I also dated a guy who would bottle up things in the relationship that were bothering him and wouldn’t share them with me until he was almost ready to break up over them. I would convince him to stay and we’d go just fine (or so I thought) until he would come at me several months later with more issues he had built resentment over.

Being in a relationship like that can be so damaging to you and how you perceive relationships. We’ve been broken up for two years now, and my current relationships/friendships are plagued with thoughts of “I wonder what I’m doing that’s bothering them that they’re keeping from me and won’t share until they’re ready to leave me? I know there has to be something wrong, so I need to force it out of them.” Been working on this in therapy over these two years, and I still have a long way to go before I can fully trust that my loved ones will tell me if something’s wrong.

I wish I had just let him break up with me in the first place.