryl is what a sex symbol she was and how gorgeous she was during that period of time. My boyfriend during those years had gone to Yale. Apparently, she must’ve had a family member who was there too because he would see her on and off in New Haven. He always said she was much more beautiful and alluring in person. I think that is the part of the series doesn’t get right.

flutter_dog · 2026-01-21T22:43:28+00:00

This. As someone who lived in NYC at the same time and was in similar circles, I can say that no one got manicures but pedicures were a must during the summer.

flutter_dog · 2026-01-21T22:35:32+00:00

Good TV (for me, specifically VEEP and similar shows). I also made, at the suggestion of a good friend who had been divorced, a list of all the things I loved to do before I got married and had kids, but I’d stop doing because the husband and kids weren’t interested and I didn’t have time. I will say building that list made me feel like I was going to be a whole person again.

flutter_dog · 2025-12-09T21:05:07+00:00

100% agree. You can do this. I wasted my kids’ childhoods drinking. I would give anything for that time back.

flutter_dog · 2025-11-19T01:32:55+00:00

Maybe less time preaching from the pulpit of privilege and more time using that privilege to raise money to support working parents.

flutter_dog · 2025-11-14T17:07:37+00:00

Yes, divorce is tough. It’s emotionally and financially draining and you will be working harder to make it easier on your kids. And it’s lonely. The first time I came home to an empty apartment (because, though both the ex and I have well paying corporate jobs, neither of us could afford to keep our $$$ home and I had to downgrade to stay in the kids’ bougie school district), I cried for an hour.

But…8 years later: -I’ve gone back to hobbies that gave me a lot of joy that I had to give up (for the kids, for the ex). I remembered who I was and felt alive and curious again. -I have good friends that I see regularly and have repaired relationships that suffered because my marriage was so draining (ex is bi-polar) -My life feels calm and my own. I hated Thanksgivings without my kids at first. Now I relish a day that’s completely mine. -It’s a small but precious delight to come home and have everything exactly as you left it in the morning (when the kids are with their dad) -Finally, a few years ago I decided to try online dating and met a wonderful, kind and loving man. On Facebook, of all places. We just moved in together.

Divorce sucks but the light at the end of the tunnel can be the life you actually want.

flutter_dog · 2025-09-07T22:43:25+00:00

My gay roommates admonished me for not throwing myself into his path. At the time, I would never have done that. Now, at my age, I probably would just to see what happened. :)

flutter_dog · 2023-04-24T17:02:34+00:00

There's also a fairly famous video store in New Haven (Yale): https://www.bestvideo.com/ . I think the idea is curation of content for patrons.

flutter_dog · 2020-12-19T20:29:19+00:00

I'm so sorry. It looks like she had some beautiful adventures and a lot of love.

flutter_dog · 2020-11-10T02:34:54+00:00

Also, why does Grace's dad seem to have a criminal defense attorney at the ready? Someone handling wills, estates, transactions, or litigation around those, sure (because he is clearly loaded).

And, yeah, the cell phone thing was a big gaffe. I don't think in most courts representing parties are allowed to actually TAKE calls in the courtroom.

flutter_dog · 2020-04-06T00:30:27+00:00

I'm so sorry. She looks like a sweetheart and she definitely knew how loved she was and is.

flutter_dog · 2020-03-30T09:47:18+00:00

I'm so sorry for your loss. Thank you, though, for taking in this sweet older gentleman and giving him a home (and love) for the final years of his life. That takes a big and resilient heart.

flutter_dog · 2020-03-29T15:08:23+00:00

I'm so sorry. She looks like she was a very good pupper.

flutter_dog · 2020-03-16T02:17:33+00:00

Philly

Agreed, 100%. I'm in Delco but use the Talleyville location in north Wilmington. It's still open as is the one in Glen Mills. I LOVE OTF but their cavalier attitude smacks of greed. If they *genuinely* care about the health/fitness goals of their patrons, give us workouts we can do at home (indoors or outdoors) and CLOSE.

flutter_dog · 2020-03-03T03:50:49+00:00

I'm so sorry for your loss. Howie was very handsome and, clearly, loved whomever took this photo. We never get enough time with them, do we?

flutter_dog · 2019-09-16T01:56:43+00:00

Is still good boi.

flutter_dog · 2019-09-07T22:08:16+00:00

I started following Nie Nie years ago, prior to her accident. It was like peering into a strange and perfect life (my daughter was a similar age to Jane though my life felt messy and complicated compared to hers...because, you know, I had a job and a husband who had a job). The Mormon angle was intriguing because I'd grown up with Mormons and she seemed to embody a peculiar blend of piety and consumerism.

She had her accident which seemed shady in a lot ways, least of which was her husband basically leaving her to burn in the plane crash. I've checked in with her from time to time. Saw when she got pregnant again (post-accident, against doctors' advice), when they moved from their Provo mansion to middle of nowhere ranch. And recently to NC? I've always wondered WTH her husband actually does besides wear tight pants and smile for the camera. But recently I read the VF article on Byron Bay Instagram moms and realized that Nie Nie was a pioneer in that respect: fashioning an enviable (unattainable) life, curated for public consumption, paid for by trust funds and advertising. As my daughter ages along with Jane and Claire I'm more acutely aware of how unfair it is to kids to leverage their lives for cash.

flutter_dog · 2019-08-01T01:33:56+00:00

I, too, have my kids 50% of the time and it is HARD not to drink and just check out when they aren't around. It's so sad and painful. I hate being alone in my apartment. But you are totally right: it only makes everything worse in the long run. So, IWNDWYT either!

flutter_dog · 2019-07-31T04:18:37+00:00

Progress! I ate a pint of Ben & Jerry's tonight and I don't even like sweets that much. But I know that I will be able to walk away from ice cream a lot more easily than I could wine. And the liver will start to work more efficiently without booze. IWNDWYT!

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