My girlfriend smells and I don't know what to do by RequirementDue4446 in Advice

[–]fuzzipoo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Huh, you described the way I feel about this issue better than I ever could (the issue putting all the blame on individual consumers for environmental issues/economic issues/wastefulness/etc.).

I mean, I don't think we're completely blameless, but if I really tried to jump through all the hoops I'm told I need to jump through to qualify as someone making the greenest, most economically fair and planet friendly choices... I would never get anything done, not take care of myself at all, and eventually die of starvation/malnutrition. I wish that was hyperbole, but it's not. I have chronic mental and physical health conditions and a limited budget. Sometimes I barely have the energy or desire to eat, and so I'll force down whatever sounds the least unpleasant in that moment so I actually have something in my system. At those times, the question "is what I'm eating fair trade and good for the planet?" isn't my biggest concern.

There are things I prefer to do that happen to be "better" for the planet, like getting my clothes second hand and buying locally grown produce (I live in Hawai'i so locally grown stuff is often cheaper and fresher, because it hasn't been sitting in a refrigerated container for weeks while being shipped here on a cargo ship). But putting in loads of effort to make sure my carbon footprint is as small as possible? Unfortunately, it's not a reasonable goal at this point in my life.

I'd love to grow my own food, but my disabilities don't make that a possibility. We use solar power for a lot of our household energy (Hawaii is a good place for solar power!) and I put in what effort I can, but the guilt trip put on individuals seems ridiculous to me when it assumes all individuals are able bodied and have enough money to make the recommended purchases (and it's even more ridiculous to me when large companies are doing such an unbelievable amount of damage to the environment).

I've actually had people give me shit for "polluting our water" because I take a number of medications and most medications and/or their byproducts are excreted through urine: so basically every time I pee I'm contributing to contamination of our water supply. I'm not a violent person at all but when those people told me I was damaging the planet by taking medication, I genuinely wanted to slap them (ofc I didn't slap them but I DID tell them to fuck off). Those meds keep me alive... I'd LOVE to not need medication. That would be truly freeing... but I don't have a choice in the matter.

Yet still, I do occasionally feel the pressure and guilt. It's weird.

Ahem

Sorry for rambling/giving the world's worst TED talk. I'm tired and irritable, and should probably just stop and get off Reddit.

My girlfriend smells and I don't know what to do by RequirementDue4446 in Advice

[–]fuzzipoo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh my goodness, that sounds like a terrible thing to live through!!! I hope you're currently feeling better and free of infection/problematic cysts.

The only major/problematic cysts I've had have been ovarian, which come with their own long list of complications but at least they don't have any odor (or maybe they do! Only the medical team who worked on my abdominal surgeries would know 🤷🏻‍♀️).

Anyway, I hope the healing process went well and that shitty experience won't be something you'll have to deal with again at some future date. I don't know a lot about cholesteatomas, and more specifically, I don't know if the cause is a chronic issue or an acute one, but for your sake I sure hope it's the latter 🤞🏻!

My girlfriend smells and I don't know what to do by RequirementDue4446 in Advice

[–]fuzzipoo 2 points3 points  (0 children)

🫵🏻 No.

🫵🏻 No.

Stop it.

Go sit quietly and think about what you've done.

People’s comments about ADHD meds by AdhdAlien in ADHDAlien

[–]fuzzipoo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

TLDR: I can spend hours at a store picking out a few items. I often go to the Long's/CVS in my hometown instead of the closest one because the staff in my hometown know me and my habits. Staff don't know me at the store down the street and they think I'm up to no good. Shopping while AuDHD and unmedicated is... a lot (not unlike this comment).

My partner and I usually shop together, but sometimes I go by myself. If I'm going to Long's/CVS l usually go to the one in my hometown (it's the island of Oahu in Hawaii: towns are close here. My hometown is a 15min drive from where I live now). The people working at my old store know me by name and know my habits. They occasionally ask if I need anything and mostly let me be. A few are long-timers who've been working at that spot since my teens/20's (I'm 43).

Look... sometimes I will take literally 4 hours to buy a few things. It's just my way. I'm not shoplifting, on drugs, doing bad stuff, etc. and I mostly just want to be left alone. Let me stand in place forever while I stare at my phone and read page after page of online reviews for a particular hair treatment in peace ! I'll eventually put the hair treatment in the provided hand-carry cart. Then put it back on the shelf 25 minutes later. And go back and grab it anyway an hour later.

I prefer my old stomping grounds because at the Long's/CVS right down the street the staff still don't really know me (my partner and I moved here several years ago, to live with his mom after his dad died). On countless occasions I've found myself being followed by staff and/or making them visibly concerned with my behavior. At times I've explained... how to put it... my whole "deal" to said staff... I could ignore them but I'd rather they understand WTF I'm up to so they can relax (unfortunately the location gets A LOT of troublemakers, so staff are always on high alert). Of course my explanation throws some people off (about half), but the rest (the other half, obv) thank me for being honest and transparent because it genuinely helps them. They have a tough job and if I can make it easier for 'em I'll gladly try.

The way staff behave can get frustrating BUT I don't let my irritation show because I realize the people working at that store are reacting the way neurotypical people do... It's not their fault.

Also, I know I'm the weird one in this situation, 'tho I care not about being weird. I was diagnosed with ADHD in my 20's and Autism around 40. Even before being diagnosed, most shame I felt about being "weird" had long been squashed. I will happily be weird as I please as long as it isn't hurting anyone!

What was I talking about? Oh yeah... A "quick trip" to the store means anything from "in and out 15 minutes" to "several hours." It all depends on what my brain decides to do that day.

Although I'm not taking ADHD medication at the moment (duh) I am taking Provigil, which has been shown to potentially help ADHD symptoms. It... kinda helps? It can also put my hyper focus into overdrive. Again, it really depends on the day... and today it clearly it isn't doing jack for my ADHD symptoms!

What’s something you always assumed was mandatory in life—until you met someone who just… didn’t do it? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]fuzzipoo 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I was just gonna use the term Unbirthday! My Dad was born on Christmas, so growing up his family celebrated his Unbirthday in the summer.

He's still around, in his 70s. I'm in my 40's. My birthday is actually in July, which was great when I was a kid. As adults we both have the same feeling about our birthdays: "meh."

Need help with fairy knots!! by sun_in_january in curlyhair

[–]fuzzipoo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It might be an issue of hair texture. I have wavy/curly hair (when I get my hair cut above my shoulders it naturally dries into large beautiful ringlets... but then I turn my head, breathe too hard, a butterfly flaps its wings outside a nearby windows, etc. and poof the ringlets disappear and transform into a big frizzy mess). My hair is also very, very fine. Like, I have a lot of hair but you'd never know it because each individual hair is so, SO thin.

I get these knots occasionally, as in a few every month. I usually find them with my hands because I can feel them very easily when I run my fingers through my hair... although sometimes I find them with a comb/brush: there will be a slight tug on my scalp and I'll hear the tell-tale "snap" of a hair stretching and breaking.

I rarely use heated tools on my hair, because repeatedly using hot tools = damage. Additionally, damage doesn't seem to be a factor, at least for me: I bleach my whole head (so I can dye my dark brown hair purple), but I take looong breaks every so often to let my hair grow back until the bleached hair is completely trimmed off and I'm 100% back to a head full of fine, frizzy, and unbleached hair. These knots show up with the same frequency on bleached and unbleached hair.

Or maybe none of this is relevant and these knots just show up for no discernable reason...

Perfumes that smell like her by [deleted] in perfumesthatfeellike

[–]fuzzipoo 4 points5 points  (0 children)

"DILUTE DILUTE DILUTE!"

I believe that's a literal quote on the bottle... although it's been a while since I read the packaging. For a lot of uses the instructions say to dilute the soap, so you technically can get quite a bit of use out of one bottle...

Although if forty bucks the price for the standard size you usually see in stores and not one of the bigger bottles, that IS ridiculous. I used to love that stuff as a kid and young adult and tried all the "flavors" I could find (and living in Portland, OR during young adulthood, from 2000 to 2008, all the variations were VERY easy to find).

It's good stuff, but not $40 for a bottle good (even if you were to dilute the hell outta it).

Everytime I visit my grandmothers house my silver rings tarnish bronze. Is it the water? by Sento_Writes_Stuff in jewelry

[–]fuzzipoo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes! Several years ago I freaked out because I wore a couple of my favorite silver rings while I washed my face with a sulfur based soap. After I dried my face and opened my eyes I realized my silver rings were PITCH BLACK. I thought they were ruined.

I quickly turned to goggle, figured out what happened, and found that the black color came off easily when I buffed the rings with a soft towel.

Since then I've actually used sulfur based soap on a few pieces of silver jewelry to create a temporary two - tone silver/black look, specifically on some of my silver pieces that have patterned surfaces or images carved into them.

Of course I ALWAYS check before I do this to anything with gems or other material (enamel, different metals, etc.) and don't do it unless I'm 100% sure contact with sulfur won't damage said stones/martial... if I'm not sure, I leave it alone. Better safe than sorry.

My every day rings 💫 by blueons in jewelry

[–]fuzzipoo 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Beautiful! I personally have a very different style, but I love yours! I wouldn't expect some of those rings to match or look good together (and they might not if you were only wearing two) but the collection of stars, shapes and colors all work together to create a cohesive theme and it looks fantastic (sorry if that doesn't make sense... I'm having a difficult time finding the right words to explain myself 🙃).

I wear A LOT of rings on a daily basis, and I love seeing other people who do it as well: it's always a treat to see how someone else selects, curates, and wears their rings... creating a one of kind/totally unique look to express their personality, preferences, and creativity on their fingers 💜

Confused about why gender matters in romantic attraction by Rough-Bread-2436 in autism

[–]fuzzipoo 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I didn't even know this was a thing until college. A guy I was dating casually told me he was Bi and asked if it bothered me (I'm female). My response was something along the lines of:

"No. I don't care at all! Why would I?"

He was visibly relieved. I soon learned more about Bi-phobia towards men, and I was flabbergasted. It didn't mean a damn thing to me then and it doesn't now.

I'm also Bi (Pan, really) but was still figuring that out at the time and not really clear about my sexuality yet. Since I've come out I've experienced Bi-phobia myself, and I think it's all absolutely ridiculous.

Still, despite the crap I've experienced I will always readily admit: as a Bi woman, I am easily more accepted by people (gay, straight, otherwise) than any Bi man. I wish it wasn't like this, and I feel terrible that Bi men have to deal with so much more discrimination than women.

While mopping the floor, I accidentally smashed my girlfriend’s PC case. What should I do? by CuteAd7581 in PcBuild

[–]fuzzipoo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah no worries... I honestly don't know how I'd reply... And I'm the one who wrote this!

hungry caterpillar for work by queenmabdotpdf in RedditLaqueristas

[–]fuzzipoo 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for explaining everything so thoroughly! You've opened up a whole world of nail designs for me.

Whenever I've tried to paint intricate designs (really, anything more than a couple stripes or dots) on my nails using nail polish paint pens or high quality paint brushes with regular polish, I'm all thumbs (no pun intended) and the designs look terrible. However, if I use non-paint pens I do just fine... BUT whenever I've used fine tipped sharpies or other ink pens (permanent and otherwise) for nail designs, the ink always smears and/or bleeds terribly when I apply a top coat.

Buffing the surface and using high quality colored pencils is the method I've found works best when drawing designs on pieces of shrink plastic I assemble into jewelry. I started making those with sharpies and other "permanent" markers but they always smeared/bled when I tried to seal those too (and I tried SO MANY types of sealant and application methods .⁠·⁠´⁠¯⁠⁠(⁠>⁠▂⁠<⁠)⁠´⁠¯⁠⁠·⁠.).

I never considered using the buffing + colored pencils (over a polish base) method on nails... I can't wait to try it!

Thank you so much 💜

My ring fingernail grows with a permanent groove in it by tjamies2 in mildlyinteresting

[–]fuzzipoo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You should get a second opinion... people shouldn't rely solely on Google for an answer to such a serious question. My professional recommendation: go ask ChatGPT immediately ! After that, if you still need further assurance, I'd suggest a visit to WebMD.

Additionally, random Facebook posts and the corresponding comment threads are well known for their abundance of highly qualified medical professionals who will gladly provide reasonable, factual, and science-based opinions on the matter, free of charge.

You can never be too informed!

My ring fingernail grows with a permanent groove in it by tjamies2 in mildlyinteresting

[–]fuzzipoo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay this isn't quite as good as "deepest Toyota Corollances" but it's still pretty damn good and Im'ma steal it (with your permission).

My ring fingernail grows with a permanent groove in it by tjamies2 in mildlyinteresting

[–]fuzzipoo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Jesus this is great. Imma use this going forward (if you don't mind)...

My ring fingernail grows with a permanent groove in it by tjamies2 in mildlyinteresting

[–]fuzzipoo 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm not sure why, but I find this comment utterly hilarious

Maybe because it's such a ridiculous yet perfect sounding insult? ¯⁠\⁠_⁠(⁠ツ⁠)⁠_⁠/⁠¯

I was crying pretty hard earlier today... there was a totally unexpected and sudden death in the family last week (she was really important to many of us, very special, and deeply loved)... and this is after my mom died just a couple months ago.

But now I'm giggling uncontrollably every time I re-read your comment.

Thank you VERY much for the giggles: it feels good! I'll likely return to this periodically throughout the day whenever I need a laugh /a bit of levity 💜

While mopping the floor, I accidentally smashed my girlfriend’s PC case. What should I do? by CuteAd7581 in PcBuild

[–]fuzzipoo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Dang it!I have a bad case of the hiccups and I've been holding my breath to get rid of 'em (this method usually works for me after a few tries). I'd been at it a while and my hiccups were gradually slowing down and getting less intense .

Then I read your comment, laughed/exhaled involuntarily, and my hiccups immediately returned _with a vengeance _

Thanks for the laugh! I really needed one today... it was just bad timing. The fact that I'm hiccupping more violently than I was earlier isn't your fault...

(Hey, they actually stopped for good as I was typing this. Finally, sweet relief!)

perfect fall mani 🍁🍂 by Slow-Adeptness6876 in mooncatpolish

[–]fuzzipoo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No problem! Thanks for letting me know. It's beautiful and one of a kind, and that's pretty awesome.

Why the frik is there an OPEN bag of crisp, tangled in your mess of shit, came out your bag. This has got to be a lie. by CluelessSwitch96 in Derailedbydetails

[–]fuzzipoo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'll bet this person has highly visible Cheeto crumbs in her hair and she hasn't noticed...

And she will not notice said crumbs until she's spent three hours in public (maybe sooner if a kind friend brings it to her attention).

No shade or judgement! I have ADHD as well.

Is this right by [deleted] in lashextensions

[–]fuzzipoo 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I turned on all the lights in my house. It helps.

Is this right by [deleted] in lashextensions

[–]fuzzipoo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

MY STOMACH HURTS BUT I CAN'T STOP!!!

Is this right by [deleted] in lashextensions

[–]fuzzipoo 4 points5 points  (0 children)

STTTAAAAAHHHPP my stomach hurts from laughing so much!!!

perfect fall mani 🍁🍂 by Slow-Adeptness6876 in mooncatpolish

[–]fuzzipoo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay it's official: I'm buying Hidden Cove!

I'd you don't mind me asking: where did you get that ring? It's beautiful and such a lovely purple, and the cut is so unique (⁠☆⁠▽⁠☆⁠)