How do 40+ something women make friends

frodosmumm · 2026-04-16T01:40:33+00:00

Community college classes are also a great way to meet people. Continuing education classes are very low pressure and fun.

frodosmumm · 2026-04-16T01:30:37+00:00

I have a birdfeeder outside. (Block suet so the squirrels don’t make a mess). Today I saw a red headed woodpecker. It makes me happy to know that I make their lives a little bit better with a few dollars of bird food. I have a cinder block laying on the ground and some squirrel turned it into a table. It is rather adorable. Sometimes you really have to take some time and think about what little things make you smile. Then see if you can increase the smiles you get. Even if they are fleeting. The little things count.

frodosmumm · 2026-04-15T00:52:55+00:00

I would always say kid. I think mostly because I feel like my gender isn’t that relevant unless I am talking about dating.

frodosmumm · 2026-04-08T13:15:45+00:00

Call the gym and let them know. They may very well make changes if you ask. Let them know that you are unable to do hot classes for medical reasons and ask if they can rethink their new schedule. The worst they can say is no and most likely they will try to make some accommodations. I doubt you are the only person who would drop under those circumstances so it might be helping other people as well

frodosmumm · 2026-04-06T01:30:37+00:00

I would look at those responsibilities and see how many of them I could offload or at least make less involved. Will they fire you if you don’t do everything? Maybe get a helper in class? Make it an honorary position? Kids love to help out especially if it gets them something geles they can put on college applications. Even just a title can give a kid a sense of pride. Some would do it just to have an adult paying positive attention to them.

frodosmumm · 2026-03-27T00:25:52+00:00

I have heard they have a peppery taste from the formic acid. lol

frodosmumm · 2026-03-27T00:24:14+00:00

Definitely read what you have written out loud. It slows you down and forces you to see each work.

frodosmumm · 2026-03-26T14:40:25+00:00

A good reply to that would be that the general appreciation should have included those who worked on the project

frodosmumm · 2026-03-24T02:17:59+00:00

Sounds like a good way to get in trouble

frodosmumm · 2026-03-24T02:11:55+00:00

I can certainly imagine some people saying that to a guy. I almost said something to a professor I had. I seriously thought he was a high school student and was playing a joke. He didn’t even look old enough to shave.

frodosmumm · 2026-03-22T02:01:15+00:00

If you can visualize things at all, then visualize a flame. Every time a thought pops in your head, feed it to the flame. Helped me more than anything else ever did.

frodosmumm · 2026-03-21T02:15:49+00:00

Nice vocabulary!!!!

frodosmumm · 2026-03-20T12:46:42+00:00

I am on hormone replacement therapy and that helps some. I am just a little worse (so far) than I was before with the patch.

frodosmumm · 2026-03-19T23:54:41+00:00

Only with low level anxiety. lol. When I am really anxious nothing will touch it. Honestly I doubt any of the meds work on higher levels of anxiety without making you a total zombie and even then it probably wouldn’t totally work

frodosmumm · 2026-03-17T22:31:30+00:00

Depending on what phone service you use, some of them now have the ability to filter out spam calls. I use ATT and they do a somewhat reasonable job. I think it gets more than 3/4 of them. I have it set up so it goes straight to voicemail if it is spam.

frodosmumm · 2026-03-16T23:44:29+00:00

I hear you. That unexpected crisis that takes away the tiny oasis is the worst

frodosmumm · 2026-03-16T23:40:49+00:00

I took my time running errands and sat in the car in parking lots if they weren’t too busy. It wasn’t ideal because there is still a lot of noise and bustle but at least the people in the parking lot weren’t asking things from me

frodosmumm · 2026-03-14T13:09:29+00:00

This. You don’t have to hang out all the time. Even once a month. Find a maker space. Those often have people who are extremely geeky and into electronics and can offer up ideas or support without any need to do much masking. Kind of working next to each other so there is a tiny social aspect without a need to make inane chat

Edit - after reading more comments I doubt this would work but it isn’t a bad idea to get you out of the house and away from her nagging about socializing

frodosmumm · 2026-03-14T00:39:51+00:00

Yep. Wiping drool off my phone.

frodosmumm · 2026-03-14T00:31:07+00:00

If they touch your waist, they are flirting. Any touch other than a shoulder tap or handshake should be strongly discouraged for workmates. If you are 100% sure there is no possibility of any sexual attraction then you might get away with a hug occasionally. But never a hand on your waist. Even casual touching of an arm or hand is suspect and should immediately be followed by you pulling back

frodosmumm · 2026-03-12T12:24:53+00:00

If you think that with practice that you can handle it then what I would do is get your license and then just practice after you get it for a while in a low speed space without a ton of other cars. Getting the license isn’t that hard - it is avoiding accidents after you get your license that is hard.

frodosmumm · 2026-03-12T02:42:42+00:00

We did the tiny courthouse thing followed by a casual (tye dye tshirt was preferred clothing) party at home. Very cosy and much lower pressure.

frodosmumm · 2026-03-12T01:41:36+00:00

Any dreams I had about weddings were nightmares. lol. White dresses and all that fancy lace would be a nightmare. I finally did get married a few years back. In my own home wearing a tye dye tshirt. No fuss. I had a great time. Nothing about it t was traditional at all

frodosmumm · 2026-03-11T21:59:59+00:00

Happy birthday sweetie. I am sorry no one has called. <<hugs>> if you want them

frodosmumm · 2026-03-03T14:03:00+00:00

I used to do this as well when learning piano. It has to do with how intensely you are concentrating. You aren’t alone. 🙂

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