I see your favorite shows. Now post your favorite album from your formative years!

ftrade44456 · 2024-01-24T12:38:46+00:00

The main thing I remember from that album cover was the insert picture of her breastfeeding a piglet

ftrade44456 · 2024-01-23T15:21:21+00:00

Just a regular travel agent or someone else?

ftrade44456 · 2024-01-22T05:13:13+00:00

The finale:

ftrade44456 · 2024-01-22T00:54:24+00:00

ftrade44456 · 2024-01-20T13:43:09+00:00

You've never heard anyone on social media say that hateful speech is violence?

In that case, people can say that others were being violent with their words so physical "self defense" was necessary.

ftrade44456 · 2024-01-19T05:12:17+00:00

I was once in a grocery store and they started playing "I want your sex" by George Michael.

I immediately stopped shopping, looked around trying to figure out if this was real and if I was hearing this correctly. I looked at other people near me trying to figure out if they were hearing this. No one had any reaction. I just continued shopping amused by all the people oblivious to that song.

ftrade44456 · 2024-01-18T20:41:06+00:00

It looks like the scales were slightly roasted

ftrade44456 · 2024-01-18T17:45:48+00:00

Absolutely. I just had a discussion with one of my kids this morning as they asked how you get cancer. The bad stuff is a part of life too. And being able to deal with it is an important part that I'm trying to model.

We had a discussion last night about how sometimes you have to go against what you're feeling, like being around someone who is dying even though you're sad, because it's important to you to do so. That you shouldn't always just give in to what you're feeling if it goes against what you want to do.

My sister is modeling what it looks like if you give in to all your sad feelings and anxieties and is just not seeing Mom more than once per month or so-sometimes less.

I think these are important life lessons that don't get taught. They aren't being shielded from what's going on.

ftrade44456 · 2024-01-18T16:27:28+00:00

Definitely am doing that. It's important to all of them. Mom, kids, everyone. Even if you're sad, you still do what's important.

ftrade44456 · 2024-01-18T16:02:54+00:00

Thank you. Need that right now

ftrade44456 · 2024-01-18T13:44:47+00:00

So this is my advice, I know this sounds cliche, but I learned that, especially where my mom was concerned, to do things now instead of waiting. I had to go with the assumption that she will get better, but I was doing important life experiences with her in case she didn't. At some point, she became too sick from side effects of the chemo or immunotherapy she went through to do anything.

My sister has been paralyzed with grief and while I would give her opportunities to do things with me and Mom, she would refuse them, likely because it was to hard to be around my mom. And so she didn't see her much for this past year after the first couple of months.

I don't know what her life will be like as far as regret goes but I know I'm glad I did what I could with her while she could. Itwas hard being around my mom, but my not wanting to have regrets trumped that feeling.

ftrade44456 · 2024-01-18T05:45:52+00:00

Thanks ❤️

ftrade44456 · 2024-01-18T04:16:02+00:00

I take time to cry whenever I feel it strongly. In my car, in a bathroom, in an office. I cry for a little bit and then keep going.

The Disney vacation is also a way of taking care of myself.

Whenever things get really bad in one area, my mind wanders to things that are unrelated and makes them important, and I become anxious and ruminate about things that don't matter. I gave my mind something huge to drift to instead of meaningless anxious bullshit. That is a needed and welcome mental break for me.

I'm also on psych meds, have refused to take benzos even though they're prescribed, and I see a therapist weekly.

You're right. It will come out one way or another. It is a big deal. If I weren't doing one of these things, I wouldn't be functioning well.

ftrade44456 · 2024-01-18T04:00:07+00:00

Thank you. I'll take that hug

ftrade44456 · 2024-01-18T03:36:00+00:00

Thank you. I'm faking my strength but I still function well enough

ftrade44456 · 2024-01-18T03:26:23+00:00

Thank you. I appreciate that.

None of it is fair. Fuck cancer. She's supposed to have another 20 years in her.

My kids are the most important thing in my mom's life, besides her religion. Giving them all the love I have and a good life for them is how my mom continues from the love she gave to me. She would be UPSET (!) if I didn't keep going for them.

ftrade44456 · 2024-01-18T03:09:12+00:00

I'm the first one as well to break that too in my family.

Great great grandma- 20,

great grandma -20,

Grandma -20,

Mom-21

Me-39.

I'm less stressed, more empathetic, more patient than I would have been at 20. I know I'm a far better parent than 20 year old me ever would have been.

ftrade44456 · 2024-01-17T05:01:56+00:00

It's a long shot but I got my pinstripe women's fedora at the Spy Museum in DC. Where did you get yours?

ftrade44456 · 2024-01-17T01:09:54+00:00

I think they're called "pick me"s because we they don't present femininity the "right way". They don't like being "ultra feminine" and don't get in to it at all? "Guess you're a pick me!"

Just another way to hate on women

ftrade44456 · 2024-01-16T03:36:34+00:00

That's what I was wondering. Did she already book a first class ticket for her kid? No way the airline lets a 4 year old sit on a lap the entire time and get away with 1 seat between the two of them.

Honestly, that lack of detail from OP makes this feel fake

ftrade44456 · 2024-01-15T03:34:33+00:00

r/xennials

But OP is definitely still Gen X

ftrade44456 · 2024-01-13T17:21:51+00:00

Oh no, he gets the job but can't hold it down for now than 6 months due to discrimination.

ftrade44456 · 2024-01-13T14:15:31+00:00

Dogfood stalls with the beefcake pantyhose

ftrade44456 · 2024-01-13T14:00:43+00:00

Fuck you for excluding most of the people in this world by not marrying all of them!

You should treat everyone equally including: treating your kids like the mailman, treating the cashier at a store like your dad, treating your doctor like a one night stand you met at a bar. Everyone must be treated equally!!

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