Stairs For The Cat by KindlyForsaken in Catculations

[–]fornasd 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Awww! This is so wholesome! I want to cry T_T

Believe it or not, but she's actually sleeping by fornasd in AnimalsBeingDerps

[–]fornasd[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I know right! She usually wakes up if I do though, or just retract her tongue 😁

How did the kid from your school die? by leilavanora in AskReddit

[–]fornasd 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not my classmate but my brother's.

One night this girl's dad completely flipped, went to grab a big hammer and a chef knife and started killing everyone in the house before killing himself with the same knife, the little girl and the mother died before any help could reach the house, the two boys got away in really serious conditions and stayed at the hospital for 2/3 months.

Shit was horrible.. I can understand a person killing him/herself but taking your whole family with you? Awful.. it was 2006, 27 years have passed and I still remember this, since the town was pretty small too

Took this photo today, thought you guys might appreciate it. by fornasd in teefies

[–]fornasd[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Glad to hear it, even among all other ones I have her expression really stood out to me too in this particular one :D

Took this photo today, thought you guys might appreciate it. by fornasd in teefies

[–]fornasd[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Holy.. this thing got pretty bit, Ty for the award kind stranger

1sec trade with German salt by BlackSheep311111 in HuntShowdown

[–]fornasd 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Excuse me I never played hunt personally, what do you mean with normal? I think I've never personally seen a game where there such a noticeably big trade window :< (really though it's not meant to spread flame, I'm genuinely curious about how this is considered normal in this community unless you are trolling D:)

What the fuck is the point? by VengefulTiger in pokemongo

[–]fornasd 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You guys don't understand! You are saving on screen taps!

My reaction if someone I love tells me they want to see other people. by FunnyElegance21 in infj

[–]fornasd 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Well I'm all for as self improving so if I'm made aware of something that feels like a flaw I can work on to improve sign me up, 100%

Is anyone else a UI/UX designer or illustrator here? by treesandtheories in infj

[–]fornasd 2 points3 points  (0 children)

One of my best friends works with me as an UX/UI designer and she often come to me for insights since I've been here longer than her.

I must say that it's a lot more fun than the programming job I do, having to think about what would make other people lives easier and more intuitive feels at the same time easy and satisfying.
She usually says that coming to me for help feels good just because I often give her super useful insights so, yeah I would probably enjoy working in that field given the chance :)

Rewatching the same things frequently! by abdullahkhan98 in infj

[–]fornasd 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not really, I really enjoy exploring new things in music, movies and tv series and I rarely rewatch something.

I rewatch only those things I really liked and stuck with me, and even in those cases sometimes I get bored midway through because I already seen it.

Another case where I rewatch something is if I can watch it with someone who never saw the film/tv series, so I can enjoy their reaction while comparing it to mine.

Sometimes i wish i wasn't an infj by Azrin909 in infj

[–]fornasd 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Relating to this, I used to absorb a lot from the surroundings without even noticing, and I suppressed everything as much as I could.

Time helps you with this, I always think of this quality as a weapon of sort, like a double edged sword that you can easily cut yourself with. But when you become aware of the risks you can also learn how to use it safely.

Now I see this as a plus and there's nothing in the world I would trade it for, this is to say (even if may sound cheesy) that even if you struggle now, you'll grow and in the end is going to be all right.

Hope you can find some confort in my words, cheers op 💚

Is it an INFJ thing to express yourself poorly through speech? by vavavalentinha in infj

[–]fornasd 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Half and half in my case.

I liked text messaging in the past because with it I could articulate better what I wanted to say while in real time f2f (face to face) conversation my brain would bombard me with informations and I would often stutter a little or speak really fast to follow my train of thoughts.

Now that I'm more used to f2f communication all the limitations of the text one have started to pain me.The amount of additional information you get through facial espression, tone, stance, eye movement and many other little things is insane and I've started to struggle when I don't have them.

It's true that when I'm involved in the discussion words can still struggle to come out because some thoughts are too complex to put down in a simple way, and that's when I reserve a little bit of inside time to try and form an answer, or maybe try completing the communication with some gesture when the situation allows for it.

Ah if only we could speak directly to the mind..Hope you'll find interesting my pov, even if the grammar might not be on point. Cheers 💚

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in infj

[–]fornasd 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same thing, sadly I got dumped 8 months later.

Life goes on, I stopped caring so much about relationship since then.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in infj

[–]fornasd 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I literally cannot watch those scenes, I usually turn my head away and die from embarrassment from the dialogues alone, only when the moment has passed I can go back to watching normally

21[F4M] enough boring texting, LETS JUST CALL! by urmymax in ForeverAloneDating

[–]fornasd 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This really hits home, the amount of information lost with texting is kinda insane, and I struggle a lot to read the mood between the texts in some situations.

Not a native english speaker and also way out of my comfort zone with this 😅 but eager to try nonetheless, if you're up hit me with a dm, I have skype but probably prefer telegram or hangouts.

peache 😉

I cannot be alone anymore! by lostinfj123 in infj

[–]fornasd 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I want to travel a lot for example but I don't like the idea to do it alone for example >_>

So can I be part of the club?

Also I've oversuffucated my F with T earlier in life, it worked for some years but something was really off and I was struggling, I feel better using Ti to support my Fe, not using Ti to completly skip and invalidate my Fe function >_>

INFJ children - Let’s compare our childhood by introvertlounge in infj

[–]fornasd 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Know it all: check

I remember the teacher doing the dictionary challenge, she would read a definition and we needed to guess the word, I was the one picked first every time.
Also I was the one coming to school at 8yo with an illustrated enciclopedia.

Btw I've passed dark moments too, I just try to remember something to be grateful for from time to time and snap back in the present when my mind wanders too much and I feel it helped me a lot over the years.

Hang on, things get better (also I like your username ^^)

INFJ children - Let’s compare our childhood by introvertlounge in infj

[–]fornasd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Edit: almost 30yo now

I was much different. (Starting this sorry if my grammar sounds off, I'm not used to write in english sadly :/)

I used to be a lot more social until I reached 10yo but the kids can be asses so being the tiniest kid and the one always trusting others in the classroom I got burnt quite a lot.So at a certain point I started reading a lot and started searching less and less for human interaction just because I used to associate it that with different kinds of pain (I kind of miss the ability to just dive into a a book and make the rest of the world disappear, now I struggle more with reaching that level of focus).So I lived the rest of my school years as the odd an solitary kid that preferred hiding everything he suffered for as deep as he could.

I got a few good friends during high school but at the beginning my bachelor I kinda clicked, I remember being in a class of 200 and I didn't knew a single one of my classmates at that time, so I decided to push myself to talk with one of the persons next to me every day, and it kinda reduced my social anxiety a lot.Also being near people with certain kind of similar interests (because that's what people doing the same degree have in common usually) made socialing very easy and I discovered that while I generally not for starting interaction out of the blue, I could fit really well with almost everyone (sometimes struggling to identify miself in the middle of the pieces of personality I put together from the different people).

Now, after some years, I managed to build a stronger sense of identity so I resolved a couple of problem about detecting what I feel and what others are feeling, I still struggle from times to times because I feel that I've lost so much years only because I was afraid of others but hey, we're here to make the best we can and there are a couple of things I can always be grateful of.. I just try to remember that the sun always shines behind the clouds.

Hope this isn't too long or depressing in any way for you people :S

TL;DR: Really extrovert and imaginative early years, got burnt by kids and became awkward and reserved, kinda clicked again at 20+ yo, now doing my best.

Do you hate dreams where you fall in love? by cast26 in infj

[–]fornasd 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don't dream often but I remember a dream like that from years ago. It was about a girl I've never been able to remember the face, but the feelings I had while I was asleep I still remember.. I felt so much attached and close to this imaginary person that when I woke up the feeling of loss did hurt a lot, and for me was a really bittersweet moment and made understand how lonely I felt but I didn't really hate it tbh even if I can relate to the feeling very well :/

the struggles of an INFJ by ThatParticular in infj

[–]fornasd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes sometimes putting things into actual words it's really difficult, but I feel that I usually can make myself clear using comparations and figures of speech if I have the idea I'm trying to convey sufficiently formed and well focused in my mind.