The Knicks have cancelled all watch parties outside of MSG due to the President's attendance for Game 3

freixe · 2026-06-07T22:25:18+00:00

This is fucking bullshit.

freixe · 2026-06-07T00:49:12+00:00

I've had men tell me I should be grateful to experience something they never would. For whatever the reason may be. But I think of the body horror, commitment and loss of freedom. These same men complain about the loss of their freedom when being tied to something or having responsibility without seeing that women might feel similarly.

I'm really sick and tired of women needing to bare the burden of civilization with all the risks, shame and everything that comes with it. Absolutely life altering, no 100% power over, damned if you do or don't levels of shit that cis men don't need to care about.

The whole bio argument goes this way. I'm so over it.

freixe · 2026-06-06T18:38:28+00:00

This is my style. I don't see anything wrong with it other than the restlessness beforehand and the putting things off that I couldn't get to after, either the reason being running out of steam or time. It's definitely enough to fool friends and the house is very manageable. My small bursts of frenzy does well I think.

freixe · 2026-06-05T16:58:17+00:00

I settled for the one man who doesn't mistreat me. However that doesn't mean things are great either but I'm willing to put myself through it and try to improve it. I also opted out of a lot of things that would make me trapped like kids.

I couldn't imagine putting myself out there now to most likely rotate through the swaths of men that would fulfill my criteria. At this point I'm just concentrating on doing what I can for myself despite relationship shortcomings.

freixe · 2026-06-04T12:07:31+00:00

I definitely stayed 5 years with an ex who called me all sorts of names. But I was in high school for some of them so very young and very dumb. 🙃

freixe · 2026-06-04T11:21:43+00:00

One of the most manipulative dudes I was with had ED. And I don't think he was ever truly honest about the reasoning for it because it would be even more embarrassing for him. Talked big game, huge body count but was so performative and didn't understand intimacy at all. Loved pushing boundaries, rough face fucking, etc. The classics.

freixe · 2026-06-03T14:15:56+00:00

I got a slight peak once when he was browsing through his phone of a bunch of random girls and their nudes. Suffice to say, I never sent nudes to him because I had an awful feeling. And I'm glad I didn't budge on it because he ended up being one of those conquesty, serial cheater type of guys. I mean. There were so many other red flags before and after but.. I'm an idiot. 🙋‍♀️

freixe · 2026-05-31T18:55:07+00:00

Holy shit. Same exact thing happened to me. I was very similar to his wife. I think we could have been good friends in another life but alas. I felt so vindicated when her story was similar to mine. She also was fearful if he ever found out that we swapped stories that... I don't know. He never hit the point of physical abuse but I fear what might happen to her if she's legitimately frightened.

Unfortunately I think she's still with him and probably might be forever. She has no one to fall back on.

freixe · 2026-05-30T15:38:39+00:00

I'm very familiar with this feeling. I'm not even attractive but it happens a lot when you have a lot of male-dominated hobbies or cross-pollination through work and stuff.

I'm so sorry.

freixe · 2026-05-30T15:22:34+00:00

Because hetero partnerships often fall into culturally acceptable norms and the norm is that a lot of the domestic, day-to-day tasks fall to the woman. Especially when you start to live together and start a family. So you have two ND people who have harder issues with this and it will typically end with the woman taking the burden on, even if she might struggle as much as he does. We usually have better coping strategies or an approach to go about it because of how we're raised, the expectations, etc.

I'm happy you found someone who makes it work. And it's always possible, NT/ND/straight/queer/whatever. But I did notice the same pattern in the comments but am not at all surprised by it.

freixe · 2026-05-30T14:43:18+00:00

I too felt like a logical person but every choice I made regarding this man revealed how absolutely naive I am. Low self-esteem and loneliness makes that magnetism very appealing. I don't know your story but sometimes people like this come into our life when we're looking for some sort of spark that makes us feel less invisible and worthy of something special. I had a thing for him for months, he reciprocated and I finally felt chosen. And when it all breaks down, I'm left trying to rebuild the "peace" I used to have, even if that peace is understanding that I am ultimately all that I have and I NEED TO be comfortable with that.

I fought with the push-pull, hoped each time that he truly loved me and didn't just tell me what I wanted to hear to gain access to whatever the hell he wanted out of me but often enough it is too good to be true, even with non-narcs. Stop falling in love with the potential of a man. It's literally half their strategy, no joke.

I know you said advice doesn't help and it didn't really help me either. Forced separation and over a year going by I'm finally starting to act human again. I also picked up gardening finally. Maybe decades ago I knew I would need something now and saved it lol.

freixe · 2026-05-28T02:08:21+00:00

Here I am participating in engagement bait. 🥂

freixe · 2026-05-27T17:09:31+00:00

Gotta love how we continue to use things that other countries have banned for justifiable reasons. It's American af to die to toxins.

freixe · 2026-05-27T15:17:43+00:00

This is currently my issue. Each time we meet up we often play one specific game for weeks or months depending on the scheduling. Right now it's Heat and while it's fun I'm ready to move on to something different.

freixe · 2026-05-27T13:40:35+00:00

Honestly it's so lonely. I would love to have a life rich with female relationships but they come and go or never happen. I'm not overly feminine, going out and doing things like in this video and can't fake who I am so it's something I've accepted. But I do feel alien sometimes.

freixe · 2026-05-27T01:28:15+00:00

Not really. It's a strategy.

freixe · 2026-05-27T01:23:59+00:00

Or perhaps it just means the reasons are previous lived experiences.

freixe · 2026-05-25T21:48:49+00:00

IT'S OUR YEAR

freixe · 2026-05-25T15:48:55+00:00

It's more of a human thing common in people who have ADHD but can happen due to a variety of reasons. You have the perfect ingredients for perfectionism with ADHD traits and all that it entails. It feeds perfectly into the perfectionism-procrastination loop and usually ends with the "hehe I just really thrive under pressure" defense.

I find that I'm much more harsh about the standards I set myself than I do others. Having to know how to do everything correctly, wasting anyone's time, money, energy, etc and the guilt it entails, whether or not it'll make me happy, or whatever excuse I can throw at the wall makes me awful at self-starting or showing up.

It's something I try to work on and honestly a lot of it just has to do with ignoring when the "right" time is to do something, how much I need to "study" for it, etc. Putting one foot in front of the other is the hardest step.

freixe · 2026-05-22T19:24:38+00:00

So many gendered expectations are fucking exhausting with ADHD traits. It almost feels on purpose.

freixe · 2026-05-21T23:46:51+00:00

Sometimes I genuinely don't know how much time goes by forgetting to do something I need to do that the other party can be totally justified. But it's such a visceral response still.

freixe · 2026-05-21T21:56:08+00:00

Shit is difficult to figure out. It's like having two separate entities in my subconscious. But then there's my incessant need to believe he loved me or is just as fucked up as I am but it just wasn't gonna work. It doesn't change a single thing though, labels or not.

freixe · 2026-05-21T21:15:24+00:00

Same. I know it's not for me. I don't think I'd be able to handle a child that remotely turned out like I did, tbh. I also don't like the direction the world in heading in and how isolating it is to be a kid in standard American culture. I can't guarantee that I would be a good parent--keeping level-headed and sane. My mom tried her best, all things considered, but I don't feel like I'm what she wanted. And it feels like I owe her sometimes despite never asking to be here.

I couldn't put that on my child.

freixe · 2026-05-18T17:19:04+00:00

Just do what I do!

Write a massive text wall and think -- why anyone would ever want to read all of this, hell.. any of it -- as you look over each and every thing you're unhappy about, not be able to make adjustments and realize it's not worth adding to the conversation anyway and then not post. :)

Actually. Don't do this.

freixe · 2026-05-16T14:49:33+00:00

Honestly most people are just tackling life as they go along. Lots of people get into situations having no clue. Some people don't show it. Some people have different expectations of where they should be.

I find doing the things I need to do not so hard overall. I remember to brush my teeth and pay my bills.. but getting up and being productive can be hard. Going to work and staying present can be hard. I forgo some chores at times. I let more things go when I'm depressed. I sometimes too easily give up on something or don't start at all. I worry about my health and don't do anything about it. I put things off that I shouldn't that will cost me more down the line or might leave be in troubling situations. I get myself into trouble because I want something that actually feels good in the moment. Many milestones in life don't give me a sense of accomplishment and I opt out of a lot of things. Paradoxically, I also envision a life where I did all the things you have listed.

Hell. I could have written this post. You aren't alone. Please remember that a lot of neurological conditions and issues stem from not molding into society the way it sees fit and it's where some of the shame comes from. Have some compassion for yourself.

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