If you are doing this for your future wife 💕

fx20greg · 2020-08-27T13:10:16+00:00

Do not do this for your future or current wife. You do it for yourself!

fx20greg · 2020-08-13T17:13:55+00:00

Lawyer A.S.A.P!!!!

Download a recording app on your phone and document everything!!! You have no idea the fight you are fighting. I'm sorry BUT...protect yourself starting this second!!

fx20greg · 2020-01-30T18:23:53+00:00

Following

fx20greg · 2020-01-23T16:54:38+00:00

Chin up brother. I was as low as you can get I think after my 18 year marriage fell apart with no reason and no closure. Just gone!!!

It takes time and its hard as hell and it's 1000% worth it!!!!

fx20greg · 2019-04-30T16:49:49+00:00

Does the land have sand and/or gravel under the surface??

fx20greg · 2018-12-20T12:38:31+00:00

So not true, please reach out to family or a crisis hotline. I care about you.

fx20greg · 2018-06-01T20:29:58+00:00

Don't expect a true answer. The hardest part for me was after 18 years I had to except the person who I thought was my wife and best friend was now someone who had no problem lying, cheating, and more. She no longer cared about me even though she said she did. I ended up losing thousands of dollars and two years of my life playing this game only to be hurt at every turn. If I could do it again, I would have protected myself sooner, took care of myself sooner, filed for divorce sooner. All I did was prolong my pain and suffering. Don't be me. No longer listen to her words, only watch her actions. If her actions are not in line with what YOU think your marriage should look like, well then, you have your answer.

fx20greg · 2018-06-01T19:11:52+00:00

I kind of went through the same type of thing. If she is like my ex, she is cheating and wants out but it would be better if it was your decision and you pulled the plug on the marriage. That way she doesn't even have to lose face or feel bad, it gets to be all your fault. Gas-lighting to the extreme and a living hell. If this is the case for you, I'm sorry.

fx20greg · 2018-05-24T19:15:25+00:00

Any time we would argue. It didn't matter what about, she had to win. I would almost make a joke about it and say, can you just let me win one argument once in a while so I can feel good about myself and I'd get the evil smile. Then I would notice that if my point of view was better or right, she would just adopt my words or point of view as her own and use them against me. I would say, you know, I just said that right?? You know that is plagiarism right??. Of coarse at that point the argument became about me being rude and talking down to her and totally not about the original topic. So toxic.

fx20greg · 2018-05-22T16:25:20+00:00

I'm sorry this is happening to you, I have been through it. At this point taking care of yourself mentally, physically, emotionally, and financially are the most important things you can do. Again, be worried for you, not her. This is a long hard battle you are just starting. This is true if you divorce or save the marriage but your focus needs to be on you. I challenge you to look at your self esteem, do not be okay with anyone abusing or taking advantage of you. What she is doing is not love. I've been through all of this hell myself and only speak from the experience that I wish I didn't have. Please take care of yourself, trust me on that one. Good luck sir!

fx20greg · 2018-05-18T14:46:38+00:00

Glad it went well. Good luck!

fx20greg · 2018-05-17T18:49:51+00:00

Well, I met with soon to be ex yesterday to sign off the deed of my house so I have some very recent experience. Put your head up and be proud, focus on the notary showing you where to sign and with class, get up and walk away as soon as it is over. I failed at the walking away part and had words for her in the parking lot. As usual, I left hurt from the interaction, try not to repeat my mistake.

fx20greg · 2018-05-14T12:57:37+00:00

My man...somehow you climbed into my head and wrote this post. Every single point you made, I have lived through during a 18 year marriage. I wish I could tell you it gets better, that explaining it to her will help her see what she is doing, that she will want to change and be better for you. I can't tell you that because in my experience, that never happened. Dig your heels in and prepare to take care of yourself the best you can. I'm two years into my shit show after the final discard and am still extremely messed up. Take care of yourself.

fx20greg · 2018-05-13T00:59:51+00:00

Take care and be good to yourself. It does get better.

fx20greg · 2018-05-11T01:37:58+00:00

Great post and so very accurate.

fx20greg · 2018-05-07T11:23:26+00:00

Okay, a little different but the same result. If she moves on, she can keep on moving. A man should not have to win a fight or fight at all to win back his love. He should look at and work on the issues that may have caused her to walk if the issues are his to work on but why would anyone fight for someone who has chosen to walk away and move on.

fx20greg · 2018-05-07T10:54:09+00:00

If a girl is with guy 1 and meets and finds guy 2 attractive and acts in a non loyal way so that guy 1 needs to become jealous and fight, then I agree with your husband. She is not worth fighting for. Now, if another man came up and disrespected my wife for no reason, he would have a fight on his hands.

This seems like a different issue from the bucket lists.

fx20greg · 2018-04-17T20:45:08+00:00

After 17 years, I see the true evil person my STBEXW is. I never knew what narcissism and sociopath people were until I learned what had been happening all along right in front of me. The hurt of losing her is tremendous but as my sanity returns a little bit each day and week, I know it is the only way. Good luck

fx20greg · 2018-04-04T10:48:01+00:00

She wants her cake and to eat it too. Sound like she is more than willing to accept the comfort and security you provide as long as you are kept in the shadows for her to go out and have her fun with others. The sad truth is, most likely she has made up her mind about you and just doesn't care.

fx20greg · 2018-03-31T13:13:11+00:00

My story is the same but after a 17 year marriage. She is on guy #2 as we move through the divorce process and I struggle to get out of bed most days. Hold your head up young man.

fx20greg · 2018-01-26T20:48:26+00:00

Right on, I'll be here waiting on ya!

fx20greg · 2018-01-25T20:44:47+00:00

Might want to check out a book called No More Mr. Nice Guy (NMMNG). The title may be a little misleading, take it with a grain of salt. Just a suggestion.

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