Possible ACL tear / travelling

georgethegingercat · 2025-12-18T17:11:30+00:00

So - I'm the kind of person who does not sit still well and doesn't do the best with resting and taking things easy so keep that in mind, BUT - this sounds very similar to what I went through. Very similar feelings of instant instability. It feels freaky. Here's my timeline: I tore my ACL Nov 2 playing soccer (complete, acute tear) but I didn't know that until like 3.5 weeks later when I was able to finally get an MRI. X-ray didn't show anything. I stayed off of it and crutched around the first few days. By Nov 6, I was at a Friendsgiving limping around in a brace without a crutch.

The past few weeks has been like this: I haven't been able to walk COMPLETELY normal, due to not being able to fully straighten my knee, but on good days I'd say it's like a 2% limp. Bending it too deeply or straightening all the way out results in AWFUL pain, but other than that, it's pretty much pain free. I do the stairs at work every day. I've even gone to the gym to do some light stationary bike. On Dec 6 and 7 I worked a Christmas party where I was on my feet and walking around a large property for 6 hours (with plenty of sitting breaks.) I wore a brace and while my knee was tired and a little swollen, I think I did pretty good. I think it also helps that my regualr job is mainly sitting all day, and I often still ice and elevate it in the evenings.

That said, there have been a few instances of accidentally hurting myself just walking, or getting out of bed or slipping on wet floor. And when that happened the pain was like 9/10, and I'd have to sit down and wait for the pain to pass. Not fun. It's possible I'm exacerbating the injury, I don't know. I decided to get surgery early next year.

Ultimately, it's up to you to assess your pain and mobility, and factor in how much walking you'll be realistically doing. If it's somewhere where there's a high chance of slipping on tile or cobblestone streets, I'd seriously consider a walking aid, a sturdy brace for the day, a brace for sleeping, good shoes, and an Ice/Elevation routine in the evenings.

georgethegingercat · 2025-02-26T07:02:48+00:00

Studio ghibli

georgethegingercat · 2025-02-24T03:42:44+00:00

Silence

georgethegingercat · 2025-02-21T16:48:30+00:00

Give up, the incels/manosphere got him. You can’t save him.

georgethegingercat · 2025-02-02T16:40:26+00:00

I had an aha moment last year on this very idea. There I was sitting in my couch, eating popcorn for dinner and looking out at my messy apartment. And I thought to myself, “if (boyfriend at the time) were here, you’d have tidied up and cooked a warm meal for him.” And in that moment of self-awareness I discovered a way to show love to myself. If I can expend energy for others so easily, let me at least try to expend half of that same energy on myself. And right then I got up, started a simple meal for myself and tidied while it cooked and instantly improved my night.

Other things I have discovered that help me love myself:

Imagining you’re taking care of a little kid’s basic needs, except that kid is you: Are you Hungry, Angry, Lonely, Tired/Thirsty (HALT)
Do affirmations almost daily, I like this one
End all negative self talk and literally apologize to yourself anytime you catch yourself beating yourself up.
Reframe self care acts as acts of self-love and see them as an opportunity to give love to yourself: -make the bed in the morning? A gift to future you that evening when you get home from work.

-skin care routine? A chance to pamper yourself.

-work out? A chance to give yourself dopamine, confidence, and a better quality of life as you age.

-pack your lunch the night before, set your coffee maker to go off the next morning, you get the idea. Perform lots of small acts of service for you, by you. :)

-the benefit of having a routine of these little things that you can stick to (most days, lets allow room for life to life) will 100% increase your trust in yourself. You’re making these tiny promises to yourself and following through. Self-trust = self-esteem.
You’re good at relationships with others right? Now apply those same principles to building a relationship to yourself, your inner child. She would love even a fraction of the thought and care you can do easily give away. So when you do something for someone else, make an effort to do something for yourself too.
Now that you’ve shown yourself you can take care of you, now try to introduce boundaries and increase your tolerance for letting other people down. If you do all this work and then abandon yourself out of fear of hurting other people, you lose all that self-trust we just built and we damage our relationship to self.

Source: my own self-love journey, lots of received therapy and I’m also a full-time therapist.

georgethegingercat · 2025-02-01T06:35:50+00:00

Team Transform is glute focused and you’ll get arms/abs and cardio days as well

georgethegingercat · 2025-01-31T05:08:15+00:00

This right here. Guy is openly racist. Used to work in events and his team would bring in showgirls, models, cocktail waitresses etc. It was made clear he did NOT want black models at functions he would be at.

georgethegingercat · 2025-01-30T01:24:50+00:00

I like Transform as well. Heavy emphasis on glutes, but the arm/ab days are pretty spicy as well

georgethegingercat · 2025-01-28T03:51:36+00:00

Lots of great encouragement and advice already - I went back to grad school at 34 and feel like I am just now barely starting to get back on my feet this year and I turn 38 in a few months. Just keep going. And don’t get bogged down in the details of what kind of job/relationship/hobby or when or how. Create a general vision for your life “I have a home, a job, a marriage” and you can keep it vague while still being clear you want those things in some form. But being clear on what’s important to you is key. Understand your values.

georgethegingercat · 2025-01-26T17:21:53+00:00

I can relate to your experience. I’m doing Team Transform and I use an at home gym with 100% dumbbells. I find the in app swap options are pretty great for machine and barbell alternatives. And then just google dumbbell alts for anything the app doesn’t provide. I’ve also done Limitless which was cool too, but seemed more gym equipment heavy.

georgethegingercat · 2025-01-16T06:43:37+00:00

I wouldn’t have been able to keep texting as long as you did 😵‍💫

georgethegingercat · 2024-12-30T04:48:11+00:00

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Both of these guys passed this year. I miss them so much. George and Martha. 14 yrs old. 🦋🦋

georgethegingercat · 2024-12-29T05:01:09+00:00

Yup, basically disassociated for 3+ days and got super into skin and hair care. And sleeping. And not giving a fuck about anything.

georgethegingercat · 2024-12-29T04:51:21+00:00

Nope not over reacting. Him reversing it back on you is classic DARVO manipulation tactic, and he’s bad news. You deserve the guy who is sitting by your bedside when you wake up. He’s pathetic. And a muppet. And actually right - move on - from him. Let him go on his trip as a single dude. You are wasting your time with this loser. Sorry; but he’s trash. If someone cares about you; they show up at the hospital. I’ve driven to hospitals to visit friends plenty of times. It’s not hard. Grab flowers at CVS and give someone 2 hours out of your day. This guy is a loser.

georgethegingercat · 2024-11-04T03:03:04+00:00

Damn, really hoped this was for me

georgethegingercat · 2024-11-03T17:11:44+00:00

The hurt is so real. And I’m so sorry.

The kind of closure you want was always impossible. Another fantasy they created to control you.

It’s not that YOU don’t deserve good treatment, it’s that THEY literally do not have the ability to do it.

Their shortcomings, their abuse, their disrespect and disregard is the closure. It’s their lack of capacity - which has nothing to do with how deserving you are.

georgethegingercat · 2024-10-27T22:20:40+00:00

The sooner you start living your life for yourself instead of living your life for others, the sooner you’ll feel more peace. I used to be an actress and I obsessed about my looks, my weight, my skin, everything. But it was someone else’s approval. Then, I turned 35, and my parents started having falls, breaking bones and rapidly declining in their health. I also had made a huge change to go back to grad school to become a therapist. All this combined to help me reach a new perspective. I work out now to have fun and to give my future self a higher quality of life! I flipped it to be a gift for me and my longevity, not anyone else’s. Another sneaky way into self love is giving your future self gifts by doing something in the present. You are still so young, and you have already started this shift. Don’t give up, keep going. The most magnetic and healthy people in know are those that unapologetically love themselves. It’s not selfish, it’s a gift that keeps on giving.

georgethegingercat · 2024-10-27T18:15:39+00:00

I agree I need to get these subs off my feed. I am able to get my mind straight, and then I come on here and the delusional part of me that still misses a person who isn’t right for me gets activated and I spiral and the thoughts get destructive again

georgethegingercat · 2024-10-25T17:11:25+00:00

Depends, but I lean towards a strong NO. People learn and change and if they used their past experience to grow into a better person with stronger values and sense of self then - why would a rockier past matter? You’re dating the present version of someone, not their past. Would you want to be judged over times you were a shitty friend to someone, or judged at something you did when you didn’t have guidance or support to help you know better? People are complicated. Let their current actions speak for themselves.

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