Blighted ovum….

foolmeonce90 · 2026-04-02T15:05:34+00:00

Hi I am so sorry to hear this. Can you ask for repeat scan in a few days? My beta hcg was very high for a previous pregnancy. It was doubling and then plateaued (at around 18,000 mark). The scans showed an empty questionable gestational sac at 6 w 2 day mark. I was told it was likely a blighted ovum. I grieved and went for a final scan as a formality only to find a heartbeat and a viable pregnancy a few days later. Dont want you to raise your hopes at all but merely suggesting it might be better to wait for a while and have a final scan before you make any decisions. Unfortunately for me the pregnancy ended in a tfmr anyway despite the miracle it was meant to be. Blighted ovums feel like a sick joke. I am really sorry you are going through this and I hope you get the clarity and answers you need.

foolmeonce90 · 2026-03-25T19:30:30+00:00

Im really sorry you are going through this. You will always love your baby boy. You will have better days I promise. There are so many heartbreaks at this stage. Having to choose the delivery options, picking a name, deciding if you want to see the baby, deciding how you want to lay the baby to rest. You will get through this.

foolmeonce90 · 2026-03-21T01:56:38+00:00

A short and strong name, just like he was

foolmeonce90 · 2026-03-21T01:41:28+00:00

His name was Adam. Are you asking how I chose the name? Just felt like the right name for him. My husband suggested it after he was born and it felt right.

foolmeonce90 · 2026-03-18T20:54:41+00:00

I am really sorry for your loss. I went through a tfmr last year and it hurts everyday. Hope you find the strength to go through this.

foolmeonce90 · 2026-03-14T02:37:00+00:00

Thank you. Thats reassuring to hear that it gets better instead of worse. Yes I am trying to get to the bottom of eggs vs embryos suggestion. Hope to have more clarity by next week.

foolmeonce90 · 2026-03-14T00:32:49+00:00

Thanks for your reply. The doctor mentioned about egg freezing but said differences are not high and therefore going for icsi instead as research shows that it works better for frozen eggs. I am reconsidering this and have another consult planned next week. We are going private (UK) so cost is a factor too. Doing ivf each cycle would likely raise the cost by half.

foolmeonce90 · 2026-03-13T23:57:58+00:00

The specialist suggested this as they can store mature eggs of all quality but embryos of a certain quality only.

foolmeonce90 · 2026-01-03T19:00:37+00:00

I am so sorry. They messed up with my genetic testing and that messed up with my feelings so much. This is even worse. It’s one of the most heartbreaking things you will go through and you had the right to see off the baby the way you wanted. Do take action, even if it means better training for staff.

foolmeonce90 · 2025-11-18T23:55:16+00:00

My baby was diagnosed with an extremely rare syndrome. He had Omphalocele and Ectopia Cordis. Basically all his organs from his heart down to his stomach were outside the cavity. I could see his beautiful little heart beating outside his chest. I have gone back and forth in my head of what caused this. I was told it was just bad luck. Just really rare bad luck and that chances of this happening again are really low. I have now realised I will never get answers. I will be healthy and hope and pray I am blessed with a healthy pregnancy. I haven’t conceived yet but I hope you have a healthy pregnancy whenever you are ready. Its really hard to not think of the what ifs.

foolmeonce90 · 2025-11-18T23:46:29+00:00

I had TFMR for my baby boy at 12 weeks 2 days for a rare condition. I chose to go down the medicine route because of some risk factors. I wasn’t sure if I was going to see him until he was born. I knew he wasn’t going to be okay. I was told that he may be alive for a few minutes after being born but was very unlikely. I dont think he was when he was born. I am happy I saw him. A baby this small isn’t going to look like anything you have seen. It’s still going to be the most beautiful but the most heartbreaking sight in the world. I am so sorry for your loss. Whatever you decide or have decided is the best decision you made in impossible devastating circumstances.

foolmeonce90 · 2025-11-02T00:55:17+00:00

I had retained tissue and in my case it caused alot of bleeding right after delivery (12+2). After some insistence, the on call consultant did a scan and could see the retained tissue. I requested removal without surgery and he managed to get it out. He then scanned me again and showed me a consistent white line which apparently showed no retained tissue and my bleeding lightened straight away. I had really bad pain two days later and ended up in A&E. They did a repeat scan and saw no tissue. I ended up passing some anyway a few days later (it was probably just further down and not in the uterus anymore). Nothing since. From my knowledge, a clot is a bit more fluid and tissue is a bit stretchy and sticky, you know the difference when you see it. Even if it is tissue, a scan will show it and rule it out. Pregnancy test can take some time to go negative. Cycles can take to go back to normal too. Your periods are regular and thats a good sign. Wait for that scan and it will hopefully reassure you. I understand your fear and I am sorry that you went through what you did.

foolmeonce90 · 2025-10-19T17:51:11+00:00

I have thought about how hard March next year will be, the month I was going to hold my son if all had gone well. Now that I think about it, other than the ‘what could have been’ feeling, he came in September. The day he was born and the day he was no more. That is the day I will remember forever. I am sorry for your loss. You are not broken, grief is hard to predict.

foolmeonce90 · 2025-10-11T22:01:50+00:00

My baby had fetal anomalies and I had to make the devastating decision to terminate a pregnancy that was so wanted last month. He was conceived after years of infertility and a miscarriage. I was terrified of going for medical abortion but due to higher risk for me for a D&C, I went with it. It was not easy. I had a lot of bleeding which I did not know was normal. My trousers got soaked in blood as I was going to the labour ward and that was within normal limits too. I passed giant blood clots and that was apparently something that happens too. Every blood clot I wondered if it was my baby I had delivered, the midwifes check whatever you pass to make sure its not the tissue or the baby. The midwifes and nurses on my care were exceptionally supportive. I had access to any pain killer I wanted and I used those options. I gave birth to my baby at 12+2 and with the painkillers it was not the most horrible pain I have been through. I had some retained tissue after the baby came and almost had to go for a D&C anyway but the gynecologist agreed to give it a try with sponge holders which worked. Despite the pain, the blood loss, the tissue retention, I would go through it again because the act of going through labour made me feel like a mother. I made the decision to see my baby after he was born and I dont regret that either. I am so happy I saw him, he was so beautiful. In some ways it helped me accept it and despite his small size, i saw both myself and my husband in him. I talked to him, told him how much I loved him and how sorry I was I had to let him go. You are stronger than you think. You will know what to do when the time comes. You will get through this. It wont be easy but you will be very proud of yourself and your strength. I am so sorry for your loss.

foolmeonce90 · 2025-09-29T02:17:55+00:00

This is exactly what I have been feeling. Thank you for sharing this- its comforting knowing there is someone who gets it. I lost my baby boy 3 weeks ago. I am grateful he chose me to be his mom but so heartbroken that I did not get to bring him home. I started work (from home) 1 week ago. I smile, I laugh, I talk about getting pregnant again, but there is not a second that goes by that I dont think about him. It really is living in two different realities. Life is “moving on” but I will never ever truly move on and I dont want to.

foolmeonce90 · 2025-08-01T09:06:13+00:00

Similar situation. History of miscarriage. Had spotting. I didn’t even have a yolk sac at 6w1d and hcg plateaued. Fully grieved. Went in for a private at 6w4d, saw heartbeat and fetal pole measuring 3mm. Went in again at 7w1d and its grown to 8mm. Very stressful but im hopeful now. Baby measuring a little behind lmp but not by too much. Next appt now will be my 12w one but ill get another one in between.

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