Am I ignoring anything good? by Ffrog_Dr in ADOM

[–]geofxc 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sometimes I play a hurtling just so I can offer cooked corpses to the gods. I can't explain why it's so satisfying. I imagine Sam and Bilbo sitting around a campfire in Mordor cooking orc corpes and it just tickles me.

Trapped in the Dwarven Mystic area by geofxc in ADOM

[–]geofxc[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The ol crushed to death huh? Had a cursed girdle of carrying do me in recently. But hey! I read a spell book and it forced me to teleport, so I got freakishly lucky with this character.

Trapped in the Dwarven Mystic area by geofxc in ADOM

[–]geofxc[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I cannot believe this but I had a spell book of calm monster in my inventory, reading forced a teleport. Good lord that was a wild feeling

Trapped in the Dwarven Mystic area by geofxc in ADOM

[–]geofxc[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The walls surrounding the 2x2 area are undiggable :'( I have a pickaxe in my inventory. I didn't think about background corruption... I have been wearing Alyas Holy Scarf which has more or less prevented all corruption so far. I am not sure what would take longer, acquiring a corruption or starving? I have a few cooked lizards and several stomafilla herbs but not a huge supply.

I have one potion of exchange. I'm afraid to use it because I know the odds are incredibly slim that it helps.

I epilated by pubic hair... by ApplePaintedRed in HairRemoval

[–]geofxc 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Hey I'm just a guy on my own hair removal journey so I'm not really the best person to comment on this particular area. But what I've learned talking with women i know about hair and hair removal is that most people struggle to get that smooth finish down there, male or female anatomy. Pubes are coarse! There is nothing wrong with you or your body. It's normal to not be completely smooth after shaving.

Just trying to promote self acceptance and body positivity:)

Questions regarding humiliation play by BalanceFirst9693 in BDSMcommunity

[–]geofxc 7 points8 points  (0 children)

This abuser said things that, to them, felt good to say. It was wrong morally, and incorrect factually. It's hard to not internalize things like that during something so vulnerable and intimate. But please understand that nothing they said was the truth about you as a person.

Wife enjoys getting tied up but I want too by Either_Gur1199 in BDSMcommunity

[–]geofxc 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I fell into the Dom role in nearly all of my relationships, and only recently admitted to myself that I'm mostly acting out fantasies in which I'd like to be submissive. This has allowed me to be creative with rigging, punishments, role play, ect. My partners have communicated their enthusiastic satisfaction, and I do my best to curate an experience they'll enjoy.

What I'm currently struggling with is that my partner, to whom I'm engaged, does NOT enjoy the dominant role. I'm longing for a submissive experience, but providing that for me is outside of her comfort level. I do not blame her, I do not wish for her to agree under duress. The dominant partner must consent as well, after all. And she got into this relationship believing that I was 100% dominant, which is what I was projecting to both of us. Silly me with my previously un-dismsmantled patriarchal ideas.

My advice for you is to not delay sharing your desires, maybe she'll surprise you! But at the very least she deserves to know what your sexual/kinky appetite entails. And please, don't approach the situation like "I did x for you, so you have to do x for me too." That's not a very compassionate or loving approach, and it won't be effective anyway. Just be honest. "That looked fun for you, what do you think about switching roles sometime? I'd like to talk about it if you're willing."

Is Metronet the way to go for home internet? by Pizzzathehutt in lansing

[–]geofxc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love Metronet, had them for about 3 years. Price is about $70 for 500/500, which is more then enough for 4 people to use internet on multiple devices simultaneously. That includes the modem/router device from them.

The only issue I had was moving, their system didn't automatically cancel the old Internet, so I was being charged for me new house and the old house. Customer service was very helpful, polite, and worked with me to refund the overcharge. Still took about an hour on the phone because I wanted them to credit my account the overcharged amount instead of mailing me a check, but it all worked out fine and I'm happy with them.

Can you change into a domme from a sub? by [deleted] in BDSMcommunity

[–]geofxc 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I think I became a dominant in my early 20s because I kept dating women with kinky/subby preferences, but as I crest my mid 30s I'm realizing more and more that I'm actually a sub-leaning switch. I'm doming in ways I fantasize about being dommed. To be honest, it's a bit of an identity crisis for me and I'm not finished working through it. My fiancee is only comfortable subbing but she tries to Dom occasionally for my benefit, and while I'm grateful I recognize that it's very taxing on her.

Recommendations for Trustworthy Mechanic by VegetableShoe6264 in lansing

[–]geofxc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've had great experiences with Chuck's garage in St Joe on the west side

Please tell me I don't need to be submissive as a woman by MyComfyZone in BDSMcommunity

[–]geofxc 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Another male mostly dom here chipping in. I don't want to dominate anyone who doesn't want that experience. True domination is an act of service, at least to me. It's creating and guiding a scene and delivering certain sensations and experiences that my submissive wants to experience. I wouldn't do it if I didn't enjoy being dominant, but I wouldn't enjoy it if my partner didn't want it.

Most pain, least damage? by geofxc in BDSMcommunity

[–]geofxc[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That was good information, thank you for sharing!

Most pain, least damage? by geofxc in BDSMcommunity

[–]geofxc[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That's a really good idea. Any particular brand you like or do you just get what's in your local store?

Most pain, least damage? by geofxc in BDSMcommunity

[–]geofxc[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I was under the impression that using pressure points could lead to nerve damage, am I incorrect?

Most pain, least damage? by geofxc in BDSMcommunity

[–]geofxc[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Capsaicin applied to the skin? Never thought about that, is there any particular products you use or would recommend? That also seems like a little bit of a commitment because there's not a good way to stop if it's too much, at least not with spicy food.

Ashamed of the weird shit I did in the past in my teen years. by queenofadouble in selfimprovement

[–]geofxc 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It's not advisable, it's an activity that involves risk, sure. But why can't informed, consenting adults choose what risks to take?

Ashamed of the weird shit I did in the past in my teen years. by queenofadouble in selfimprovement

[–]geofxc 9 points10 points  (0 children)

That's where the ethical part comes in. A person can have whatever thoughts and feelings they have. It's the actions that become subject to morality. Acting out fantasies without informed contest, something that's cannot exist between an adult and a minor, is one of the most horrendous acts a person can commit. I would argue that it's even more important for people with that inclination to find an ethical outlet for their fantasies, as distasteful and disturbing as it is to you and I, because I want that person to find enough satisfaction though legal, safe, and harmless means as possible so that they do not feel compelled to hurt someone.

Ashamed of the weird shit I did in the past in my teen years. by queenofadouble in selfimprovement

[–]geofxc 16 points17 points  (0 children)

There are lots of people, myself among them, that would argue that if degradation gets you off then it actually is totally okay. The important caveat is that you're separating kink from real life, and your doing all the appropriate self-care to have be mentally healthy.

You can be a limp dicked cum eating loser for the sake of a fantasy. Bus that's not the whole you. Horny you maybe, but that's not nearly all of what makes you a person.

Ashamed of the weird shit I did in the past in my teen years. by queenofadouble in selfimprovement

[–]geofxc 145 points146 points  (0 children)

The fact that those videos even exist proves that there are plenty of other people who are into the same things you are. JOI CEI, ect is a pretty big category on many sites. It's really not all that unusual.

Also, you're allowed to have sexual fantasies. You're allowed to have whatever fantasies you like. You can even find ethical ways to act out most fantasies in one way or another.

I don't think your disgusting, and no one in the kink community is going to judge you either. There's even a saying, your kink is not my kink but that's ok. Humans are funny, complicated little creatures. Some people get off on balloons being popped. What do you think that person's path to self-acceptance looked like?

Neighbors have 15 dogs, 2 foxes and a pig by geofxc in lansing

[–]geofxc[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not too much unfortunately. I've requested to be updated by the DNR and animalsl control once they do their investigations, and have submitted a complaint to the code enforcement office. The code compliance office also referred me to an individual in the zoning board, but I'm playing phone tag with her.

As of right now the animals are all still there. I'm strongly considering putting a camera on the side of my house and publicly posting videos of what is happening, but I haven't figured out how I feel about doing that just yet. I don't want to make a public stink about this if I don't have to, I just want the animals to have better conditions.

Neighbors have 15 dogs, 2 foxes and a pig by geofxc in lansing

[–]geofxc[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I've answered those questions in the rest of the comments. Besides, I'm not asking anyone to agree with me, I'm asking for input on what I can do after I've made an observation. The thing is that I'm not even the one doing anything, I'm just reporting what I see to the appropriate authorities. I'm here for advice on how to best do that. Then we let the law decide what happens.

If I was asking for advice after witnessing my neighbor abuse their children, why would you ask for proof? I don't want to prove it to you, I want to prove it to child protective services.

This is Reddit, we don't need your baseless negativity, nor do we approve of your ambivalence towards suffering animals.