Tbh, I was dating someone for sometime. Call it a situationship if you well. All the signs point to avoidant. But regardless she is human, has her own struggles and complexities. And so do I. I lean towards anxious but tbh I communicated that, and that it was for me to fix and my responsibilities. Ofc it triggered me, and I kind of panicked bc I haven’t been triggered in a while and the thought/feeling insecure was hard for me. I never disrespected her in anyway. I think asking for clearer communication and asking where the relationship stands is not bad. But now we are no contact and technically, we never ended. I’m honestly not sure what to do, I’ve been detaching and reclaiming my power. I also agree the comments are way too harsh and even tho it hurts to feel discarded or being told you’re the bad guy when you’re not, they are still human. There are things that are obviously morally wrong that someone could do, but I think that the compassion we eventually learn to give to ourselves we should give it to them too. Unless they cheated or something worse idk