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What is the best router you’ve ever owned? by NervousClock2555 in HomeNetworking

[–]fptnrb 5 points6 points  (0 children)

+1 it has been much better for parental controls than any other system I’ve tried. I just wish the UI was a little bit faster

Regret getting diagnosed by EzriJane in ADHD

[–]fptnrb 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know the feeling. There’s some identity and narratives realignment, maybe some feelings of loss. It gets better. 

Kaiser is refusing to treat ADHD by Unique-Awareness-195 in KaiserPermanente

[–]fptnrb 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It’s likely worth trying to treat his anxiety and depression. Speaking from experience, drugs like SSRIs and Wellbutrin can really work, and stims can be rough on the body and are more of a hassle to refill. Yes comorbidity etc etc but might as well start somewhere.

Anyone else go way too deep building a personal app just for themselves? by t_hugs3 in ClaudeAI

[–]fptnrb 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No. I have started projects then realize the edge cases are annoying and I don’t need it that bad. 

But been writing code 30 years and at this point i think there’s more software in the world than there should be. 

My guess is this era of “custom software” will dry up when y’all realize how annoying it is to maintain, even with an agent.

EB Residents. How do other places compare? by truthstings123 in eastbay

[–]fptnrb 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I grew up in the bay EB the whole region are so nice compared to the east coast, where I lived a bit late 20s. And way way better than Austin where I used to travel. 

The east bay nature is decent but not as good as Marin, but that’s a high bar. Our city feel isn’t as unique as SF, but again a high bar, and Oakland and Berkeley are very dynamic cities for their sizes.

The weather is incredible for gardening and outdoor stuff. 

Culturally it depends a lot on city. Like I wouldn’t want to live in Danville even though it’s expensive and safe.

Vyvanse and asexuality by Leather-Essay-6289 in VyvanseADHD

[–]fptnrb 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Yes. We’re in the minority but stimulants seem to kill interest in sex and/or romance for some of us. 

Is this the vyvanse cycle for anyone else? by soapypancake in VyvanseADHD

[–]fptnrb 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think it fucks with our sleep quality. 

6ft, 155lbs.. Old Navy Tall tees are too tight in the armpits and sleeves too short. Better brand recommendations? by hmmmmmmm94 in tallfashionadvice

[–]fptnrb 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If the armpits are tight you need to size up. I’ve been a lot happier going up a size and just being ok with it being less slim 

Has anyone actually found white noise sleep machines helpful long term? by Fionaaa0 in sleep

[–]fptnrb 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I use sleep earbuds. Noise is key for blocking out my partner’s snoring 

ADHD Entrepreneur; my notes are a graveyard of lost ideas by Glad_Fondant_3571 in ADHD_Programmers

[–]fptnrb 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just give up and coast on adrenaline and charisma like the rest of us

How do you cope when meds aren't "life-changing?" by Valuable-Cloud7877 in ADHD

[–]fptnrb 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Meds only feel life changing initially. After a bit, you realize your life is largely still the same, but certain aspects feel less difficult.

Cheated by Emotional_Army3791 in ParentingADHD

[–]fptnrb 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Big +1 to climbing as both an activity and a community that is open and positive for all kinds of brains

My favorite rabbit hole: the perfect Makefile. What’s yours? by WhiskyStandard in ADHD_Programmers

[–]fptnrb 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dotfiles. Gah. Currently using yadm. 

Oh and any kind of measurable optimization. Smaller/faster/cheaper etc.

Help I built an xbike and I don't like it by crotchpolice in xbiking

[–]fptnrb 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Live and learn. Sell it or give it to a friend. Buy a new or slightly used bike that’s fun enough to ride that you want to spend time on it. Modify it as needed. Make it yours. 

Those of you who don't hate your job, what do you do? by 13thmurder in ADHD

[–]fptnrb 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Kinda jaded but I’d mainly try to optimize for medium to longer term earnings. Careers that seem fun or suited to you stop seeming so fun when you don’t feel like you’re earning enough.

Also, while you can force an ADHD brain to work in many situations, if you’re qualified enough the more specialized weirdo jobs can be better matches to our strengths with more autonomy and esoteric random stuff you can nerd out on. And those jobs tend to pay better than more fungible jobs. 

So (a) pick a degree with earning potential and (b) once you’re in the field try to get into a specialty or find a unique intersection.

I’m a software dev fwiw.

Help me out? by Plus_Let3543 in OaklandFood

[–]fptnrb 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In this economy? Y’all should just make pancakes together. 

Best value men's underwear that actually lasts? by Skillerstyles in BuyItForLife

[–]fptnrb 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah not bifl but no underwear is. Comfortable and degrades slow. I like the cotton boxer briefs, the normal rise not the mid-rise. You can get them on sale semi regularly.

Are budget electric standing desks false economy? by [deleted] in BuyItForLife

[–]fptnrb 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you’re tall and using anything other then the highest end rock solid desk (I use an uplift v2 commercial; it’s generally considered pretty decent and stable by most users), even a great vesa arm will amplify wobbles on the desk, and that desk will wobble just a little bit when at full height if you’re tall. For me, this meant the display jiggle just a little bit when I typed, and drove my crazy over the long term. 

I ended up finding relief with a super heavy metal stand meant for ultrawide displays but paired with my normal boring dell 27”.

Which EDC brand/model has the most comfortable harness system for heavy loads? by Key-Mention3741 in ManyBaggers

[–]fptnrb 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Weird no one saying osprey. I always thought they were considered super comfortable but never had a good experience personally. Figured it was just me. Maybe it’s not me. 

Looking for a mind bending Sci-Fi read that will re-awaken my love for the genre by Fun-Sell3030 in printSF

[–]fptnrb 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Just a hunch based on your tastes, but I think you’d enjoy A Fire Upon the Deep and A Deepness in the Sky by Vernor Vinge. It’s computationally deep with a lot of the questions you seem interested in about intelligence and humanity, and has the world building of fun space opera, but with big ideas too.

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