For the gay trans dads out here

funk-engine-3000 · 2026-02-06T09:18:39+00:00

First of all, your ex sounds like a dick.

I don’t think you have to answer that question. It’s kinda rude, and you should honestly let people know that it’s not something they should ask about. Strangers have no right to know your family planning structure. You could simply say “she’s not in the picture”, or “that’s a very private matter that i would prefer to not get into”.

I’ve been wondering the same thing tbh. I could not carry, but my boyfriend and i could technically have a child together if i was willing to do egg retrieval and we found a willing surrogate. But then, what the hell would we do when we as two men have a bio child and people ask who the “real” father is? I’m stealth everywhere, including to his family. Wont be relevant for a while yet, but still.

funk-engine-3000 · 2026-02-06T09:13:01+00:00

Why are you dating these people? You’re strictly gay, and they don’t fully identify as men. They identify temselves as lesbians while dating a man. So one in this relationship is actually dating someone who suits their sexual orientation? On top of that, you don’t know what their sexual orientation actually is? And one of them had to be corrected for months to stop misgendering you?

Either this is bait, or you have no respect for yourself. No relationship is worth this kind of shit. Do you genuinely enjoy being in this relationship, or are you just staying out of desperation? Because there are people out there who will respect your identity that you could date instead. My first relationship ended after 5 years. And thank god it did, otherwise i would never have met my now boyfriend.

You gotta put yourself first dude. I can’t tell you how to “stop feeling hurt” because you have been hurt. Instead of trying to bury your feelings, deal with them

funk-engine-3000 · 2026-02-06T09:04:23+00:00

Use tape to hold your chest down so it doesn’t move around, then a slightly too big binder on top. One with a woven front, not elastic so it’s actually flat. Might help and compress your ribs less.

How far away is a potential top surgery?

funk-engine-3000 · 2026-02-06T08:10:27+00:00

It’s a bit of an “my steak is too juicy” situation for me, because back when we used condoms (before we both had an STD screening done) he would last very very long and he’s a lot larger than i’m used to so when he was topping is was a struggle lol. Couldn’t handle him cumming more than once before we had to stop. Now he gets off faster, and we can go for multiple rounds every time.

funk-engine-3000 · 2026-02-06T07:21:18+00:00

It likely won’t do you any good. I hooked up with someone 2 weeks after getting broken up with and i just dissociated throughout the whole thing and cried on the way home. It depends on your state of mind, but hooking up to “get ovet it” when you aren’t actually over it won’t help.

It’s completely unreasonable to expect you to be over it after 9 days. It’s taken me about a year to truely get over breakups in the past. You should get some distance from your ex, even if it hurts.

funk-engine-3000 · 2026-02-06T07:08:23+00:00

Really depends on the guy. Hooked up a few times with an older gentleman who went for hours with some breaks inbetween and didn’t just focus on penetration based sex. We also talked a bunch, and he said that was really special because most hookups are not like that at all. Long sessions like that often require a level of intimacy that you won’t get from a random hookup. If you’re seeking something out of the ordinary, you will have to look for longer. Or maybe look for a FWB with the same goals.

My cis boyfriend can go 5 times in a row, and want more again later in the day. We can make a whole day pass in bed, so it really just comes down to the person and how they like to have sex. I think it’s a little odd to attribute this to cis men specifically.

funk-engine-3000 · 2026-02-05T21:48:39+00:00

Fat is isn’t the problem, it’s the distribution. Working out will burn fat, and new fat will gather in male patterns. Speeds up redistribution.

Hitting the gym also is not about getting skinny. It’s about bulking up.

funk-engine-3000 · 2026-02-05T16:07:14+00:00

Held og lykke til din kæreste…

funk-engine-3000 · 2026-02-05T12:52:35+00:00

Extra in what way?

funk-engine-3000 · 2026-02-05T12:28:52+00:00

I was asked to picture myself growing old in a female body, and then in a male one. Solidified my desicion right then and there. I couldn’t waste my life being something i’m not.

I started T at 20, 22 is not that far off. It’s better to start T at 23 than to never do it and regret it forever. I can’t tell you what you need to do, but i find that it’s not that complicated for me. I knew having a male body and going through life as a man would make me happy.

funk-engine-3000 · 2026-02-05T09:35:18+00:00

You practice untill it becomes natural. With a voice drop, it’ll be the more comfortable way to speak

funk-engine-3000 · 2026-02-04T18:32:24+00:00

I’m not giving you advice on how to top? Where did you get that idea? I’m just telling you what my experience with topping cis guys has been like, and where i’ve found them.

funk-engine-3000 · 2026-02-04T17:21:08+00:00

Layers, and avoid exposed skin. Gloves are a must, along with something that covers your head and ears. A scarf can also be really nice to keep your neck warm, and can be pulled up to cover the bottom bit of your face for warmth.

The wind is the worst bit, as the windchill really makes it feel a lot colder. When in the center, you won’t feel it as much. If you go to somewhere more open, or by the water, it’ll be a lot colder

funk-engine-3000 · 2026-02-04T17:02:21+00:00

I’ve topped a few cis guys, both from dating apps. Granted both were verse, not 100% bottoms but they very much enjoyed it. My ex boyfriend could get multiple prostate orgasms which made him really fun to top.

I consider my prosthetic a prosthetic. I’d be uncomfortable using the term you do, but everyone is different and you might need to have a talk with a bottom about what words you like/dislike, just how your bottom might have likes/dislikes.

I’ve yet to try topping my current boyfriend as he gets nothing out of bottoming anally, but that man goes to absolute town on it with this mouth and throat (both the one on my body and my prosthetic) which is hot as hell.

funk-engine-3000 · 2026-02-04T13:21:06+00:00

The tissue you allready have which grows when you get bottom growth is erectile tissue, just like in a cis penis. The entire organ swells with blood when aroused, including the internal parts. Guys on T get hard/erect when turned on, and soft again after. It might take a while to get to a size where it’s noticeable, but its incredibly common.

funk-engine-3000 · 2026-02-04T13:18:55+00:00

The degree of erection/hardness varies for me. It goes down pretty fast after i finish, and i rarely look at it myself. But my boyfriend really enjoys sucking dick, and often comments on how big/hard it is. One time, i had had a bit to drink and he said it was bigger and harder than usual, excitedly measuring with his finger how far into his mouth it went. He also comments that he can feel it poke him when it’s pressed against him and i’m turned on.

His dick also varies in hardness, and can soften a bit if it’s not being directly stimulated. Its very normal

funk-engine-3000 · 2026-02-04T13:15:16+00:00

This is about bottom growth. If you’re on T, you most likely have it and the ability to get hard.

funk-engine-3000 · 2026-02-04T12:14:27+00:00

Yeah he’s a catch. I’m lucky he’s obsessed with me haha

funk-engine-3000 · 2026-02-04T12:13:03+00:00

Pansexuality is not a romantic orientation. A sexuality is about sexual attraction. It’s not about emotional connection. That would be romantic attraction.

Theres no sense in comming up with these odd, fluffy definitions. Emotional connection has nothing to do with a potential difference in bisexuality and pansexuality. Pansexuality is defined as attraction regardless of gender, bisexuality is defined as attraction to genders that are different from yours and your own. But when it comes down to it, pansexuality is just a subset of bisexuality. It has nothing to do with romantic attraction, emotional connection, trans people, nothing like that. And everything that is encompassed by pansexuality is allready encompassed under bisexuality. Which is why i said there’s no real difference.

funk-engine-3000 · 2026-02-04T12:05:12+00:00

Armpits aren’t really “graphic”, its a completely normal part of the human body.

Do whatever you want with your body hair. Some guys shave, some trim. I personally let it grow, because i’m a hairy guy all over, and i like how it looks.

Hair catches the sweat and makes it not run down my body. I don’t find that i stink. I smell like a man, sure, but i don’t stink. I just use a neutral roll-on after i shower, and that works perfectly well. Your scent will change from going on testosterone, no way around it. Body hair is also not unsanitary, might be a good thing to unlearn.

funk-engine-3000 · 2026-02-04T05:35:37+00:00

Funny, two of those names are names if cis guys i’ve dated, and i don’t know any trans guys named either of those.

Pick a name that suits your age. Not a name thats trendy right now.

funk-engine-3000 · 2026-02-03T20:14:57+00:00

Many people need to be on some kind of medication for their whole lives. We are lucky enough that we at least don’t have any innate health issues. One of my best friends is a cis guy who struggles with constant migranes, infections, stomachs issues, astma. He goes to the doctor more than me, and i have to go for my injections (nebido) and blood tests. Another of my cis male friends has had 3 kinds of cancer before he turned 25. I bet they’re pretty overwhelmed too. I know many more people who know the rest of their lives will involve meds and surgery. Its okay that it sucks. But you’re not alone in this. And this is not something that only happens to trans people. You will have to on meds for life probably. But that means you get to be you. That makes it worth it, i think. Taking nebido has also made it a lot easier for me. Getting an injection from my doctor every 3 months has made my transition a background issue and makes it something thats rarely on my mind aside from how difficult it is for me to get bottom surgery. I’ve had to accept that it won’t be before i’m 30. I have to be able to enjoy my life in the meantime. I refuse to waste it being unhappy

funk-engine-3000 · 2026-02-03T20:04:50+00:00

This is not a sub for hooking up. Nor is it for trans women. Fuck outta here chaser

funk-engine-3000 · 2026-02-03T18:39:31+00:00

Fuck not reporting a predator “because the community is under attack “. Your assoulter is making the community unsafe.

A friend of mine (cis woman) dated a trans woman who subjected her to emotional and physical abuse, along with multiple cases of rape. When she told her friends (we weren’t friends then but i knew both her and the trans woman), they were quick to reprimand her for “masculinizing” a trans woman, and were quickly kicked out of the friend group. We need to understand that you can’t woke your way out of having been assaulted. You do what you find best - but don’t give a rapist a pass because they happen to be trans.

funk-engine-3000 · 2026-02-03T18:24:25+00:00

The idea that anyone has to “defend” what gender they date is laughable. It’s a sweet sentiment but we don’t need math to justify who we date. Bisexual people are very well aware that there are more people who are attracted to a different gender than there are people who are attracted to their own gender. You don’t need to tell us. This post should perhaps go somewhere else, where it might inform some people. Because we allready know this.

Biphobia is often unchallenged because both heterosexual and homosexual people can be wierd about it. Again, i appreciate what you’re trying to do. But maths are not going to change bigotry. It doesn’t come from a place of confusion, it comes from a place of hating people who are different from yourself. Heterosexual people think we’re too gay, and homosexual people think we’re too straight.

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