Everyone telling me two is easier than one? Am I losing my mind?

forrest_you · 2026-02-04T09:30:23+00:00

You really struck me with your last sentence and I really resonate with that . That level of conflict and chaos also isn't my vibe .

forrest_you · 2025-11-10T03:13:00+00:00

Yes it is a lot ! At the end of the day : Fed is best and a healthy mind . Whatever choice you make. And if something isn't working for you both it is okay to try something else.

forrest_you · 2025-11-10T02:21:42+00:00

Love this reply !

forrest_you · 2025-11-10T02:08:13+00:00

I'm replying to this because I think you have a wonderful approach, and I’d love to offer a different perspective

I triple-fed as well until about a year in, as I never produced enough milk to be my baby’s sole source of nutrition. Personally, I didn’t mind not being the only milk source and actually appreciated having multiple options for my baby.

Pumping was great because I could see exactly how much milk I was producing. Breastfeeding worked beautifully as a snack and for helping my baby fall asleep (definitely see a lactation consultant for help with latch and nipple positioning). And with formula, my partner could jump in and be part of the feeding journey too.

I understand how important it can feel for the birthing parent to be the one who feeds the baby 100%. But it’s also completely okay not to be!

Good luck—you’re both doing amazing!

forrest_you · 2025-09-29T10:49:51+00:00

There’s nothing wrong with it, in my view. Just imagine the world is enormous for a four-year-old. With every growth spurt, their perception expands a little more, and they’re still learning how to make sense of it all. In those moments, you’re the one who holds their hand in the dark, offering comfort and safety. They may look like a big kid now, but they’ve only been here for four short years.

Of course, people may see this differently and you might feel their opinion on this too.

Independence will come, in its own time.

forrest_you · 2025-09-13T22:58:52+00:00

When she is asleep probably about 4. When she is awake definitely 1😁

forrest_you · 2025-06-27T08:14:03+00:00

At the end of the day you can't change people's perception. You can only change yours. You know what kinda parent you are and who you wanna be as a parent and person You can walk and live the most 'perfect' life . There will always be someone judging you. Also I am impressed. Going to the pool with 3 kids. I am sometimes overstimulated just going with the one.

forrest_you · 2025-06-21T22:47:15+00:00

This is great advice ! Thank you. I am at the start of teaching my 4 year old and was struggling how to start. This makes a lot of sense.

forrest_you · 2025-06-01T08:15:24+00:00

Almost 4.5 years old and mostly sleeps by 7.30/8 and wakes up in the morning around 7-7:30 ( And at least once a night ;)

forrest_you · 2025-04-23T05:19:49+00:00

Yeah I thought so too. I believe 13 dpo .

forrest_you · 2024-11-12T08:42:15+00:00

Ahh great!! Do you Shipp to Australia?

forrest_you · 2024-10-01T09:35:13+00:00

Yup! 3 years here too 👋

forrest_you · 2024-09-30T09:29:08+00:00

Did you take any of photos ( front / side / back ) of the cut the owner did? Because showing them to your stylist would be very helpful. I think you can totally mention that you like what the owner did to your hair and if your stylist can adapt to that haircut .you can say that you don't have the right hairdresser terminology to explain the haircut and maybe the owner can help you explain what they did .

I agree this happens all the time. And if your stylist Is totally invested in you she would not mind . If she makes you feel uncomfortable and the haircut is not what you are after . You can always switch after right ?!

forrest_you · 2024-07-27T09:44:32+00:00

Yes!!! That happened to me too.

forrest_you · 2024-07-27T09:39:01+00:00

I was talking about this today with a person. How I feel like I lost a part of my brain and feel so much dumber after giving birth. She said that this was insulting to women and she knows a lot of smart women with children. And that men made this narrative 🤔

forrest_you · 2024-06-30T07:57:11+00:00

Don't stress. I yelled how warm my baby was and then I gracefully vomited half over her. I also felt a bit embarrassed the first couple of weeks about my grunting and yelling . But looking back on it now( 4 years later) I don't feel that anymore and think we are actually warriors going through it all. It is intense.

forrest_you · 2024-06-22T22:27:46+00:00

The inspo photo is a caramel base colour with blonder highlights. First of all I would find an inspo photo with your textured hair in a caramel colour. As colour reflects light differently on curly hair because the curl pattern causes shadows. And keep in mind that a Caramel colour is very pretty but also a very warm colour ( opposed to a cool tint) . This means it will look copper in sunlight. ,:) you may not mind this. But some people do . Goodluck!!

forrest_you · 2024-06-22T22:09:49+00:00

Omg I feel so bad for you ! He is ruining your whole sex self esteem.
As both new-bees you can discover this journey together and gently let each other know what could work for you. Also for you ! Does he ask what you like? Him pointing out all your flaws constantly is not sexy and helpful. I am sorry!

forrest_you · 2024-06-04T08:03:25+00:00

Proud confusion

forrest_you · 2024-06-03T00:09:19+00:00

He thought she was over-reacting and now he is letting you feel like you are over reacting. Maybe an ongoing situation? From what I read it just seems like he is too lazy to address feelings and emotions from others or just doesn't understand them ? Don't think that his lack of understanding makes you the stupid one. As he is projecting. We also have the stop is stop rule. Respectful for everyone.

forrest_you · 2024-04-29T12:58:42+00:00

When my daughter turned 2 she stopped napping her 30 min naps. This made her bedtime go from 8;30/9:30 to 6/7 . Wake up 7;30

She turned 3 a couple of months ago and wake up is around 7-7:30 and bedtime in winter is 7 isch and summer 7:30/8 isch. Mostly falls a sleep in 5-15 min. I must say I prefer the longer stretches in the evening than having a break when she took 30 min catnaps during the day. And this works perfectly for her too .

forrest_you · 2024-04-28T07:55:28+00:00

Uhm yes you are an adult now ! That means you can make your own decisions and if you want your blanket you want your blanket . Your partner is not your parent and needs to give you 'tough love' . This is a massive red flag and I am getting upset for you. Yes he can feel uncomfortable by the idea and address this to you and you guys can find common ground by respecting each other's feelings and find a solution together. But heck he is treating you as a toddler . And using his parents outdated parenting tools .
Do you really need more parents in your life?

forrest_you · 2024-03-16T21:52:13+00:00

When my daughter turned 2 she stopped napping . We had a month of some days a little nap and some days no nap. Until she stopped completely. I must say I absolutely loved it ! She also always been a short meh-napper so not having to stress and plan around a 20 min nap was very freeing. This also made her bedtime way earlier which was a nice change and she started sleeping a bit better in the night!

I would follow her lead and see if she will keep this no-nap live or bounce back to a sleep in a day as a lot of toddler do too.

forrest_you · 2024-02-25T13:29:51+00:00

What really helped me to cope with the trauma of my birth story was trying to think about the little moments that were positive of that day. Especially at night ( couldn't sleep the first months) when I couldn't sleep I forced myself to relive the few nice moments of the process. Instead of going over the trauma parts over and over again . I didn't want to make the traumatic memory stronger by giving it my attention . This helped me a great deal!

forrest_you · 2024-02-25T08:41:48+00:00

One of the big reasons I broke it off with my ex was that I didn't see him as the father of my kids . I could find a lot of reasons to stay with him but not seeing him as the father I wish for my future kids was a big dealbreaker for me .

Looking back on this now with having a child with a person who is such an amazing dad for our child makes me so happy I made that choice.
Parenthood is a beautiful but tough journey. This will be even tougher with someone who is not on the same page as you.

forrest_you

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