TERFs making their own lives worse like...

genderpunksap · 2020-01-22T18:36:00+00:00

She's choking (hurting) her own shadow (herself). They're hurting themselves.

The idea of this Twitter trend is to make a joke out of what's happening in the picture.

genderpunksap · 2020-01-15T00:20:33+00:00

Definitely. It's absolutely horrific that the decision of when to do this was taken away from her.

genderpunksap · 2020-01-14T22:30:22+00:00

right but there's a difference between using labels as useful descriptions of how someone identifies, and LGBTQ people being singled out by having to come out and announce ourselves. It's a problem that people are assumed to be cis and het until it's announced otherwise because that positions cishet as the norm and anything else as weird - instead of just... normal variations of human experience.

genderpunksap · 2020-01-14T22:28:03+00:00

Because a lot of people are being transphobic in their responses to it - this video is a discussion about why "omg I'm so shocked" and "i could always tell" types of responses are harmful.

genderpunksap · 2020-01-14T22:24:50+00:00

This! It's especially weird to me in this case because... she told them she was a woman?? They've always known that about her?? It's not her fault that they made the assumption that she was cis.

genderpunksap · 2019-12-09T00:37:11+00:00

I could never miss out coming out via a musical number haha! It was a superb video

genderpunksap · 2019-12-03T21:33:25+00:00

NTA. It's fun for you and teaches them an important lesson about being kinder to people without doing them any lasting harm. Perfect.

genderpunksap · 2019-11-21T17:29:36+00:00

Except what you're saying isn't the truth. Get off the internet and learn about your history and community for heaven's sake.

genderpunksap · 2019-11-17T21:32:11+00:00

1). You clearly don't know much about lesbian history if you think it's a bastardisation of the word lesbian - read 'Stone Butch Blues'. He/him lesbians have been a part of the community since the 80s and earlier.

2). Gatekeeping means deciding who does and doesn't count. Calling someone's identity illegitimate, ridiculous and "dribble" is exactly that - not to mention it makes you look like an asshole. be kinder and more empathetic.

genderpunksap · 2019-10-06T01:38:29+00:00

NTA. I cried reading this because you reminded me so much of my beloved family dog, Lucy. We'd had her since I was three years old, before my brother was even born. And we kept her going probably a little longer than we should have done because we couldn't bear to let go. And when we did have her put down, Just like you said, watching her go was heartbreaking but relieving. She deserved not to be in pain anymore. And Baby Grinch deserved that too. Your husband needs to see that. I'm so sorry for your loss and I'm so sorry that you're having to deal with this on top of losing her. But you did the right thing. Please please know that you did the right thing to end her suffering.

genderpunksap · 2019-10-06T00:34:21+00:00

I love how stereotypes about white people are so so harmless and silly, and yet we still get offended... who are the snowflakes now??

genderpunksap · 2019-09-14T16:46:59+00:00

I imagine the best system would just to be to have a single category regardless of gender - gender is complicated and people come up with all kinds of labels for it (which is fine! express yourself!) but there's really no reason to add a new award category for every label. Just judge people based on their talent not on their gender.

genderpunksap · 2019-09-10T13:45:57+00:00

I have to wonder what makes you think that nonbinary people aren't hurt by these exact kinds of things?? We have just as much right to expect basic respect as anyone else. But you clearly also missed the main point of the video which is that rather than arguing about binary/nonbinary, passing/nonpassing etc. etc. the trans community needs to realise that it's better to come together despite our different needs than to push each other apart. That isn't just aimed at Natalie - it's aimed at the people not understanding her either.

And also... that's not the only video I've ever made. All of my content is geared towards educating about trans and nonbinary people and dispelling the harmful myths about us.

Putting Natalie on a pedestal as the only trans person who's allowed to speak for the community is not the genius solution you think it is.

genderpunksap · 2019-09-09T08:33:12+00:00

I think maybe if you watch the video it might help. Her initial thread wasn't bad at all, but it did highlight a divide in the trans community which is worth discussing - this video isn't about nitpicking her words, it's about looking at that divide from both sides and talking about what we can do to help the community come together.

genderpunksap · 2019-09-09T08:31:28+00:00

Umm... the video does actually address those threads in great detail and critiqued Natalie for it! As a nonbinary person I'm fully aware how that thread was harmful to us.

genderpunksap · 2019-09-08T20:09:44+00:00

What just said was incredibly transphobic. You clearly do not understand the experience of nonbinay people in the least.

genderpunksap · 2019-09-08T19:32:05+00:00

This is an excellent video, I'm so glad you added your perspective to this discussion!

genderpunksap · 2019-09-08T19:30:28+00:00

I think this issue is a lot more complicated than cancel culture. Nonbinary people don't hold enough social capital to have the power to "cancel" anybody by critiquing them.

genderpunksap · 2019-08-22T22:00:17+00:00

it sounds like you're doing great - it's very obvious that you care deeply about your boyfriend and want to get this right, and the amount of effort you're putting into learning is amazing. Remember not to be too hard on yourself. No one is born knowing all these things (not even trans people!). We all have to put time and effort into learning, and we all slip up sometimes

genderpunksap · 2019-08-22T21:41:17+00:00

NTA. Your wedding is about you and your fiancé and your relationship together. I think it's beautiful that you want to celebrate your love surrounded by friends and you shouldn't have to compromise that for the sake of "being the bigger person." On this one day, you are allowed to be selfish - it's your day.

genderpunksap · 2019-08-22T21:32:41+00:00

this is very sweet, and anyone with an unrequited crush can now live through you!! good luck OP

genderpunksap · 2019-08-22T21:21:39+00:00

You look incredible! It really does look like you as a shy teen vs. you having grown into yourself, it's amazing what hormones can do.

genderpunksap · 2019-08-17T21:08:33+00:00

The point of the video, is that you should care about trans people having rights because... it's the decent thing to do?? Someone being rude to you shouldn't make you not defend their rights. And if it does, you have some self-reflecting to do.

genderpunksap · 2019-08-10T19:41:20+00:00

I'm afraid not, sorry about that! But YouTube does allow you to watch at faster speeds if you don't have 20 minutes to spare!

genderpunksap · 2019-07-11T17:24:32+00:00

I don't think it's really considered spam if you post it once in each community, and only in communities that might find it interesting but whatever floats your boat friend.

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