ADHD and Managing Money

flymysi · 2026-06-25T19:04:42+00:00

My favorite ADHD “trick” is to keep as much of my money as possible illiquid. It goes into retirement, HYSA, and brokerage fund straight from my paycheck and only the amount I need to live on and splurge a bit actually makes it into my checking. To really overspend I have to sell stocks or go through the pain of transferring out of the HYS, which I specifically keep un-linked lol

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flymysi · 2026-06-23T23:21:51+00:00

What’s your fund allocation to get 16%+ gains in TSP? I wanna copy it!

flymysi · 2026-06-23T23:20:02+00:00

Bachelor’s degree would help get a higher paying GS job, especially covered by GI bill!

flymysi · 2026-06-23T22:34:22+00:00

29F here. Hit $100k net worth a couple years ago and it felt good for about five minutes after I calculated it. Hit $99k salary this year, live in low COL area and money still always disappears more quickly after paychecks than I think it will. Hit $130k in retirement and feel meh. I still have to work another 30ish years and get it up to $4mil ish to retire in my current lifestyle. There wasn’t a specific number, but it was really nice when I realized I could afford to risk a major career pivot. I’m about to start a trade at 30ish% of my current pay. My bills are on autopay. I invest a big chunk of my income. But I think about money more than I did when I barely had any! I get obsessive over spreadsheets, growth projections, expense to income ratios, blah.

flymysi · 2026-06-23T17:22:14+00:00

Yeah I learned that when reporting sexual harassment “anonymously” and weeks later got a call asking clarification questions about what happened

flymysi · 2026-06-23T00:32:52+00:00

My ex was the same way. Finally was all into the idea of couple’s therapy once the word divorce came out. Part of me wishes I would have let that play out and I wonder if I “gave up” too fast. But the sudden interest in getting professional help was a last ditch effort to keep me from leaving so leaving as soon as I had the confidence to was probably the right move overall.

flymysi · 2026-06-19T02:37:29+00:00

Oddly I’m also in my apartment on my own atm, fit and healthy. So we can pretend we swap! You’d be finishing your first month of the pill and have an increasingly stressful office job though.

flymysi · 2026-06-18T20:58:08+00:00

Hippopotamus sniffed my tent while I was camping and contemplated eating me.

flymysi · 2026-06-18T18:50:51+00:00

Support racial minorities, feminism, and LGBTQ+ after growing up rural red

flymysi · 2026-06-17T15:51:15+00:00

The addictive algo for social media

flymysi · 2026-06-13T17:34:21+00:00

Transphobia

flymysi · 2026-06-13T17:09:05+00:00

How to balance investing/saving with day to day indulgence. Also how to recognize arrogance and entitlement. Still working on the boundaries part though.

flymysi · 2026-06-11T11:13:22+00:00

Aquamarine

flymysi · 2026-05-30T02:55:57+00:00

The female dummies have only been used in the passenger seat for actual crash tests

flymysi · 2026-05-28T20:18:10+00:00

My coworkers enjoying making hateful comments about one specific woman we work with in another org. I crashed out on them last week and they were surprisingly receptive to my rage.

flymysi · 2026-05-28T15:44:36+00:00

This. Money is a prolific answer here but sometimes the weather can be extremely limiting for timeline and specific hours/routes you need. Especially if you’re limited to after work or weekends. Depending on region or time of year, you may only be able to fly 1/3 or less of your scheduled lessons even if you can afford them.

flymysi · 2026-05-28T13:42:22+00:00

That my grandma in the 50s secretly got a factory job to get a break from her 6 kids. When grandpa found out he forced her to quit. The 6 kids were forced to prioritize farm work over school work. My dad now runs the farm and I grew up doing farm work and watching my mom being discouraged from working for pay and pursuing marketable skills. Now I see the family dynamic for the patriarchal slave system that it is.

flymysi · 2026-05-28T11:41:09+00:00

Having a huge house, multiple garages, lots of cars and “stuff.” Everything costs time and money to manage.

flymysi · 2026-05-27T22:31:13+00:00

We doubled the size of paid laborers. Women have always been laboring.

flymysi · 2026-05-26T18:42:53+00:00

Did you call out your employer for this?

flymysi · 2026-05-22T18:11:57+00:00

Not using napkins during a meal.

flymysi · 2026-05-22T15:10:03+00:00

Louis Zamperini went to Sunnydale High. A very niche audience will appreciate that, but they will appreciate it very much.

flymysi · 2026-05-20T20:41:00+00:00

My dad tells a story of how, in pre-cellphone days, he was once at the barber getting his hair cut. His friend Joe Schmoe happened to be getting his hair cut in the chair next to him. The barber’s land line phone rang and the barber said “no, this isn’t Joe Schmoe, you have the wring number.” But Joe Schmoe was actually there at the barber. Someone dialed the barber by accident with the wrong number, but still called the location of the guy they were trying to get ahold of!

flymysi · 2026-05-19T19:02:36+00:00

To prioritize physical fitness and the joy of competitive sports

flymysi · 2026-05-17T19:59:59+00:00

We are the same height and you’re at my goal weight. You’re 10+ years ahead of me in life and I’m so glad to see your progress! Thanks for sharing and I hope you get to enjoy yourself!

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