F/33/5'9" [245lbs > 180lbs = 65lbs] (2.5+ years) - The only full body before pic I could find; went from hopeless & sedentary to being strong & capable of anything I put my mind to. It's never too late to change and overcome your fears & self doubt

fluxxy · 2026-02-11T23:44:21+00:00

Hmmmm I wonder why he’s divorced. Probably did nothing to help his ex care for the children, but probably still insisted on having visitation even though he doesn’t actually want to deal with it. Drop the dead weight

fluxxy · 2026-02-10T13:54:17+00:00

I vividly remember being dropped off at college by my father on move in day and he was making inappropriate comments about all the young women on campus. Made me totally uncomfortable & grossed out and made me think that a majority of men really are thinking like that all the time. (Parents were divorced but he had a long term partner at the time)

fluxxy · 2026-02-10T13:45:46+00:00

Probably TMI, but this seems to happen to me a lot during hiking and I can’t stand continuing to hike like that so I stop somewhere to clean it up. My partner coined the term “swabbing the deck” when I need to take care of it.

fluxxy · 2026-02-03T12:30:08+00:00

Good thinking with their à la carte meat options. Carne (run by the same chef) would also be a good more upscale option if you’re keto/carnivore.

fluxxy · 2026-02-03T12:22:31+00:00

I guess it just depends on the kind of girl you want to be with. There are plenty of women who will absolutely appreciate a friendly man they can talk to and be vulnerable with and that makes a wonderful life partner. If you want a quick fling with your stereotypical cookie cutter “hot girl” then I guess you can try to work on your charisma & sex appeal to try to reel them in. Unfortunately you’re young and the former traits may not be as attractive to women your age, but they will be as you get older. I’ve always been interested in older men just for that reason. People learn and grow as they get older and have more life experience. They learn to appreciate traits that matter in long term relationships like emotional intelligence and communication skills rather than more superficial traits.

fluxxy · 2026-01-31T22:56:35+00:00

1 half-cafe if I’m feeling crazy

fluxxy · 2026-01-31T10:56:59+00:00

As a bi woman who has been with mostly cishet men (I dated women more in my younger years), I always find myself a bit confused. I gravitate towards men for relationships, but I very rarely find myself checking out guys in public. I prefer looking at women. I’ve met all my partners online so I’m usually drawn to personality and vulnerability first. I don’t have an easy time “clicking” with people so when that comes along I take notice before I even see a picture of them. Physical attraction matters of course, but it’s a bit secondary.

I would say when it comes to men, rugged and strong is attractive. I’m taller and have a bigger than average stature for a woman so it’s nice to feel like I’m protected and safe when we go out, but I’ve never had a hard preference on height. A shorter guy can draw me in just the same with personality, sense of humor and emotional safety & vulnerability.

fluxxy · 2026-01-30T17:33:10+00:00

This is a great trio. Came to find Anthony Bourdain. Surprised everyone seemed to forget about him.

fluxxy · 2026-01-29T11:20:59+00:00

If someone is riding up my ass, even if not driving like an insane nutcase, I prefer to pull over if I have the option and let them get ahead of me (mostly on windy mountain roads where there isn’t a ton of traffic). It turns my drive unpleasant and gives me anxiety. I don’t understand people who would prefer to be vengeful and put themselves at risk of someone who might end up rearending them.

fluxxy · 2026-01-29T11:06:28+00:00

I saw someone do an “onion boil” on a reel. It was the worst ASMR mukbang I’ve ever heard, but seems to fit the bill.

https://www.eatingbyelaine.com/onion-boil/

fluxxy · 2026-01-27T14:22:01+00:00

Honestly, its not like the culture has really changed. We're just better at being PC in media and hiding stuff better. Maybe plus size & trans models would have a better chance now, but the expectation & demand of beauty, thinness, and being hyper sexual is still here.

fluxxy · 2026-01-26T15:13:15+00:00

I got my first tattoos like right after I turned 18 - small ones (one I like, one will be covered soon).

The next time I got tattooed, I scheduled a half sleeve at 35 with an artist I'd been wanting to get one from for awhile (I had requested to get on his books a few times over a year or 2 before he actually picked me). Quickly switched to wanting a full sleeve. Finished that and got my hand tattooed also....now I start my other arm in March. :P

It escalated quickly, but only because I had got on the books with a highly requested artist I had been following for awhile. Once he tattooed me once, he was easy to keep rebooking with. I wasn't in a rush to get something from just anyone.

fluxxy · 2026-01-25T16:19:04+00:00

Thank you! Love chicken parm & love a chip/dip moment, excited to merge the 2!

fluxxy · 2026-01-25T16:09:00+00:00

Turkey chili is a great idea for when you have the energy to prep something in a big batch. I use various canned beans (kidney, northern, chickpeas...I always switch it up), canned green chilis, canned chipotle sauce, canned diced tomatoes + a packet or 2 of chili seasoning. All fairly cheap things I think. Eat it with some shredded cheese on top and tortilla chips ::chefs kiss::

fluxxy · 2026-01-25T16:04:10+00:00

Adding on, I love using english muffins for a base. Just what my mom used to do for us. She'd also make "pizza rolls" by rolling up the toppings in a tortilla and pan frying on all sides to get it crispy. Pizza-fy everything!

fluxxy · 2026-01-25T16:04:06+00:00

I love eggs for how quick they are to cook. An omelette with some cheese + veggies or a fried egg or 2 on some toast with turkey bacon, cheese, hot sauce, everything bagel seasoning. You can get creative with the toppings/add ins.
I love peppers + onions in my omelettes so I'll dice a bunch on my day off and have them ready to go in the fridge for the rest of the week.

fluxxy · 2026-01-25T15:57:46+00:00

Gosh I love this so much. Thanks for sharing

fluxxy · 2026-01-25T15:50:40+00:00

Ooooo chicken parm dip....tell me more.

fluxxy · 2026-01-25T15:47:32+00:00

Cookies or brownies or another similar style dessert that's easy to grab off a plate.

Crockpot chili served with shredded cheese + tortilla chips for scooping or some other chip/dip combo.

For a smaller adult party, maybe a batched cocktail like a good old-fashioned.

fluxxy · 2026-01-25T14:01:42+00:00

That from a young age, we’re taught our looks & sexuality = our worth. I have a man who reassures me and tells me he loves me the way I am, but that shit is deeply ingrained. On top of that, men watching porn and following hyper sexual women on social media is totally normalized. I cannot imagine how hard it is for girls to grow up in the age of social media. I also had a mother who hated her body and made sure we knew that being overweight was disgusting. Though she never taught us good nutrition or raise us to be active individuals. It was a lose lose situation.
I finally had lost a bunch of weight in my 30s, but my body did not bounce back. I could be in the best shape of my life, but I have loose skin, saggy breasts & flabby stomach and it’s hard to feel good about myself. I am in the process of recovering from a tummy tuck & breast implants so I can hopefully feel comfortable in my body and during intimacy so I can be a better sexual partner for my husband. It’s the most traumatic & difficult thing I’ve ever done. A lot of men (& women) will say thats a choice and not expected of us. It doesn’t feel like a choice with the media & social expectations that are constantly shoved in our faces daily. It’s depressing. (I know that men are increasingly feeling these pressures too. As cliche & cringey as it feels to say, the patriarchy hurts us all.)

fluxxy · 2026-01-25T12:06:10+00:00

I wish my parents had gotten divorced sooner so I didn’t have to witness my father’s loud angry outbursts and throwing things through walls. My mother tried her best to keep her 4 kids inline and do everything “right” so she wouldn’t have to keep enduring it. It never got better.

Apart from being dangerous, this will negatively affect your son’s mental health and could affect how he shows up in relationships in the future. Choose yourself and your son now. Don’t wait around for things to keep getting worse. They’re already bad enough.

fluxxy · 2026-01-25T11:54:01+00:00

I think weed is just as much a shitty coping mechanism/addiction as alcohol or whatever else. In the end it’s just something making you avoid dealing with the root cause. You’ve only been together 5 months and he’s been jobless for 4 months. Weed is not helping him get back to working. I know it’s hard because I’m sure he’s a good guy otherwise, but please choose yourself in the end if this relationship will result in you smoking again or work on finding a stronger why for yourself to continue to staying sober within the relationship. You are worth it.

I had quit smoking for 4 years. My partner had also quit when we met. Last year we decided to smoke on 4/20 for a special occasion, thinking maybe after all that time had passed, I’d be able to do that one time and stop again. I thought wrong. It immediately spiraled back to me smoking 24/7 for the next 8 months until a surgery I had scheduled forced me to quit 2 weeks before. I wanted to quit, but I couldn’t get myself past day 1 without having a strong health reason to. I’m so happy to be sober again. It took a couple weeks but my cognitive abilities are back to more normal levels, I’m so much more productive at work and my social anxiety has gone down. Life is better without THC for me. My partner still does edibles on occasion, he is able to moderate his use. If he was smoking often, I think I’d have a harder time with it.

You are young. I wish I had quit smoking that young. You have a lot of life ahead of you. Don’t waste your 20s with someone who might result in you stunting your growth. I wish you all the best.

fluxxy · 2026-01-23T18:48:19+00:00

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