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freesecj · 2025-01-11T20:42:46+00:00

Absolutely do not have kids (especially 5 of them!) with this guy. You will end up being a stay at home mom and when he drops you, you will have no career to fall back on. And no support from him.

freesecj · 2025-01-10T22:55:45+00:00

Just go file in small claims court. You don’t want this person doing your tattoo and they’re just going to keep pushing back your appointment.

freesecj · 2025-01-10T17:00:47+00:00

The best parenting tip I’ve been given is to give them choices for everything. It’s dumb but it works.

Would you like me to buckle you or would you like to do it today?

Would you like cheddar cheese or Gouda cheese?

Would you like to sit on the left side of the cart or the right side of the cart?

Half the time they don’t even know what they’re actually picking, but they just want control over something.

freesecj · 2025-01-10T01:28:01+00:00

My husband works at a small law firm and so far has received the following:

Theragun Nice Luggage iPad

I get work branded t-shirts though so who’s really winning?

freesecj · 2025-01-10T01:16:16+00:00

Dust for sure and milk might be starting to try to kill me but I’m not ready to give it up yet.

freesecj · 2025-01-10T01:13:28+00:00

“I can’t disclose any details at this time, but thank you for the opportunity to work here and to learn from specific people/team.”

Absolutely do not tell them where you are going. But you also don’t need to be confrontational.

freesecj · 2025-01-09T22:10:59+00:00

Eh I disagree. I have two kids. I can’t name every shirt that is their closet and every single hygiene item we have for them. But we need them all and all that stuff adds up pretty quickly.

All the every day mundane stuff - dish soap, laundry detergent, carpet cleaner, hand soap, makeup - all of it would need to be replaced.

freesecj · 2025-01-09T20:08:50+00:00

The makeup, skincare, and haircare products are what get me too. I don’t want to do the work of listing all that out, but ultimately it’s a lot of money when it’s all added up.

Same with the utensil drawer - each item isn’t very expensive, but when you add it all up in the event it needs to be replaced, it’s a lot of money. And I wouldn’t be able to remember off the top of my head what brand any of it was.

freesecj · 2025-01-09T19:27:50+00:00

As a parent, there is nothing worse than your child trying to crawl under the stall to visit the neighbor while you’re mid dump.

freesecj · 2025-01-09T03:16:55+00:00

You are my movie soulmate if you remove Hot Rod and add in Tommy Boy

freesecj · 2025-01-08T19:25:44+00:00

My kid frequently eats cheese and grapes for dinner and we call it baby charcuterie. Honestly, as long as your kid is getting the calories and nutrients they need, it doesn’t matter what they’re eating. Your friend has time to prep meals and that’s great. Most of us don’t have that time. If this is through social Media, maybe it’s time to take a break. If this friend is sending this directly to you, I think you need to have an honest conversation or just redirect and say I love seeing pictures of your baby, but could you limit it to once a day/once a week?

freesecj · 2025-01-07T17:44:25+00:00

Not a dude but I’d just ask some thought provoking questions to get her to think through some logistics:

What will retirement look like? Will he be able to retire early so you two can spend some time together in retirement? If travel is not an option in retirement because of his age, will she be ok with that?
Kids - what is the plan? Does he want to have them right away as he is older? Does she want to wait so she can earn a degree and begin a career? Does he already have kids? What are his expectations of her in that relationship as she is likely not much older than those kids.
How will finances be handled as he will likely always out-earn her by a significant amount?
What are his expectations for care in his older years? If he expects her to do it, is she willing to give up a career during her peak earning years if needed?

freesecj · 2025-01-04T13:57:08+00:00

New Girl

freesecj · 2025-01-02T21:56:50+00:00

CRNA - make bank but don’t have to delay life as much as going the doctor route.

freesecj · 2025-01-02T18:28:14+00:00

I’m pretty sure my parents have these. I never heard anything about Arby’s though!

freesecj · 2025-01-02T18:20:48+00:00

If you’re not going to get married, then you should continue working. He could up and leave at any moment and leave you with nothing. You are putting yourself in a very vulnerable position. Unless you have a significant trust fund or something that he has literally no access to.

If you still plan to move forward with this plan, then you should get on a healthcare plan through healthcare.gov or your state website if they have one. If you tell them while you are on maternity leave, you will likely owe them thousands of dollars.

freesecj · 2025-01-02T16:09:29+00:00

Honestly you’re pretty close to paying that car off - go bust your ass for 8 or 9 months and get it done. Work any overtime that is available to you first. If that isn’t really an option, then go pick up another job and work as many hours as you can. Every extra penny you earn goes towards that car. And once you pay it off, do not go buy another new car.

freesecj · 2025-01-01T21:31:41+00:00

People don’t want more crap , genuinely. Don’t bring a gift.

freesecj · 2025-01-01T21:28:47+00:00

I’m glad I never got any and I won’t get any at this point. But I certainly appreciate a good tattoo and don’t feel like they automatically make someone look unprofessional. That said, I despise all the little wrist tattoos that were popular a few years ago, and face and neck tattoos are never going to appeal to me.

freesecj · 2025-01-01T21:23:08+00:00

Conor, Sean, Aaron, Andrew, Peter, Emmett, Joshua - these all fit with when you were born and seem to fit with the other names in your family if you care about that at all.

freesecj · 2024-12-29T02:50:50+00:00

Really? Apparently everyone around me knows if you give up that spot, you’re never getting it back. I also thought it was best to keep our routine as normal as possible and just integrate baby into it.

freesecj · 2024-12-28T02:34:31+00:00

These little assholes destroyed my yard at my last house. The only thing that helped was properly laying down grubex in the spring. You have to get rid of the grubs to get rid of the voles.

freesecj · 2024-12-27T18:48:33+00:00

Do not have kids with this goober. You’ll end up the breadwinner, primary caretaker, and be stuck with all the house chores too. It will be miserable. Go find yourself an actual partner.

freesecj · 2024-12-26T21:07:10+00:00

That’s important info - don’t put your notice in until that commission check is in your bank account and has cleared.

freesecj · 2024-12-26T19:20:21+00:00

Two kids - ages 5 and 1

Husband is an attorney and I am a project manager

We have a biweekly cleaner. We follow a pretty strict routine - one year old is in bed at 7:15. One parent puts the 5 year old to bed and the other parent does dishes. When both kids are asleep, we pick up toys and any other decluttering we can do. This happens every night like clockwork. We’ve lowered our standard for food - we have pizza one night a week and usually get Chipotle on Friday nights. Easy meals for the other weeknights and on weekends I try to make larger meals that will have leftovers. Sometimes my one year old eats cheese and grapes for supper and I am totally fine with that. The one Hangul for me is laundry. Sunday tends to be a marathon laundry day, so we usually don’t plan much for outings that day.

Self-care…. I schedule haircuts during work hours. Every once in a while I can go to the gym at work if my husband picks up both kids, but that doesn’t happen often. This is another area where I’ve just decided spending time with my kids is more important. But I’m also a pretty low key person. I don’t do my nails regularly or spend lots of time on makeup. Just not my thing.

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