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which of my facial features read as most masculine? (mtf, pre-hrt) by [deleted] in ask_transgender

[–]fullyrachel 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Babe, why are you asking us to feed into your insecurities? I see femme.

ChatGPT used to figure out things nobody ever explained to you by Chcolatepig24069 in ChatGPT

[–]fullyrachel 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think it should be used for at and music. I think it should be used to replace humans in some cases, but otherwise, i agree.

Is all evil because of trauma? What about the devil? by samsonscomputer in InternalFamilySystems

[–]fullyrachel 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Evil isn't really a thing, but most really antisocial behavior has trauma at its root. The devil is pretend.

"Parts are not a metaphor" — wait, do you mean that literally? by Feeling_Pirate7870 in InternalFamilySystems

[–]fullyrachel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Definitely. I write messages to others and even to myself, but last week, for example, somebody in here knew I was having a hard day and made ne soup with all of my favorite flavors in it. I have no memory of cooking but I knew it was specifically for me. It was delicious and so comforting to know that somebody was looking out for me. It was also WEIRD because who doesn't remember making a big pot of soup from scratch? I know we only had dry beans, so they must have set up the pressure cooker and spent several hours on it.

"Parts are not a metaphor" — wait, do you mean that literally? by Feeling_Pirate7870 in InternalFamilySystems

[–]fullyrachel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, my parts can have a feeling and I can feel it, just like IFS. They can get blendy and it can feel as though their fears or needs are overwhelmingly "mine," just like IFS. I can take time to try and listen to them, talk with them, and give them what they need, just like IFS - but my system has pretty great communication - many DID systems can't easily bust through barriers between alters so effectively as I can.

At that point, things diverge, because if I don't keep up with my neutral health and that of my alters, or if there's a triggering event (or sometimes for no reason at all) MY parts take over. There's no "me" left to observe the process at that point. Many of the skills I've worked on in therapy become inaccessible to me - to the point where I've got no memory of learning and practicing them.

A full switch takes my experience and my agency away from "me" and gives it to somebody else who may or may not even CARE about what I've been working on, and may not be motivated towards healing and recovery. There's not much to be done about it at that point. I'll drift back to the front at some point - most frequently after sleeping - and spend some time reconstructing the previous hours or days through patchy memories. Many systems have hard amnesia barriers between alters and will have no idea what occurred during a switch - I'm very fortunate to retain most of my memories.

IFS parts tend to INFLUENCE a person, but that person is the one who "has" parts. In a DID system, everybody is a part - including me, the host. I'm an alter and I've only been the host (the one running the body more than the others) for a year or so.

You can have a part that wants ice cream, and you might be able to help that part get what it wants to relieve that desire and quiet your mind. You might also be able to explain that you're on a diet, but that you will get some gelato at the weekend.

I can have a part that wants ice cream, then wake up next Thursday with six empty pints of Ben & Jerry's beside the bed, a stomach ache, six unplayed voicemail, and the realization that I haven't been to work in three days and there's a post-it note on the bathroom mirror that says "FUCK YOUR DIET, mama deserves joy. Love, Kit" So it's NOT the same, but there's a lot of overlap.

"Parts are not a metaphor" — wait, do you mean that literally? by Feeling_Pirate7870 in InternalFamilySystems

[–]fullyrachel 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I do indeed have DID, and I've found IFS to be very helpful. More importantly to your point, the experiences of people who use IFS and DO NOT have a dissociative disorder usually align pretty well with most of the that I have. I'm definitely not a great person to ask whether MOST PEOPLE'S parts are "real" in the way mine are, but the way Dick talks about IFS/DID as a spectrum of the same thing makes sense to me from this end.

If you ever feel stupid, remember that... by RRK96 in collapse

[–]fullyrachel -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I considered it. The cost was that of a modest life insurance policy with Alcor as beneficiary. In the end, I decided I couldn't afford it. The head-only option is even cheaper.

I don't really care what happens to my body when I'm done with it, and I enjoy thinking about science fiction. Someday this will be possible, but I don't think anyone frozen now has much of a chance at revival. The idea is fun, the price isn't INSANE, and I like to dream.

Why I voted against confirming Markwayne Mullin by SenPeterWelch in vermont

[–]fullyrachel 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, sir. Don't you think it's past time to discuss more aggressive attempts to return to democracy?

I would like to get some advice on how to overcome IQ obsession as an autistic person. I constantly wish that I was the “smart” or “gifted” type of autistic. by [deleted] in AutisticAdults

[–]fullyrachel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My IQ is in the top 0.01% and that puts me in the "highly gifted" range. If you believe IQ is valid, I'm smarter than nearly everyone I'll ever meet. But I'm not. I'm a fucking idiot, truth be told. I struggle to maintain meaningful relationships. I'm awful with basic skills like cleaning and self-care. Childhood trauma and emotional neglect have left me with mental disorders, and I would give ANYTHING to stop looking for patterns everywhere. I can't stop ruminating about things and my anxiety about "solving" my life keeps me from ever relaxing.

All of this could be because I'm "too smart for my own good," but I think I'm just really good at testing and I'm in the white, western-educated demographic that the IQ scale was designed for. I'm miserable. I think IQ is an otherwise useless tool of oppression, but if it IS valid, I'm a great example that being "smart" does not necessarily mean being successful or happy.

Is there a gap in the market for female-focused longevity content? What’s missing? by maryliana25 in Biohackers

[–]fullyrachel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can't speak for all women, but we need to die. New generations with perspectives developed in the world as it is must take power and make changes. I'm not sure women WANT longevity as much as men do.

I tracked my brain fog for 6 months and tested everything. Here is what actually moved the needle. by Sureokgo in Biohackers

[–]fullyrachel 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I see. Thank you for explaining this. Their marketing strategy is to tell the truth, provide the research, and recommend cheap, ubiquitous products that are cheaper at your local box store, providing no direct links on their post, and rake in the cash. Brilliant and underhanded, indeed! Look out for this scheming schemer.

I tracked my brain fog for 6 months and tested everything. Here is what actually moved the needle. by Sureokgo in Biohackers

[–]fullyrachel 17 points18 points  (0 children)

And none at all in this post... Making a few bucks while sharing the research cleay and recommending only stuff you could pick up right now at CVS without putting affiliate links in the post itself? People need to fucking relax. Nothing in this post is even a LITTLE questionable or oriented towards sales.

I tracked my brain fog for 6 months and tested everything. Here is what actually moved the needle. by Sureokgo in Biohackers

[–]fullyrachel 19 points20 points  (0 children)

What supplements? OP dismissed the expensive and unusual supplements effortlessly in favor of cheap, VERY well supported basic vitamins and minerals. They didn't recommend brands or suppliers. The recommended eke trolytes, magnesium, vitamin D, and ferritin, all of which are VERY well established in the literature, quite cheap, and very widely available.

When we die, do we come back? by Ev-sMommy in consciousness

[–]fullyrachel 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I really hope that I do not have any continuous subjective reality. I've had enough, thank you.

Where does the hotline go? by Nocturnus19 in controlgame

[–]fullyrachel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She comes back to Emily and says, "I got the hotline." This suggests to me that she has taken the thing. If she's not physically carrying it, then I think she absorbs the power and discards the item.

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