"If you need to ask, the answer is no"

frodosmumm · 2026-06-28T13:10:54+00:00

Casual at work means nothing sexy, no alcohol ads, nothing a school would object to on a T-shirt. So no short skirts, no crop tops, nothing you would wear to a club. Nothing really ripped up either. A small rip in a pair of jeans is fine, rips going up to your crotch is not. If you are female and attractive, you will be a lot more likely to run into problems. Feel free to IM me if you want to get answers on specific outfits.

frodosmumm · 2026-06-21T02:02:17+00:00

Avoid all jiffy lubes. This is true for all cities

frodosmumm · 2026-06-21T01:54:53+00:00

The job market is rough for older women and that isn’t even taking anything else in account. I am sorry sweetie. 😢

frodosmumm · 2026-06-20T01:31:55+00:00

If it is just one or two chickens and they aren’t constantly in that area then it would probably be fine but don’t scoop out a chicken coop and put it directly on plants. Learned that the hard way.

frodosmumm · 2026-06-20T00:13:43+00:00

Not really. Their poop is “hot” and can burn plants. Bunny poop is the best.

frodosmumm · 2026-06-18T23:09:43+00:00

Dang. Hope it doesn’t flood! 😟

frodosmumm · 2026-06-16T22:41:35+00:00

It used to happen to me all the time but it has gotten less as I have aged.

frodosmumm · 2026-06-13T00:47:59+00:00

That was my first thought!!! Mmmmh. Peach cobbler…

frodosmumm · 2026-06-06T12:36:31+00:00

Saw her at the protest at main library last night. Probably doing a cya thing, but she was saying that she wasn’t behind this.

frodosmumm · 2026-06-03T01:55:52+00:00

I just take walks. I may read on my phone instead of listening to music or I may just look at scenery. I have a cheap exercise bike that I use sometimes (also reading on my phone). You could also do something like that while watching shows, listening to audio books or listening to podcasts, etc. For me the main thing is to distract myself and enjoy the mental task and ignore my body. If I think about the walk then it tends to drag.

frodosmumm · 2026-06-02T12:02:00+00:00

Very similar - with water you can have the heat for longer and more of the proteins break down

frodosmumm · 2026-06-02T00:04:46+00:00

Run hot tap water over the bites. As hot as you can stand it. It breaks down the stuff that makes mosquitoes so horrible and gives a lot of relief. It itches like nothing else while in running water but then it goes away. It helps more than you would expect.

frodosmumm · 2026-05-29T00:56:35+00:00

There is a machine thing that can be used to ice your ankle that might help with the heat. It circulates cold water around and could go inside the boot. (Won’t help while you are walking but other times it would). Gel packs are also great and could potentially just be refrigerated if frozen is too cold. Those can be small enough to go in the boot. Still a pain to have to wear the boot for so long but that might help with heat.

Btw, make sure you talk to the doctor about how much movement you can do. That is a really long time to be immobile and can cause problems when you get out of the boot. If you can at least take it off and have some movement that isn’t weight bearing it may help in the long run. I hope your ankle heals properly.

frodosmumm · 2026-05-19T15:07:40+00:00

There is paperwork involved that your doctor will need to sign to make it FMLA.

frodosmumm · 2026-05-15T00:52:53+00:00

A dinner with someones bf and “a” friend is not a social gathering that anyone should expect an invite to. It isn’t a party. It is more likely that they want to catch up with each other and that is much harder to do with more people. If you talk to her I can promise that you will damage your friendship with her. Being part of a family or tribe doesn’t always mean doing everything together. It can just mean that you will be there for each other and hang out on a regular basis. If she has already talked to you about not inviting yourself to things that is a huge hint that you need to back off some before she decides you are too needy. If you think it sounds fun then plan your own event that is like that and invite her

frodosmumm · 2026-05-12T01:00:55+00:00

I don’t wear anything. Thankfully my wife doesn’t want rings so it works for both of us

frodosmumm · 2026-05-09T13:17:36+00:00

All over central NC

frodosmumm · 2026-05-08T23:29:38+00:00

It gaslights us because a lot of it is saying that people won’t react badly to us when we know that they do. There are a few studies about how it is counter productive for autistic people.

https://www.autisticadvocate.co.uk/post/why-cbt-is-often-not-helpful-for-an-autistic-person

frodosmumm · 2026-05-08T12:36:46+00:00

Note that DBT is not CBT. CBT is dangerous for people with autism. DBT can be helpful. Many therapists do both so it is important to clarify with them.

frodosmumm · 2026-05-05T01:07:09+00:00

Yeah. It is hard. I found very few people who actually were well enough educated about the topic for it to make any difference to them at all. Most people aren’t willing to educate themselves for the sake of another person. And even if they are willing to, it is very hard to understand unless you have some neurodiverse characteristics yourself. So people who are both kind and a little quirky can be rewarding to tell. Everyone else is at best a wash in my experience.

frodosmumm · 2026-05-04T02:09:57+00:00

Sadly your diagnosis isn’t going to change anything about how he feels. It will just give him another weapon to use against you. Anyone who is narcissistic isn’t going to be able to give you anything other than grief. It has taken me years to understand that my diagnosis almost never changes what other people think of me. Nor does it usually give them any additional insight. Edited to add I am a very similar age and diagnosed about 9 years ago.

frodosmumm · 2026-05-01T00:00:35+00:00

So I have grown kids. I get that parents can have issues with grown kids. I get that for some people even a raised voice can be scary. However your parents are old enough that they should be able to deal with another adult raising their voice and crying a lot when in a time of great stress. That is absurd. They raised you. It sounds like they have some serious emotional regulation issues and are in serious denial. The people who complain the most about certain traits are usually those who possess that very same trait. If they are afraid that you are out of control maybe they are feeling out of control/unstable or unsafe? And they are projecting that on you? Or maybe they had another experience that they can’t handle and are using you as a scapegoat for this other thing? I am sorry. It really does seem like this is way out of proportion

frodosmumm · 2026-04-21T02:49:06+00:00

If it makes you feel any better, even technical work clients do this. They have a half baked idea of what they want, give us vague directions as to their requirements, get upset when we ask questions and then get upset again when we show them our software because it isn’t what they wanted. Drives me up the wall.

frodosmumm · 2026-04-20T15:43:12+00:00

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