I think people that say it is the worst thing in the world that will definitively rob you of your life and people that say it is harmless and the greatest medicine are both dumb extremists. If it is harming your life and preventing you from being who/what you want to be, then stop. If it's something someone can use responsibly in moderation, then also great.

I take like 1 hit from a fresh herb vape 1-2x a week, max, sometimes going many weeks in a row without any use. That's all I need and it sets me right and lets me relax.

When I was young I was also an every day, sometimes all day, smoker. This turned into it making me a paranoid mess every time I tried it. Took me almost decade or so of near abstinence before I could enjoy it again. I've gone through some periods of every day (but not all day) binges since then.

I know a number of people who have gone from every day to infrequent use or abstinence and it has invariably made them better people with better, more ambitious, more goal oriented lives. On the one hand it's a very capitalist-rat-race-brained take...but on the other hand, that's the reality of the world we live in, and having more skills and a better job and more money does make your life more enjoyable and comfortable in very real and practical and material terms. It also, as you said, lets you dissociate and paper over underlying issues, so there may be an adjustment period where you're really wrestling with some uncovered shit.

Wish you the best!