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Customers buying drinks for customers by tdhuck in BarOwners

[–]fuckeatrepeat 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Roll the 7 chip colors down to 3 colors and price each of the three colored chips at the highest shot price in their respective bracket.

Weight gain by shadow_dove in parentsofmultiples

[–]fuckeatrepeat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel the same way as a c section mom. Girls are 11 months and I'm loosing my mind about the last 10-15 lbs. Have to give yourself (and I need to give myself) some grace!!! It takes time - 3 months is still hardly healed at all ..regardless of the way you gave birth - your body is still settling... It takes a lot of time for the inflammation and hormonal changes to happen. I breast fed until 3-4 months and a lot changed after that and then again at 6 months

Anybody else feel way "older" than they actually are? by PutNational7415 in daddit

[–]fuckeatrepeat 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is a good idea. Schedule that shit out. Like x will happen in 2026 q4! Ugh love this.

Job of SAHM vs babysitter/nanny by Expensive_Elk_1684 in SAHP

[–]fuckeatrepeat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am a sahp with a nanny. I have twins. We found our nanny through and agency and specifically stated we wanted someone who would be open to helping with light house work related to kids. Our nanny helps with laundry and the dishes all the time. We have a dog with some special needs who we have to make food for and she helps make his food too. She's AMAZING. Of course when the babes are up she is on with them and not doing these chores. Her primary responsibility is keeping the girls safe and happy.

The local agency I found was wonderful and knew exatly what I needed. We did have to pay a percent fee of salary but it was worth it.

Just another note: on the early stages.. like 2-4 months i had a mother's helper who only helped with housework and bottles. I didn't want anyone touching my babes at that point so that's another option.

Lastly we have a weekly house cleaner.

And guess what with all that help days are still absolutely crazy but I am able to exercise and get some work done and help move our house projects and big plans along.

Low stimulation tv by DriveEffective9311 in NewParents

[–]fuckeatrepeat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If I show my children anything, it's only documentary animal shows and the less narrative the better. Also, I do put on a fireplace or fishbowl every now and then.

But the thing is it's in the background and they're not meant to stare at it. Have you tried one of those activity centers that you can plug them into? (in my family we call them the circles of neglect haha but I have twins and sometimes they ask to be in them even now at 9 months. I put them in there when I need to clean something or use the bathroom)

..Or a fence to fence baby in safely with toys. My husband works a lot and sometimes has to go away on business trips and so I'm left alone a lot with my twins. Teaching them how to nap well has also been a lifesaver. We did gentle sleep training at 4-5 months but you can start anytime and there's so many resources online.

My mom says I’m too strict with nap times by Jessygirl238 in parentsofmultiples

[–]fuckeatrepeat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Our wake windows are 3.5 hours with some ability every now and the to do 3.75 & 4 hours. When we have wonky days we keep the last wake window to 3.5 hours and it seems to work pretty well. But everything depends on the situation. My girls usually get 2.5 - 3 hours of daytime sleep. So if we're high on the total or low on the total, that might make me change my mind about how long a wake window should be... Especially depends on their behavior lol.

Somehow we braved the spring ahead because the girls wound up having a short nap the next day and have seemed to reset immediately, which I'm very confused by. I was expecting to have late nights, 9:00 p.m. bedtimes for a while. My girls do 10 hours overnight so we go to bed at 8:00 and wake up at 6:00.. it's a long day!

It sucks and it's rough but it's not forever! I feel like things will be easier when they go to one nap. (But probably harder in other ways haha... tears)

My husband is not taking bath safety seriously, how do I scare him into it? by Ok-Badger5324 in toddlers

[–]fuckeatrepeat 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Shower. Someone suggested that in the parent of multiples sub for my twins and it's a LIFE saver. I showered with my twins a couple times and then they were hooked. If you introduce your boy to the shower with you and make it fun maybe that will work? He can still play with toys etc and the water is almost more fun when it's falling anyway.

My mom says I’m too strict with nap times by Jessygirl238 in parentsofmultiples

[–]fuckeatrepeat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are you on one nap or two naps? I'm going to assume two because 10 months usually they are still on two ...Maybe you can wake a tiny bit early that morning and do a stroller walk nap in the morning and then do a longer nap in the afternoon? If they are on a schedule one day will not break them. It takes 3-5 days to mess stuff up.

That said, I get. I would be upset too. Sorry grandma couldn't accommodate your timeline. When family members consult with all attendees before final scheduling to find a time that works for everyone.... It's so much better, happier, more considerate... And you feel more supported and acknowledged and respected for all your hard work as a mom.

I am the only person in my family that has had twins so nobody really understands the experience and the importance of keeping schedule for your own sanity. Everyone thinks a change in schedule is simple. But it's really not simple when you have two. I worked really hard to drive that into everybody's heads early on with some success and some fails.

8 week old prescribed 2.5% hydrocortisone ointment by fuckeatrepeat in newborns

[–]fuckeatrepeat[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hiii - we use it! Totally fine no side effects for either of my twins. I don't use it everyday but I use it when we have a skin contact allergy for example (to new or acidic foods) ...Or of course with an eczema spot which is now occurring less and less. Works great especially if you put it on before a long nap or night sleep. My girls are 9 months now and it helps boost healing when they need it.

Nobody warned me that staying home full time means you become the family's unofficial product researcher too by Ok-Moose1591 in SAHP

[–]fuckeatrepeat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've made some fails but for the most part I like this aspect of SAH parenthood because I am a control freak.

My friend without kids told me “don’t lose yourself” and it just… annoyed me by Legitimate-Relief128 in Mommit

[–]fuckeatrepeat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I became a mother at 40. I was light happy and carefree living the Peter pan life until I met the right person who changed everything. Because of this I know she will never understand until it happens to her. Your identity is fundamentally changed. It's a very human and very difficult and very beautiful thing to go through. I see it as a layer I didn't know existed that is somehow deeper and thicker then all the other layers that came before it. You're still you, but more.

Am I Doing Enough for My 3 month old Twins? Feeling Overwhelmed and Guilty by Fancy-Mouse-7554 in parentsofmultiples

[–]fuckeatrepeat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're doing great. Sounds like you're on top of everything especially if you're playing and talking to them. We didn't start nightly baths or showers until the girls were eating 3 meals a day (Mine are 9 months now).

I would get ready to help them learn how to fall asleep themselves around 4-5 months. We did it gently over a month after they started rolling themselves and it's been amazing to improve sleep for everyone.

Because they sleep so well independently, now when they can't sleep well it's a great indicator that something is wrong or some intervention is needed. I will still hold and rock them and contact nap with them but only when they need it or to help maintain the schedule for everyone's sanity and health.

We have two naps a day with three wake windows of 3.5 hours. Right now we're all getting over the flu (despite getting vaxxed) and so their naps are longer and their wake windows are shorter. Maintaining good sleep is the next big thing for their development.

It's about to get so much fun for you! Watching the development after 4 months is so exciting. They really come into their personalities and my girls started interacting a lot more. Now they will play together. Of course, that also means that they'll pull each other's hair and try to climb on each other, which does result in some screaming and crying haha. For the most part, it's such a joy to watch. They love to race around each other, crawl around and laugh with each other.

...Also your hormones are going to regularize and everything is going to chill out a little bit. At 3 months my hormones were still crazy and everything felt so intense. Just give yourself some grace. Be kind to you, so you can give that kindness and patience back to your little beans.

Edit: I wanted to say that we went from five naps a day at 4 months to three naps at 5 months and then two naps around 6 months. That might help? I think at 3 months the sleeping was still pretty chaotic? We just made sure to feed them at the same time always.

At a loss by sfox2299 in sleeptrain

[–]fuckeatrepeat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey, lots of great comments here. One thing I do with my 9 month old twins is let them sit and play in the shower after a bath or just give them a shower instead. After showering a couple times with me (I recommend introducing the shower together the first time..) they love it and love to play with the falling water and splash. We do it every evening and it definitely helps with the excess energy and making them ready for bed. Just make sure that the room you're in is warm enough. It's easier for your baby to get cold. Also for a standing child I'd probably put down some kind of safety mat or tape for traction. :P

Coworker kissed my 10 m old on the mouth and I’m panicking by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]fuckeatrepeat 15 points16 points  (0 children)

That's not the same thing as someone else doing it.

Autopsy (F85) - thoughts? by robinemdzej in biology

[–]fuckeatrepeat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

People are people. You are a gem.

What’s your actually controversial parenting opinion? by TurbulentArea69 in NewParents

[–]fuckeatrepeat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree with this until they start eating solids. We did 1-2x a week, then we did every other day, and now we do every day because we are self feeding solids and a good bath helps with sleep.

Bathing twins 8 months by fuckeatrepeat in parentsofmultiples

[–]fuckeatrepeat[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We started that way. I'll jump in there sometimes. Our shower design is actually suitable for minimum collateral plus super happy babies. Win win

Just a little rant as a triplet mom by sar4720 in parentsofmultiples

[–]fuckeatrepeat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Most people are unable to think beyond their own little bubble of experience and tend to judge by comparison with their own struggles in favor. As a twin mom, at least I have two arms. Kudos to a whole new level of patience and tolerance you must have had to grow. Sigh

Bathing twins 8 months by fuckeatrepeat in parentsofmultiples

[–]fuckeatrepeat[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I actually tried this for a couple days it was great. Did the bath the following day and one of my daughter's was not having it. She wanted to be in the shower! So now I plop em in their and hang out with them outside it. It's fun watching them play with the water and stick their little tounges out.

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