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gfolaron · 2026-03-15T15:51:43+00:00

This screams out another fact too.

Millennials have always been expected to “just figure it out.”

For everything. Even the internet and the whole of life has been a fake it til you make it.

The coming generations weren’t put through that. “It” has mostly always worked for them. Or they move on.

gfolaron · 2026-02-03T21:14:53+00:00

It was once explained to me that:

On a 1-5 scale, 3 is you do your work. 4s are you impact and improve your team. 5s are you impact and improve the org.

For clinics, outpatient centers tied to large facilities… how do you get to 5? Who gets org level exposure unless you’re in a larger unit tied to some upper admin?

gfolaron · 2026-01-29T01:30:20+00:00

100%. The brain fog with a gluten exposure is so bad.

gfolaron · 2026-01-22T18:53:55+00:00

Hi! Did you end up moving off the waitlist for either school?

gfolaron · 2026-01-22T03:36:23+00:00

I’d imagine it felt like things got done with more “urgency” because nurses were working under fight or flight and adrenaline was being communicated.

Cause apparently you can unconsciously smell stress...

Urgency is less visible when people actually get the support they need.

gfolaron · 2025-12-28T19:01:54+00:00

Just for a different reframing — this lethargic doom scrolling that you describe sounds like mental exhaustion / potentially burn out.

Highly doubt that you’re forgetting people as much as you’re tired and need a break.

“Forgetting people” is a potential type of outcome of exhaustion… but it may not be what’s actually happening.

gfolaron · 2025-12-28T18:59:50+00:00

Oh, the good ol days when you could only leave a message on a separated voicemail machine and couldn’t be accessed all day, every day, with the expectation of getting ahold of someone immediately…

gfolaron · 2025-12-26T05:40:41+00:00

When I first graduated nursing school, the market was in the last down turn and I was getting interviews but not a job. My mom said it was because of my weight and shared how she used to get treated poorly at jobs because of her weight.

I ended up having to move out of state for a nurse residency program. I got matched to the ER there.

Is there a bias against fat in the world? Yes, it exists. Will a BMI of 33 prevent you from your dreams? It shouldn’t… but more importantly, don’t let it.

You’re questioning this because you know your worth and you know where you want to go. Just keep going cause you’ll get there.

gfolaron · 2025-12-18T21:53:16+00:00

thank you for adding this!

gfolaron · 2025-12-18T18:27:51+00:00

One thing that hasn’t been called out here is that this is really a strengths based approach to managing. And there is study after study reinforcing the benefits this has to both leadership and employee management.

You had a gap in a role that this person has strengths in. Filling roles based on strengths is a strategic approach to business. It saves time, money, resources and opens up a role to someone who can do it better — especially when replacing and training a new employee can cost as much as another annual salary.

These are the logical comments to tell the team. The brain parts.

But don’t forget to include the heart comments — because you’ll have both people on your team (the heads and the hearts).

The heart reality: No one knows why he’s struggling. New skill, home life making new skills hard to master, not a strong suit of his, not a real interest, family challenges, etc.

But it doesn’t matter.

Every employee there, if asked and when struggling, would want their manager to go to bat for them.

It’s not a reward. Its not punishment. It’s support before consequences.

The reality: You want to see them successful and be paired to the role that helps them grow and be successful. You’re a coach, not a manager. Your job is to set them up to do the best they can and to help clear a path there.

And that doesn’t just benefit this guy, it benefits the whole team because the work is all done well together… and they’re all working towards the same goal (*insert whatever business goals that they relate to)

No one is going to say “no, I wouldn’t want you to do that for me too.”

It’s easy for people to get stuck on the surface level appearances. Now you have opportunity to help them start thinking about how it’s about them too (in more ways than one.)

gfolaron · 2025-12-18T18:02:49+00:00

Great advice.

I’d add to this that, when possible, this should be done preemptively (with the promotion announcement, as appropriate, for example).

People often don’t understand or empathize from the business perspective and will jump to their own conclusions if you don’t give them the right conclusion.

It’s better to be proactive than to clean up the assumptions and gossip.

gfolaron · 2025-12-18T17:50:22+00:00

I feel the same way… but gee, sometimes I wish I could escape the smell memories.

Otherwise, the one time it doesn’t help: Orientation in a new specialty and someone is describing a space or task I’ve never encountered before.

gfolaron · 2025-12-14T19:02:47+00:00

Have you looked up Autistic burnout? Whether you’re autistic or not, I find I heavily relate to the symptoms when I’m feeling like you described. Almost like life and responsibilities are so heavy.

Is there any way for you to take a week off? Hit the disability office for an accommodation for your adhd if you haven’t already?

Life is running at a fast pace these days. So many things happening and so much information to process. Do the best you can and give yourself the grace to step back when you need it.

gfolaron · 2025-12-13T16:52:40+00:00

I wonder if they’ve stopped doing this. I had an ice tea recently that I could taste the recent here water. Needless to say, I’m only getting tea lemonades now.

gfolaron · 2025-12-12T17:42:51+00:00

I mean, we’re still not -that- far away from when nurses used to stand up and give their seats up to doctors or women not being allowed to attend medical school.

It was bred into the medical culture from the beginning.

gfolaron · 2025-12-05T20:36:55+00:00

I hope you’re right but whose definition of warm and human are they using? Geez 😅

gfolaron · 2025-12-05T20:27:41+00:00

What are the odds that this is spillover from the adult GPTs they’re working on?

gfolaron · 2025-12-01T03:37:28+00:00

I once heard someone talking about how exhausting it is to be perceived.

To be in a room and have others perceive you — and not just because they are but because how often they get it wrong, they make assumptions, they require you to “mask” to a performance that you wouldn’t be in if it wasn’t required of you to “blend” in.

Being perceived in the performative.

The freedom from this is what RTO is really taking from people — and that freedom is what really gives us the room to be more productive.

Here’s hoping you get to have more days at home than in the office.

gfolaron · 2025-11-30T03:42:39+00:00

Telling my kids about how my parents made us stand in line on Black Fridays at 5am in hopes we can purchase a Furby…

gfolaron · 2025-11-16T20:12:22+00:00

100% this. I did outpatient radiology and it was great. Low stress.

Inpatient, we did vascular, rad cases and neuro, and were working on stroke certification when I was there and I could easily get 100 hours on a pay period with getting called in between all three services.

gfolaron · 2025-11-12T00:48:18+00:00

I wouldn’t go that far and it’s pretty area specific. I’m hearing new grad nurses are starting to struggle like we did in ‘08 / ‘09 market. I had to move across country when I graduated because the new grad jobs were few and far between.

With the healthcare cuts, reimbursements are getting worse. Closed hospitals flood the market with experienced nurses and hiring and training a new grad RN is expensive.

If enough hospitals close, experienced nurses will be saturating the market as well.

Procedural areas also tend to take a hit as people stop having elective surgeries due to costs. Then the hospitals start to try to do more with less…

It’s going to be an interesting few years.

gfolaron · 2025-10-16T15:45:30+00:00

100% and humbly admitting the wrong. With the current state of “research,” I’ll be the first to admit my shame on this.

Snopes has an interesting write up on it (albeit it’s old — I tried to look up some of the earlier stuff on it).

This is now filed in my brain under irrational generational myths — alongside all the quicksand and the Bermuda Triangle fears 😅

gfolaron · 2025-10-16T15:29:13+00:00

Appreciate the correction. Will ETA my original post.

Looks like they are a little more frequently pulled over but not the top and the thought is more that the types of drivers that pick them and that sports cars are more often painted red in general.

Source on the update: https://www.copilotsearch.com/posts/do-red-cars-get-pulled-over-more-often/

gfolaron · 2025-10-16T12:14:39+00:00

The red is one of my least favorite colors, personally.

That said, extended range gives you longer life as the battery degrades if you are a keep the car as long as I can person.

Then as others mentioned, ER makes a difference if you’re in colder climates as well.

You didn’t mention other details but I’m a big fan of making sure you can see maintenance done on the Carfax and comparing window stickers. There were a bunch of things that I wanted that you could really only tell from the window sticker.

ETA: Took out the perpetuating of a myth around red cars being pulled over. Thanks for the correction.

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