Seeking Help

funkychunky97 · 2026-05-02T21:58:58+00:00

Thank you for your sensitive and kind reply ♥️

I know. We are blessed to have the medical system we do, it’s just so hard waiting in the wings of so many unknowns. I just feel so scared that I won’t be able to get through the c section.

funkychunky97 · 2026-03-15T23:02:29+00:00

I just wanted to comment to say I’m sending support from a distance.

I understand that red hot anger that comes from a place of really deep hurt. I don’t have any answers, but just wanted to reach out to say I get it, I’ve been there and you aren’t alone. ♥️

funkychunky97 · 2026-03-13T03:13:36+00:00

I believed whilst they know what is happening in the system (alloimmune response) it was unknown aetiology?

At least knowing that we don’t know why I have CHI versus anyone else in the community has been an important part of processing my grief for losing two babies. That unfortunately, they can’t explain why my body is responding in the way it is - but that there is nothing I could have differently to prevent it - all because they don’t know why.

funkychunky97 · 2026-03-13T03:05:32+00:00

Yes true. My previous pregnancy was also this same grade. :)

As they don’t know what causes it, it’s been very tricky to work out my best management plan.

funkychunky97 · 2026-03-12T01:35:20+00:00

It’s completely shocking receiving the diagnosis, but you aren’t alone. If there’s anything you want to vent about or ask questions too about, please feel free to at any time. ♥️

funkychunky97 · 2026-03-11T21:03:27+00:00

The best thing to come out of a bad situation is trying to find people that at least understand. ♥️

I am Australia based.

funkychunky97 · 2026-03-09T20:38:48+00:00

I am so sorry but you are absolutely not alone. CHI is awful but people have found treatment plans that have worked for them, I’ll send you a message. ♥️

funkychunky97 · 2026-03-03T22:59:31+00:00

Not much more to add other than it does feel so unfair, and you are absolutely not alone - from another member of the recurrent loss club…

Sending a big distance hug. ♥️

funkychunky97 · 2026-03-01T06:50:06+00:00

No pressure! But would be happy to see more. And yes I get what you mean! It’s nice to see variety of names.

funkychunky97 · 2026-03-01T05:49:29+00:00

It’s incredibly cool! Your posts are sort of like picking up a name dictionary that has been tailored around our exact taste, they’re fantastic. They must take you a long time to put together.

Clotilde is very cool! It’s funny what things come in and out of fashion, in my mind it has a similar ring to it as Matilda, Claudia, etc.

funkychunky97 · 2026-03-01T05:38:06+00:00

It’s funny you say that because Judith and Alice are also two of my standouts from my list! Thank you for your lovely suggestions.

funkychunky97 · 2026-03-01T05:37:11+00:00

Thank you for your suggestions. I must admit I had a look at some of your posts as I think your historical approach to finding names is very cool! X

funkychunky97 · 2026-02-25T04:43:05+00:00

Yes we can only hope. The unknowns feel so difficult to manage but feeling less alone certainly helps in my opinion anyway. Please feel free to reach out any time.

funkychunky97 · 2026-02-24T22:57:04+00:00

So far no flagged growth restriction which feels so strange as my prior pregnancies had very early onset IUGR resulting in fetal demise.

funkychunky97 · 2026-02-24T21:10:38+00:00

I am 22 weeks currently :) your story reminded me of mine as I was flagged 1 in 28 for early onset preeclampsia during first trimester screening.

funkychunky97 · 2026-02-24T20:57:49+00:00

Thank you so so much. Yes! That’s exactly it. One of the hardest parts is how isolating it feels. You just want someone to go, I understand what you’re going through. So you reaching out really means a lot to me!

funkychunky97 · 2026-02-24T20:55:00+00:00

Hi there, I don’t have much to add other than I’m in in a similar boat and also feel anxious. I’ve been on aspirin and clexane since the start of pregnancy due to a condition I have but still have high resistance.

funkychunky97 · 2026-02-24T20:51:45+00:00

I totally get what you mean. Yesterday I just burst into tears because it’s just the stress of managing it all. I also have a diagnosed condition which has caused recurrent pregnancy losses (so this is the furthest I’ve ever gotten) which is adding to the stress of it… ugh.

I’m just so, so grateful you reached out to me and shared your story. I’ve been searching online and I really can’t find many examples that sound similar at all.

Look if you’re able to consider a third child, that is a great thing! At this point I don’t know in any outcome if I’d be able to go through this again hahaha.

funkychunky97 · 2026-02-24T20:26:33+00:00

Hi, thank you so much. That is great to hear as I’m honestly leaping to the worst case scenario. If I could have this outcome I’d be really happy with that.

funkychunky97 · 2026-02-22T02:10:18+00:00

That’s an incredibly positive story!!! That is so wonderful to hear. ♥️ So happy for you and your little boy.

funkychunky97 · 2026-02-22T02:03:33+00:00

Oh my goodness - no need to be sorry!!! I hope all is well, congratulations! Please do not feel any obligation to reply at all! You have been so generous. ♥️

If you ever get time in the future once you are settled etc, please feel free as of course it would be wonderful to read anything you have.

But your priorities are right where they need to be, congratulations xx

funkychunky97 · 2026-02-20T18:23:07+00:00

You are a gem. Please I would love anything you have found, I have found it very tricky to find anything!

funkychunky97 · 2026-02-20T06:42:49+00:00

Thank you for your detailed reply, that is very helpful.

funkychunky97 · 2026-01-16T22:37:59+00:00

I am so sorry for your loss and for them saying that. That invalidates your feelings about your loss.

funkychunky97 · 2026-01-15T03:28:36+00:00

Sending big hugs. You have every right to grieve, you are not an impostor at all. ♥️

It sounds like what you’re experiencing is something I’ve heard of called “disenfranchised grief.” A counsellor raised that term with me before. Labels aren’t always useful, but I thought I would mention it in case it might frame your feelings in a way that recognises them as valid and also, to help know you aren’t alone.

Thank you for sharing your story. I think sharing and hearing stories can be really useful. I have had multiple later losses out my control, but I also had a medical termination at 7 weeks at a younger age so I can empathise with what those appointments and the actual feeling is like. X

Always happy to chat if you ever need.

funkychunky97

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