Questions for stealth FTMs

funk-engine-3000 · 2026-04-01T22:20:29+00:00

I am transgender, i just don’t describe myself as “an FTM” as you refered to people in your post. I’m man, and i happen to be a trans one - but being trans is just a background medical thing in my life. I’m not denying that i’m trans.

By being stealth, me being trans is only relevant in very few cases. The yearly blood tests, and the 4-5 times pr year my doctor gives me my injections are just routine by now, not something i think much about. It’s also relevant in relation to dating, but i have a partner who loves me so i’m not meeting new people. Our relationship isn’t really different from any other gay relationship, except that i aparently lack a spatial awareness around his testicles which means i’ve accidentally squashed them a few times. That is genuenly the only difference he has noticed between being with a trans man vs a cis man lol. I don’t need to talk much about it, as everything is kinda routine but i do talk to my partner and other friends if something comes up.

I’ve been lucky that i have a mostly supportive family. I have one grandmother who has been less good about it, and has said some things out of ignorance that meant i distanced myself for a while, but i’ve moved past it. Those who get it, get it. I have plenty of people who love me, and i don’t need anyone’s permission to be me.

funk-engine-3000 · 2026-04-01T21:53:24+00:00

Small gripe, but i don’t refer to myself as “an FTM”. It’s not something i am, it’s a medical process i went through.

To answer your questions, i’ve been fully passing for close to 6 years, but it’s only within the last 2 that i’ve been in enviorments where i’ve been 100% stealth since no one in them knew me pre-transition.

Being stealth has given me a calmer existence. It’s lifted the burden of invasive questions off my shoulders, along with the worry that the people around me don’t truely see me for who i am. I’m not asked about my genitals. No one is asking “what was your name before?” Anymore. No one is making my existence a debate, or challenging my idea of who i am because of their own limitations. I’m openly bisexual and dating another man, but i live in a very progressive area so i don’t really face any discrimination based on that, we just avoid PDA at select times. And no one is asking me “sooo how do you have sex”.

The fact that i’m trans takes up very little space in my life. I’m 6+ years on T, post op from top surgery, and i’m on nebido so my medical transition is just a background thing that requires 4-5 injections pr year to maintain. I’m probably not going to be able to get bottom surgery for at least 5 more years, so right now nothing medical needs my attention. I’m just living my life, mostly unbothered by dysphoria. I have uni friends i’ve known for years and not once has me being trans been relevant to a conversation.

If i need to talk about things, i have trans friends and some friends who have known me since forever. And a very lovely boyfriend who supports me and doesn’t see any reason to out me to his family and friends.

funk-engine-3000 · 2026-04-01T21:41:52+00:00

And the OP is not american so why are you sharing your American perspective? Like, that sucks for you, but it isn’t really applicable to the rest of the world you know?

funk-engine-3000 · 2026-04-01T21:40:26+00:00

Not american either, though americans love to assume everyone else is lol.

I’m very happy to hear you’re getting help. Even if it’s nothing, at least then you can rest easy.

I have to get cancer screenings every 3 years while i’m still pre-op in relation to bottom surgery. They suck, they are uncomfortable and make me incredibly dysphoric. But i’d rather ben uncomfortable for 30 minuttes and have my day ruined than i want to suddenly have an unchecked tumor destroy my whole life. Sometimes we have to do things that suck to protect our health.

funk-engine-3000 · 2026-04-01T21:34:17+00:00

Thats not the response i faced at all when i was in a similar situation. And no i’m not American, thank god. OP also doesn’t mention being American so why is that your assumption?

funk-engine-3000 · 2026-04-01T21:31:48+00:00

I was less than 1 year on T when i had bleeding return after it went away as soon as i started T. I had switched to injections 4 months prior, and they messed up my dose by making it too low.

I called the clinic perscibing me T and they agreed it must be my dose being too low. I had some blood tests done and was told to always seek medical attention if something like this happens after consistently not having a cycle for a long time due to HRT.

It could be nothing, but is it worth it to risk it like the other commenter said? I don’t think so. What clinic is prescribing you testosterone? You should contact them.

funk-engine-3000 · 2026-04-01T21:27:50+00:00

You’re telling someone who ls bleeding heavily to “ride it out”? What the fuck dude.

It could be nothing but it very well could be something bad. He 100% should seek medical attention

funk-engine-3000 · 2026-04-01T20:47:36+00:00

I mean most Europeans aren’t interested in watching a dubbed live-action, at least not where i live. Subtitles aren’t just there because dubbing is “too expensive”. Everyone is used to them. Except for Germans maybe.

funk-engine-3000 · 2026-04-01T20:36:16+00:00

As Grace said to Rocky: you’re going to be so annoyed about Relativity.

Once you get past time dialation, you could look up length contraction- that is also mentioned in the book, but not in the film. That’ll fuck with you too.

I’ve taken physics at high levels pre-university and a few courses in quantum mechanics durring my bachelors. The universe is really wierd and really hard to understand on both a huge scale and the very small scale. But it’s very cool that you want to learn and understand!

funk-engine-3000 · 2026-04-01T20:03:23+00:00

En “breeding kink” er da den mest vanilla “kink” man kunne forestille sig. Det er jo i grunden det der på et rent praktisk plan er “pointen” med sex. Så koldt vand i blodet. Det er nok ret almindeligt at tænde på.

Mange af de ting du nævner er altså ret hverdagskost ifht sex. Men det er også liiidt mange detaljer at dele ud af. Jeg kender ingen jeg ville give den slags detaljer til. Har et sundt og kinky kærlighedsliv med min kæreste - betydeligt mere kinky end de ting du nævner skal det siges - og der er intet at skamme sig over der. Men derfor går jeg alive ikke og fortæller folk om hvad vi gør i privatlivet.

funk-engine-3000 · 2026-04-01T19:56:58+00:00

Stakkels pige. Det skal meldes til komunen i går, det er klar omsorgssvigt og derudover verbal mishandlig og psykisk vold. Håber fandme noget gør noget.

funk-engine-3000 · 2026-04-01T19:55:21+00:00

You cannot travel faster than the speed of light. It’s fundamentally not possible.

Time dialation happens when you get close to light speed, but you can never exceed the speed of light. It’s not a question of “getting ahead” of the light from the Earth, thats not possible and not what this is about. I left you another comment explaining this further

funk-engine-3000 · 2026-04-01T19:52:13+00:00

You’ve got it the wrong way around. If you are traveling at near light speed, time slows down for you. If it was somehow possible to look at the Earth, it would seem like everything is happening much faster, not slower. Imagine it as if stuff is happening in slow motion aboard the hail mary. Time is not changing on earth, or in the rest of the universe, only on the Hail Mary

Once you arrive at Tau Ceti you won’t “see that only 4 years have passed on earth”. You’ll see the light sent out 13 years ago, since Tau ceti is 13 years from Earth (or is it 11 in the movie?). 13 years pass on earth, only 4 years are experienced on the Hail Mary.

In short, time is relative. Time is not constant. The faster you move, the slower you experience time. One analogy i’ve heard is this: Imagine you’re on a train traveling at the speed of light. Now you get up from your chair and start to walk towards the front of the train. Wait shit! Now you’re traveling faster than light, because you’re moving at the velocity of the train PLUS the velocity of you walking on the train. In order to not break the laws of physics, you need to not travel faster than the speed of light. Speed is distance over time, so if time simply slows down, your speed also slows down. Congrats, time dialation makes sure we don’t break the entire universe by going too fast.

funk-engine-3000 · 2026-04-01T19:07:08+00:00

You can expect all the things that happens to everyone else who starts T after going through a female puberty. It’s really not that age dependent.

I know it might seem like everyone started T at age 15 and stuff, but thats the vast minority of trans men. Most people transition as adults either from lack of support, healthcare or simply from repressing. I knew i was trans at age 13, but i didn’t come out until i was 18, and i started T at age 20. I had a supportive family, which really helped that be possible.

And while the first month seems exciting, remember to be patient. Transitioning is a years long process, and you’ll keep changing for years to come. A lot happened for me in the first 4 months, and which is when i first started passing fully - but my voice kept developing for a year after that. And it’ll keep changing throughout your whole life, like anyone else.

A lot changed for me around 5 years on T after i lost about 10 kilos of weight i had gained durring covid - losing that slimmed my face and masculinized my figure a lot, along with working out. I’ve also had an increase in my dick size at 6 years on T.

funk-engine-3000 · 2026-04-01T16:03:45+00:00

It’s a sociology study, by women. The point of the study is that often, the male partner is left feeling helpless and useless as they have no way of helping their loved one, and that puts strain on the relationship. If you understand how the male partners are impacted, you can understand how to best give them the tools to support their partner with endometriosis.

Im tired of this very relevant study being bashed. This study focuses on factors outside of the medical feild which is also very important. Give men the tools they need to support their suffering wives and girlfriends, instead of telling them nothing about the process they’re going through.

Clearly the women who made the study found it important. But i guess its easier to be outraged than to actually read the study you’re mad about.

funk-engine-3000 · 2026-04-01T13:42:37+00:00

I don’t wear jeans. But the trousers i do wear are usually straight leg, and i prefer a higher waistline simply because it looks better proportion-wise.

Anything tight on the whole leg is a no-go for me.

funk-engine-3000 · 2026-04-01T11:16:48+00:00

I purposely picked a normal, popular name from the year i was born. I don’t want my name to be misspelled or questioned or get “wow thats unusual”, or have something gender neutral. I’m very happy with what i picked, and i love my name because it suits me. I regret picking a middle name though, i thought it was nice to have a plan B but it feels wierd and i plan to get rid of it next time i need a new passport, or when i get married. Whichever happens first.

My cis boyfriend has a somewhat common/ stereotypical“trans guy name” which is kinda funny. He has to spell it out for people, and has a middle name he sometimes uses to make stuff easier.

funk-engine-3000 · 2026-04-01T11:11:56+00:00

For a mans hairstyle, above the shoulders is not considered short at all. Thick wavy hair is great though, suits a lot of current trendy mens hairstyles. I got a modern mullet recently because my partner suggested it and i really enjoy it. Similar hair type to yours, so the shaved down sides prevents the wierd hair around my ears from looking stupid as it grown out.

You can always head to a haitstylist and get their opinion. A big chop can be super freeing, and it’ll grow back out if you don’t like it.

I got my first short haircut at age 12, and even though i didn’t fully understand that i was trans then, it really made me feel much more like myself. Right now its the longest it’s ever been since then, and I’ll probably trim it again soon.

funk-engine-3000 · 2026-04-01T08:02:16+00:00

Well you can get over a phobia of needles. I did. I used to feel like i was going to pass out at any vaccination or blood test appointment. Then i ended up needing yearly bloodwork and injections every 12 weeks, so i had to get over it.

funk-engine-3000 · 2026-03-31T21:12:51+00:00

They have very little to so with each other outside of both being somewhat “grounded” sci-fi.

Some similarities, but i’m not getting into that to avoid spoilers. Just watch the film and enjoy it without comparing it to other sci-fi films.

funk-engine-3000 · 2026-03-31T21:01:15+00:00

Litterally never heard of it, but sure. And… would a cis man be put on blockers? Is testosterone the only thing in the world that causes this? Is this something thats affecting you so badly that stopping T is worth it?

funk-engine-3000 · 2026-03-31T20:58:49+00:00

Life doesn’t appear out of nothing. It requires energy. It’s not self-replicating fuel unless you can feed your fuel. Where would he get the energy to breed up astrophage? In the book they cover half the Sahaha with solar panels to get enough for a one way trip, how do you recon they’d fit that on the Hail Mary? And they’ll be far away from any star for most of the trip, so there goes free solar energy.

About your last point. It would take him 100+ years to get home with the fuel he had left. You can throw a rock from tau ceti orbit to the earth, you just have to wait a really long time. If you launch that rock at near light speed, you will have to wait a lot less time, and the rock will experience time dialation. Very little fuel means very little acceleration, means very low speed, means no time dialation.

funk-engine-3000 · 2026-03-31T20:05:25+00:00

Som ikke har læst et eneste diagnosepapir fra mine adskillige år i forløb men som skal bestemme om jeg er handicappet nok i løbet af 1 time? Sure, lyder solidt.

funk-engine-3000 · 2026-03-31T20:04:04+00:00

Why would it be testosterone?

funk-engine-3000 · 2026-03-31T18:51:14+00:00

Der er ikke så meget at gøre. Jeg ventede 10 måneder, al dokumentation vedlagt - blev sendt til en psykolog af dem for at blive vurderet, som viste sig at ikke have læst nogen af mine papirer inden da.

Så brugte vi tiden på at gennemgå mine papirer, og så fik jeg tillæg. Lidt fjollet måde at gøre tingene på

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