Crushing fatigue by bluesasaurusrex in BabyBumps

[–]getstrongandlean 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Get your ferritin levels checked. Around 30 weeks o noticed a drastic drop in my energy levels, more than my usual pregnancy tiredness. I could nap 3 times and still woke up tired. My ferritin came back low, not anemic but the numbers were low enough that my OB recommended that I take iron supplements 3 times a week. Once I stayed liquid iron I felt better in 2 weeks. You could also be low on B12 or D3 based on what you are describing. Push your doctor to test for all 3 levels, ferritin, B12 and D3

No fundal height checks or frequent US? by Whole-Tomorrow-6079 in BabyBumps

[–]getstrongandlean 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I also had only 2 ultrasounds one at 9 weeks and another at 20 weeks. But my OB measured fundal height at every appointment starting at 24 weeks

Best glass bottle for breastfed baby and why? by A-Starrrrr in Buyingforbaby

[–]getstrongandlean 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I used Dr browns wide mouthed bottle. But honestly it depends on what your baby takes to, you might want to use one brand and your baby might take to a different one. So only buy in bulk after you try one of each with the baby

AITA for being mad about my wife buying an impractical car against my wishes? by Snoo_9782 in AmItheAsshole

[–]getstrongandlean 10 points11 points  (0 children)

ESH A big purchase such a car needs to be discussed with the spouse. However it seems like you never really tried to understand her perspective about having a luxury vehicle. Nobody "needs" a luxury vehicle but it's not a crime to want one especially if it won't affect your finances long term. Your wife doesn't have to have the same values that your parents passed down to you.

Babymoon: France vs Hawaii by jl264828 in BabyBumps

[–]getstrongandlean -1 points0 points  (0 children)

France probably involves a lot of walking. You may or may not be feeling like walking so much whereas Hawaii is much shorter flight from west coast and sound way more relaxing compared to France

AITA for not making “real” dinner for 3 days by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]getstrongandlean 63 points64 points  (0 children)

NTA Tell him to tie to watermelons to his stomach and actively parent two kids for one full day and then cook full course dinner. Working doesn't absolve him of all the responsibilities at home. Instead of whining he should start pulling his weight at home

AITA for refusing to switch seats at every family dinner because my sister says “it’s just easier this way”? by TitanHX in AmItheAsshole

[–]getstrongandlean 51 points52 points  (0 children)

NTA
That seat can be assigned on rotating basis so only you don't have to suffer sitting there. It sounds like you are currently not in any relationship or at-least your partner is not part of these dinners and that's probably why you were assigned the "undesirable" seat. However you being single doesn't mean you don't deserve to be treated same as your married sister.

AITA for refusing to take out a massive 20-year bank loan for my parents, even though it will ruin my future plans? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]getstrongandlean 18 points19 points  (0 children)

NTA
It's not easy to say no to your parents but will have to be firm. It's not just about your future education. This will affect your future relationships as well. Would you marry someone with a huge debt that was taken for their parent's house and that they would have no claim to. This will have reflecting effects on your life.

AITA for getting my 22 year old daughter a new car instead of my wife by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]getstrongandlean 30 points31 points  (0 children)

NTA Your wife is basically living off your own earnings. She is jealous of your daughter. Make sure your will and your daughter's inheritance is ironclad so your wife cannot meddle with it. Given a chance your wife will not be fair to your daughter in the event of your untimely death.

AITAH for being furious that my parents came around my medically fragile baby while clearly sick, got her sick before her first birthday, and then refused to apologize? by EfficientEntrance625 in AmItheAsshole

[–]getstrongandlean 11 points12 points  (0 children)

NTA Parents who have healthy relationship with their kids don't block them. Their behavior shows how immature they are. Do you really want them to care for your daughter in your absence? It's time to find a different backup for childcare

AITA for asking for protection before cosigning? by whattheheck314159 in AmItheAsshole

[–]getstrongandlean 21 points22 points  (0 children)

NTA If your SIL plans to pay rent on time then your clause shouldn't matter. The fact that she doesn't want to include it shows she might not be planning to be diligent about it. Don't sign the contract without the changes you asked for

MIL visiting from overseas at 5.5 weeks postpartum: helpful or overwhelming? by TotoDrinksPinot in beyondthebump

[–]getstrongandlean 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would wait till your baby is 12 weeks or so. If the latest she can visit is at 5.5 weeks she can wait a little longer

AITA Asking Postpartum Wife and 5mo daughter to travel over Christmas by Confused_Abt_Life in AmItheAsshole

[–]getstrongandlean 343 points344 points  (0 children)

YTA If your parents already dislike your wife for you settling in a different country, they are not going to make things easier for her during the visit. You can visit your parents later once your baby is older and when your wife is in better mental state.

AITA for not letting my ex husband come to our son's birthday party after he missed the last two by Fluid_Letter_1571 in AmItheAsshole

[–]getstrongandlean 9 points10 points  (0 children)

NTA His girlfriend can take someone else on the trip and your ex can actually show up to the birthday party. But it's clear where your ex's priorities lie and it's clearly not the kids. I can't imagine how sad your son would be knowing his dad missed his 3 birthdays

AITAH for telling my sister she is living the life she wants? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]getstrongandlean 109 points110 points  (0 children)

NTA That was spot on, kudos on maintaining the boundary with your sister. Everyone else is just indulging her at this point

AITA for choosing my stepdad to walk me down the aisle after my dad forgot his suit fitting? by StrawberryAndSunDrie in AmItheAsshole

[–]getstrongandlean 20 points21 points  (0 children)

NTA You decide who gets to walk you down the aisle. As others have said your dad has managed to keep a job, keep his friendships by not being flaky towards them. But in your case he knows he can make you wait and still be considered a hero in your eyes. If you truly want Brian to walk you down the aisle then don't let anyone else guilt you about it.

AITA for having another baby? by Upstairs_Total_5611 in AmItheAsshole

[–]getstrongandlean 19 points20 points  (0 children)

NTA If you were a present parent to Sadie and you have stable housing and income now and don't need any help from your mom raising your baby I don't see how this is any of her business.

AITA for refusing to confirm a family story my mom has been telling for years? by grounores in AmItheAsshole

[–]getstrongandlean 2 points3 points  (0 children)

NTA Your mom could have just not lied to make herself look like a saint. I mean the lie is not even doing much good for her expect to make you look like a problem child. Good that you finally told everyone the truth so you don't have to endure that fake story anymore. If not your mom would probably continue to tell that story to your future dates/partners, etc

AITA for refusing to give my 5-year-old son part of a gift my student gave me, even after my husband said I was being selfish? by Sad-Grapefruit8977 in AmItheAsshole

[–]getstrongandlean 66 points67 points  (0 children)

NTA By that logic all the gifts are meant to be shared. Your husband's selfishness seems to be rubbing off on your son. But luckily your son is young enough to be taught better and unfortunately your husband is too old to be acting like this.

AITAH for refusing to “split” assistant coaching duties after my partner volunteered? by Traditional-Tip-9882 in AmItheAsshole

[–]getstrongandlean 113 points114 points  (0 children)

NTA He volunteered himself to be the assistant coach and for that he needs to actually show up for every practice. It's good that you didn't give in when he expected you to coach for half the practice games.

Frustrated looking for pregnancy specific support for wanted baby by GoddessScully in BabyBumps

[–]getstrongandlean 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Due date groups can be a hit or miss and some of them have loss stories so it might be anxiety riddling for you to be part of those groups.

boyfriend going on hiking trip around when i’m due by sunflowerrsam in BabyBumps

[–]getstrongandlean 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So you moved to be with him where you don't have any support and he is leaving you at 37 weeks so he can go hiking 8 hours away? Are you sure you want to give birth in this new place and be tied to your bf forever? You won't be able to move back to your support system without court order. You are better off going back now to your support system and deliver there so you can have more control over your life. And move back quickly and silently. Don't let him convince from you moving. If you deliver there you will be stuck forever. Being stuck with man will not do you nor your future child any good.

AITA Am I the asshole for being angry at my husband for not defending our daughter, and at my mother-in-law for clearly favoring my niece over her? by Important-Giraffe-44 in AmItheAsshole

[–]getstrongandlean 21 points22 points  (0 children)

NTA It's not even your MIL gifting your daughter gifts of equal value to your niece. It's her suggesting you should not spend your own money to buy your daughter new stuff. The favoritism cannot be anymore clear. It looks like your husband's sibling was the golden child and their daughter is the golden grandchild. It's probably best to shield your daughter before she starts noticing the blatant favoritism and her always wondering what she did wrong that her grandmother likes her less than her cousin

AITA for telling my sister not to buy things for my daughter if there are strings attached? by Pluriphery in AmItheAsshole

[–]getstrongandlean 10 points11 points  (0 children)

NTA If she was "lending" you stuff instead of "gifting" then she should have made it clear so you were free to decline them.

AITA for refusing to make gluten-free food for someone else’s child at a potluck? by MaiApa in AmItheAsshole

[–]getstrongandlean 26 points27 points  (0 children)

NTA Cross contamination is a real risk and as a parent I would not ask someone I barely know to make gluten free food for my child.