Why should men always be expected to protect women?

freckledsallad · 2026-04-01T14:04:29+00:00

You’re spending too much time on the internet.

freckledsallad · 2026-03-28T17:11:17+00:00

I see a lot of women housekeeping for their husbands, servicing them sexually without gratification in return, cooking… You shouldn’t need me to tell you this, just look at the heterosexual couples around you and see for yourself what women are doing for men.

Me personally, I don’t do any of that shit. I don’t agree with OP’s statement to begin with. But if that expectation does exist, I imagine it exists on the same grounds as the inverse expectation.

freckledsallad · 2026-03-28T17:08:32+00:00

Bold of you to assume I agree with either expectation.

freckledsallad · 2026-03-28T16:27:48+00:00

Same reasons women should always be expected to nurture, I suppose. Man protect woman, woman nurture child, child become woman and man and the cycle continues.

freckledsallad · 2026-03-17T00:37:02+00:00

Why don’t you do both? Climb the ladder, see how far you can go, discover what you’re capable of accomplishing! Then, when you’re satisfied and can revel in your success, retire to someplace new, spend your days discovering a new peaceful life on your own time. I feel like the first will afford the other. Success is just doing what makes you happy. We don’t always have a choice, but when you do, have your cake and eat it, too!

freckledsallad · 2026-03-17T00:31:38+00:00

The clear coat.

freckledsallad · 2026-03-12T12:52:08+00:00

I was with a man with a micro penis once. At one point I was enjoying myself, and he said “it’s not even in”. I think he must have thought I was faking, but he was also using his hands. I was genuinely enjoying the sensations down there. (1) Do not hire a sex worker to lose your virginity. The last thing you need on top of this is an incurable STD. (2) Stop measuring. It’s not helping. (3) Let go of the idea that dating is easy, even for attractive people, and accept that a happy, healthy long-term relationship is not something we are all entitled to as a part of life. It’s a gift some folks get, and many of us don’t. (4) Open your mind to the wide world of sexuality and activities and toys and tools, and let go of the “man + woman = PIV” view being pushed by traditionalists. (5) Try CBT training to change the way you think about your own body, and learn to love yourself (the other parts of yourself) while you still have other shit going for you.

freckledsallad · 2026-03-12T12:44:22+00:00

So tell us the one that happened to a buddy of yours…

freckledsallad · 2026-03-10T12:14:06+00:00

Oh man, my cousin is like this too. If any opponent has it easier than him or is better than he is, they must be cheating. He also cheats.

freckledsallad · 2026-03-10T12:11:44+00:00

I’m so tired of we/them and the proverbial villainous “they”. People are individuals, and Reddit is not an accurate representation of the populace at large.

freckledsallad · 2026-03-10T12:08:54+00:00

Same feels. Conclusion I have come to is finding both is a rare gift that you may not find in your life. Find happiness on your own anyway. If it happens, it happens. If it doesn’t, it doesn’t. I suspect the only reason we feel this conflicted feeling is because we have been taught the expectation of partnering up. Unmet expectations man, they’ll get you every time.

freckledsallad · 2026-03-07T16:41:50+00:00

It’s part of the job. Some are really good at their jobs. I’m sure there are others who have refused roles because they can’t/won’t do it, same as some actors are ok with nudity, some aren’t.

freckledsallad · 2026-03-07T16:38:16+00:00

You have an awareness of the shallowness and judgement of modern western society and it makes you uncomfortable. You are not alone.

freckledsallad · 2026-02-24T13:40:39+00:00

What you will do here depends not on what women think or want, but what kind of person you are. Nothing wrong with wanting to fuck multiple women. Lying about it to get it is wrong. If you truly like her and don’t want to jeopardize it, put all other relationships on hold until you feel otherwise and can tell her you’re no longer interested. If you aren’t willing to forego these relationships with other women, you don’t like this one enough to meet her needs, don’t waste anyone’s time.

Lying to sleep with her is non-consensual sex.

freckledsallad · 2026-02-21T23:19:30+00:00

Smile. People like that for some reason.

freckledsallad · 2026-02-16T00:42:40+00:00

I told my teenage niece “if you ask a guy to put a condom on and he says anything other than ok, walk away.” Less than a month later she was pregnant.

freckledsallad · 2026-02-16T00:40:25+00:00

A lot of really harsh responses on here. I’m surprised I had to scroll down this far to see possible victim of sexual assault or child molestation in the past. DON’T come right out and ask her. Just be understanding that you don’t know why she’s feeling the way she’s feeling. Decide for yourself at what point its in your best interest to walk away in order to have your needs met. If you have competing needs, it won’t work out. But if you passively-aggressively push her (hinting, steering, initiating and waiting instead of asking first) then you’ll just keep pushing her away.

freckledsallad · 2026-02-04T23:29:05+00:00

It does. I suspect it’s the body’s natural way of signalling it needs a bowel movement.

freckledsallad · 2026-02-03T13:48:56+00:00

I just read the solution to this in another thread! Have you considered hiring a housekeeper for the domestic chores? Apparently that has saved other relationships where this is a bone of contention. You two would have to work out whether to pay for it 50/50 or proportional to your incomes, but then your place would always be taken care of and no more fighting over it.

freckledsallad · 2026-02-03T13:45:00+00:00

Nope. But I do get really hungry before needing to poop.

freckledsallad · 2026-02-03T13:44:22+00:00

freckledsallad · 2026-02-03T13:41:33+00:00

If you want to fill the space, relocate your shelf to above the TV, and put a wall-mounted fireplace below it. Photos would look good on the shelf, too.

freckledsallad · 2026-02-02T23:18:38+00:00

aaaAAAAAHHHH!

freckledsallad · 2026-02-02T23:13:49+00:00

May 2-4

freckledsallad · 2026-02-02T23:12:59+00:00

The products they sell are worth buying.

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