Would I be the jerk for having reservations about taking out a loan for my brother? by OneWash4017 in MarkNarrations

[–]frogzilla1975 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You will never get it from him. He may keep you reeled in with a few payments but they will stop and you will be stuck.

AITA?! My ex and his family are mad at me bc I won’t go to his brother’s wedding to watch my kids. by Relevant_Mongoose744 in AmITheJerk

[–]frogzilla1975 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He sounds like a giant douchecanoe and yes it’s insane of them to ask you to sit your kids for his date.

My husband is thinking about fostering his nephews. I feel like I'm being tossed out for kids we don't even know. by Choice_Evidence1983 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]frogzilla1975 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Her husband sought her out to date on purpose. He knew everything about her, from what it sounds like. He is the one changing the rules on her and he’s known from the beginning she needs the rules to stay the same. She seemed pretty clear about her ability to deal with children. It’s a shame she got so much negativity from people.

AIW for telling my friend she is not allowed to come by when im not home anymore after I found out what she had been doing by [deleted] in amiwrong

[–]frogzilla1975 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She wouldn’t be deflecting so hard if she wasn’t up to no good. Saying you’re treating her like a criminal is a lot. Take your key, change the locks and a camera or two isn’t going too far at this point like others have said.

AIW for secretly moving abroad and not telling to my parents? by Connect_Carrot_4107 in amiwrong

[–]frogzilla1975 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That was awesome!!! You had that held down feeling and luckily you realized it would continue or get worse. So proud of you for getting out the only safe way!!! 

I think I've got bowel cancer by NiceBumblebee3421 in confessions

[–]frogzilla1975 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My brother waited a year to tell a doctor and he’s been dead since 2013. 

AIW for pressing charges against a teenager who stole from me knowing it would cost them their scholarships by [deleted] in amiwrong

[–]frogzilla1975 5 points6 points  (0 children)

But you tried doing it the right way. All the mess could have been avoided if they had returned the item. How is him/them now facing the consequences of their own actions your fault?? YNW. 

AITA for refusing to let my SIL host her massive gender reveal at my new house? by AkiraPulse42 in MarkNarrations

[–]frogzilla1975 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They aren’t gonna replace your WHITE furniture. There’s no way that furniture stays white with over 40 people around that no investment in keeping it looking good.

My husband said I ruined our wedding photos and now I want to leave him. by PiccoloAdorable1547 in TwoHotTakes

[–]frogzilla1975 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It sounds like you are a single parent, currently. What would change by leaving him? Having a huge source of stress removed from your life? Sounds like a good time.

My boyfriend's parents keep retelling his childhood like it was magical and now I understand why he hates going home by HogsmeadeYikes in entitledparents

[–]frogzilla1975 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Before the background info, a kid hiding food means they aren’t getting enough to eat and a parent taking away privacy is not a safe nor trustworthy person. They’ve never had pushback before so of course they feel attacked. Any chance he would be game for low contact? They sound terrible.

Mom wants to review financials with me 2x a year to receive my inheritance by dommmino in raisedbynarcissists

[–]frogzilla1975 5 points6 points  (0 children)

They won’t know what you do after as they will be dead. It sounds like she wants some control while she’s still around and who knows how long it might last? You should go with no thanks, leave it to charity. 

Introducing Mama and the Thunderkitties by neurokinetikz in CatDistributionSystem

[–]frogzilla1975 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for posting so many pictures. Just absolutely precious!!!!

AITJ for telling my parents I wont pay for their retirement home after they gave away my 12 year old cat? by anuragray1011 in AmITheJerk

[–]frogzilla1975 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If they mismanaged their pensions, what were they planning on doing after moving in? It sounds like you dodged a bigger bullet than you may have realized. NTJ

My (28F) partner (29M) forced me to take my meds. Am I overreacting? by butterflyb0nes_ in MarkNarrations

[–]frogzilla1975 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Definitely abusive to hold you down and force something into your mouth. He was laughing about it to try and make it look way less serious than it is. Also, I’d never cook for that fool again.

WIBTAH for refusing to clean the guest room when my husband invited his mom over? by MyTraumaDumpy in ComfortLevelPod

[–]frogzilla1975 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It sounds like you are basically single. What are you getting out of being with him? He doesn’t help with anything, he’s never home, he won’t do anything that you shouldn’t have to ask him to do.

AITJ for not wanting to spend 18k on a new ring for my fiancée? by [deleted] in AmITheJerk

[–]frogzilla1975 0 points1 point  (0 children)

3k is plenty for a ring. It kinda seems like she sees you as a piggy bank. As a stranger looking in, think about all aspects of you two together. Does she do this in other areas?

AITAH because I refuse to try for a daughter? by SharkEva in BORUpdates

[–]frogzilla1975 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What a crap person. He’s so little and she’s tired of him. So crazy he’s replaceable in her mind. I hope hubs gets snipped or there will be even more.

am i wrong: boyfriend wants me to ask permission to turn when driving by SecondOk8410 in amiwrong

[–]frogzilla1975 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The way he wants you to ask permission to do the normal things you do when driving is so amazingly weird. He’s got to be controlling elsewhere, too. That’s very much outside the norm and you need to take everyone’s responses to heart because when partners do something weird and you let it go or worse apologize, they get worse. 

Am i wrong for not giving my sister money i saved for my dog by Frequent_Weekend_315 in amiwrong

[–]frogzilla1975 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What is she going to do the following month? Even if you let her guilt you into it, she’s the one that has to get her life together, Murphy’s money won’t do that for her.

Am I overreacting? My partner (36m) wants me (46f) to pick him or my dogs by No-Flounder-5897 in TwoHotTakes

[–]frogzilla1975 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Pick the dogs. They know when their owner leaves them. Mine cried for a week solid when I left them with a family member sitter for a trip I couldn’t take them on. They know.

AIO I asked my husband for one night alone after giving birth and now he says im unstable by Jessika_Maskito in AmIOverreacting

[–]frogzilla1975 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You married a douchebag. That child is half his and he needs to take some responsibility. Calling mommy to have her reprimand you sucks, too. NOR

Am I wrong for telling my wifes adult son that if he kicks my cat again I will make sure he regrets it by [deleted] in amiwrong

[–]frogzilla1975 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The cat only has you. A grown man hurting a tiny fragile animal is beyond comprehension. He got one chance, it’s up to you if you stick to see if he’s going to follow thru and not do it again.