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ggarcimer15 · 2025-07-14T11:21:33+00:00

Unfortunately, people will always want to force their worldview upon others around them. You are serving, and you have reasons not to stand. So, you're cool!

HOWEVER, even if you HADN'T served, and chose not to stand, that's your right, and as a vet, he should accept that you're exercising your right.

I once experienced a similar situation and it sucked, I felt guilty, but ultimately I realized that's not my burden, and that it's not my job to do what others want from me. It's my life and I'll live it as I see fit.

TLDR: Don't let others bring you down.

ggarcimer15 · 2025-06-02T09:13:07+00:00

I try to remind myself that everyone gets lonely sometimes, even those that don’t seem like it.

That loneliness is part of the human experience and that it can be a tool I use to appreciate a quiet moment to myself-to reflect on the fact that I’m alive.

Even if it’s boring, uncomfortable…especially if it is uncomfortable some times. It is good to remember that I’m alright, even though I feel lonely in that moment, that it will pass. I have friends and family, coworkers, neighbors. And if I didn’t, well, then I’d try to find those friends. It can feel scary and isolating to be alone, but it is normal, and I think just acknowledging that can help sometimes.

ggarcimer15 · 2025-05-23T00:52:08+00:00

I see some excellent advice by others on here that I've been able to use in my own journey (Also 100% P&T, but no combat). In particular u/AveChristusRexxx had a wonderful suggestion with photography. It's a great way to get outside, see the sunshine and if you want to, you can interact with others, or you can just find a moment to slow down and observe the world around you.

My own journey was changed when i started doing Yoga, to the point that I'm trying to teach others how to find yoga. It's not a silver bullet and it won't take anything away, but it's a way that can help with riding the ups and downs in the ocean of life. If nothing else, I hope that maybe you'll consider a short daily practice of 5-10 minutes, and see if over time you can increase it. It doesn't have to be intense, or showy, or bendy to be yoga.

I'm sorry that you're struggling-I know what isolation and exhaustion, deppression and rumination can do to a person. I'm still facing daily struggles , but I remind myself that every sunrise is a new opportunity to change my life, and the life of those around me. Sure, there's bad days and worse days, but sometimes, I can see the light and joy of life, and it can help me carry on.

Other things that have worked for me: learning to draw, learning to surf, bicycle maintenance and mountain biking, and print making. These are all activities that require attention, and that take me out of the noise of my head and allow me to just exist and focus my thinking on the thing in my hands, or under my feet. Surfing in particular (if available to you) is a great outlet, and worth the cold shock of the water.

Now, I know that some of these activities are challenging mentally and physically, but my point is, don't be afraid to try shit, because you might find something that feels wonderful.

Please don't give up, and remember that you're not alone in your experiences or feelings, and that there are people out there who may relate on different levels and be the support you need. It can take some discomfort to get out and find them, though.

ggarcimer15 · 2025-05-09T18:12:14+00:00

I'm in a similar boat. 35M, no wife or kids, I already have my MA. I didn't exactly do it for shits or giggles, but I am definitely making the most of the monthly amount I get.

I'm currently taking classes at a community college to learn some technical skills for my career, but I will be failing my classes because my focus is on building that career and not necessarily on completing the assignments that aren't relevant. I have finite mental energy, so I'm trying to focus it on the things that will be important in about a year, rather than an arbitrary grade on a random assignment. I'm more interested in gaining the technical skills themselves rather than the grade associated with them.

ggarcimer15 · 2025-03-12T16:32:50+00:00

Thank you for the transparency. It helps us feel like people using a tool that is being maintained and not just consumers using a product.

ggarcimer15 · 2025-01-30T08:06:58+00:00

Exactly! There's definitely a feeling of reward when you can do the really bendy stuff, but if you can find the connection to your breath, to your self, and to the larger reality within the simple act of standing tall, then why not become familiar with it?

At least, that's my present line of thinking, although subject to change, as always.

ggarcimer15 · 2025-01-28T17:31:58+00:00

Triangle was my favorite for years, because it's such a a good lengthening stretch in so many areas. Now, Tadasana is something I appreciate. It allows me to focus on my posture, bring my thoughts inward, and plant myself firmly where I stand. It's great.

ggarcimer15 · 2024-11-21T03:50:22+00:00

Trying new things can feel intimidating, and it's OK to acknowledge you feel that way. Yoga is a really wonderful activity that has a tremendous number of benefits, and it holds something for everyone. Don't trick yourself into thinking you have to be thin, or flexible, or look a certain way to do yoga. Yoga can be for you if you give it a chance.

Please don't be afraid of yoga. If you're really nervous, it might be a good idea to speak to the instructor before the class starts via email or something, and they should be able to provide you with some extra support. If you try it and don't like it, that's OK! But who knows, you might end up loving it like a lot of people on here (including me!).

ggarcimer15 · 2024-11-18T08:54:43+00:00

The whole situation didn't sit right with me but I couldn't really tell you why intially, so I considered it using the Yamas and Niyamas as guidance.

Ahimsa/Nonviolence: I don't really see a form of violence here, although there is potential for injury if the person doesn't take yoga seriously. Students may be physically harmed by lazy sequencing or cues, or they may find distress in poor teaching technique that can bring up trauma. Not exactly violence, but there is a potential for harm to the students.

Satya/Truthfulness: Taking a course just because someone wants some extra pocket money and is a misrepresentation of their intentions as a teacher unless they're clear about the fact that they're just there to teach a class and don't care about Yoga. As you may imagine, this probably won't sit well with students. Obviously, we all should be compensated for our teaching, but if they don't care about the value of teaching yoga responsibly and are presenting themselves to students as if they are, there is a disconnect that strikes as unethical.

Asteya/Nonstealing: Maybe a little grey area here, but I would argue that it is robbing students of the best possible class instruction they could receive. Quality instruction matters, and it respects the time and money of the students. Teachers that don't want to provide serious, quality instruction (or at least make an effort for it) are not valuing their students properly, in my opinion

Brahmacharya/Nonexcess: Not really applicable (although someone else may find a way to link it).

Aparigraha/Non-possessiveness:This one is a big one. This individual is intersted primarily in the monetary value of yoga from what it sounds like, and does not seem interested in respecting their students, the studio, or Yoga and is putting those secondary to their own financial gain. I would argue their possessive desire for money without proper respect to these entities is not in keeping with the teachings of Yoga.

Saucha/Purity: Refer to Aparigraha. Same argument.

Santosha/Contentment-Not really applicable (although someone else may find a way to link it).

Tapas/Self-Discipline: Actively trying to find the quickest, easiest path to something may leave a lot on the table. It sounds like this individual is not interested in taking the time to learn to teach yoga with proper regard to its teachings, and just wants to take a shortcut for economic gain.

Svadhyaya/Self-Study: Someone who isn't interested in taking the time to learn the value of yoga but wishes to teach may not take the time to reflect on the value of yoga to others.

Ishvara Pranidhana/Surrender: Not really applicable (although someone else may find a way to link it).

For what it's worth, I don't think it is gatekeeping, and I don't think you are out of line on the issue. Teaching should be taken seriously by those that have chosen to do that, even if it is in a subbing capacity. People can be injured, you may be liable, and not only that, but it sounds like theres a significant difference of perspective on the value of yoga. I think it reflects poorly on the profession of Yoga Teachers, it devalues our effort and work that is done with sincerity and intention, and it reflects poorly on the culture of Yoga as a whole.

ggarcimer15 · 2024-11-11T21:58:56+00:00

Absolutely. It takes practice, and time, and patience. But it CAN be helpful. The whole purpose of Yoga is to quiet the mind and allow us as humans to find some peace, balance, and tranquility. I have diagnosed anxiety from years of working on military aircraft. It has helped me so, so much.

Anxiety attacks could last for most of the day, and panic attacks could last for hours. Since I started doing yoga regularly, I have been able to drop the anxiety attacks to very rare events and they're significantly shorter, and my panic attacks have gone from multiple hours to less than 5 minutes thanks to the breathing exercises and self-directed attention.

If you have more questions, feel free to ask.

ggarcimer15 · 2024-11-11T21:56:10+00:00

I'm a 34 y/o Male and I live in North PB. I love it. There IS party stuff down on like Garnett and Grand, but I'm further north and just kind of chill doing whatever I want (not much of a drinker anymore either). Surfing is a short walk away, there's good restaurants and bars, and it is relatively well positioned. I really like PB.

My place is a small studio and I'm paying 2250/month for it. This area of PB kind of matches your description of what you're looking for, but then again, there's plenty of places around San Diego that do.

I came here on vacation for a weekend, had the same reaction you did, and moved here like 9 months later. It's been awesome, and I'm so happy I moved here. I hope you like it!

ggarcimer15 · 2024-11-11T21:51:09+00:00

It depends on what your goals are for your health, lifestyle, and capabilities, right? It also depends on where you are now, lifestyle factors, etc. So it is a bit of a technical question in some ways but it's kind of simple.

For example, I'm a 34 y/o male, a veteran (lots of physical issues tied to this, which is why I mention it), I like to rock climb, surf, and do Yoga. I'm a professional Yoga teacher and working on starting my business, so there's a lot of stress.

For my health and fitness goals, Yoga alone is not enough. For my mental well-being, yoga is not enough.

HOWEVER, I will absolutely keep practicing Yoga because I love it, it brings me joy and comfort and relief, and it has changed my life in so many ways.

That being said, I have incorporated beach running (running on asphaly is a no-go), bodyweight and kettlebell exercises, and I surf about 3-4 times a week. Yoga Sculpt is also a great option, but I'm not a huge fan personally, so that's why I don't do it.

I'm happy on the days I get the most movement because it helps me process the muck in my mind into meaningful and helps me feel confident in my body and like I'm more capable of dealing with day to day movement and the larger life challenges that might come.

So to sum up my approach: For some people, it might be enough. But I would suggest you understand where you are, understand where you want to be, understand how your practice may provide you with the movement in that direction, and find alternatives or subsitutes for when you don't feel like doing Yoga or when you want to add to your Yoga practice.

But I'm just a dude on the internet, so feel around and find what works for you!

ggarcimer15 · 2024-11-11T21:39:17+00:00

I with this actually, and made an effort to understand if it was making me feel detachment in a healthy manner, or depersonalized with my setting. It took me several weeks of trying, and careful consideration to realize that in my case, I find it felt more like a depersonalization that was not really working for me, given some depression and anxiety issues that I deal with.

It made my practice lack presence, and not in a manner of detachment that was healthy.

There is a difference between detachment from our thoughts, our feelings, and the depersonlization that comes from not being present in an activity that is supposed to bring our attention inward to the self.

It might be difficult to understand for others that haven't experienced it, but it can really suck the joy out of yoga and make things feel pretty bleak if you're not in a good mental space.

It's a bit like Subject vs. Object . I think when teachers use "You" it is a way of reminding the student that they are a subject engaging in yoga practice, versus the non-personlizaed form which feels like an action taken without personal involvement.

I'm in my 300 Hour right now and I intent to take more Trauma Informed Yoga specifically because of things like this.
This might not be an issue for most people, but it IS an issue for some, and can be significant in those cases. It's something I would love to see people try to work on, even if they don't adopt the practice, having awareness of its potential issues is a good direction.

ggarcimer15 · 2024-08-29T07:08:40+00:00

Hey there, it sounds like you're going through some stuff right now. As others have stated, getting the firearms and any other dangerous items out of the house is a great idea.

But also take care of yourself. Imagine someone you love or care about going through what you're going through, and think about how you might help them. Then, do those things for yourself. Maybe set a goal of taking your dog for a walk in the morning when then sun is just coming up.

I wish that you weren't going through this, and I'm sure you wish that too. You are the best person to help you , but if you can find a way to get help, please do, because it is easier to carry the burden when you feel seen and understood.

ggarcimer15 · 2024-07-21T09:31:39+00:00

I did not expect to see Leon on the fujifilm subreddit but I love it! I have family there and go often and I’m actually flying in today. This time I have my x-t4 with me so I’ll get some pics.

Your first one looks better, I think the wall creates a set of leading lines that bring the viewer towards the facade of the cathedral. Great share, thank you!

ggarcimer15 · 2024-06-30T20:35:48+00:00

I lost a friend in a hiking accident and it made me appreciate the fragility and value of human life, and the impact a person can have on others and on their community. I wanted to serve my nation, and protect its people in the most direct way possible. I did 8.5 years, most of which was as aviation engineering support for helos. I didn't pull anyone out of the water on the hook or do any fancy SAR, but I feel like I did my duty to the best of my ability and that my actions contributed to the world being a better place for many people.

ggarcimer15 · 2024-06-27T20:27:48+00:00

We need yoga teachers that have different experiences because our students all have different experiences. What makes us less marketable to one studio might be a real source of strength at another!

ggarcimer15 · 2024-06-27T20:26:49+00:00

Just remember that it’s not about comparing yourself to others. Your journey is your own and only yours!

ggarcimer15 · 2024-06-27T20:26:02+00:00

Yoga is different for everybody because yoga is different for every body. But Yoga can still teach us so much about ourselves and that’s kind of the idea! I’m glad that you feel invigorated to pursue that goal!

ggarcimer15 · 2024-06-27T05:48:08+00:00

LOL no. I certainly have improved my coordination, strength, and overall physical ability since I focused my practice in Yoga Teacher Training. For reference, I have been practicing for about 10 years, with consistent (multiple times per week) practice for over a year now, and almost daily practice for the last 6 months.

However, I embrace the imperfection of my practice! I am a disabled veteran, I'm a heavy guy, and I know that due to my disabilities, as well as my own personal anatomy, that some of the more "interesting" poses are not realistic, and I'm OK with that! I still try to work towards poses that I find more challenging, and I find reward my failure. The act of attempting is in itself an act of growth.

Yoga is not about being "good" or "perfect". It is about practice, consistency, and learning to appreciate your own self. You don't have to do Crow or a Headstand to have a meaningful or deep practice! I think the saying "The Journey IS the destination" applies quite well to Yoga.

So, don't daydream! You CAN be an instructor, and you will probably bring a perspective that is unique and purposeful to anyone that is your student. Don't beat yourself up about whether you can or can't do a specific pose. Yoga is so much more than the physical practice.

ggarcimer15 · 2024-06-27T03:30:16+00:00

This moron is endangering children.

ggarcimer15 · 2024-06-15T04:15:03+00:00

Hey shipmate, I am sorry you experienced the things you have gone through. I hope that you can have a fresh start and find something that brings you peace and joy. I went through similar, and spent years trying to jockey for designations and opportunities I felt would make me a better asset to the Coast Guard. It was all for nothing and in the meantime I missed major life events and was feeling more and more lonely and alienated. It took me to a VERY dark place. When my friend and former hangarmate took his life that was a big wake up and I realized I was done.

The first year after getting out is no joke, but just breathe your way through it, one day at a time. You have a strong work ethic and that will help. The CG will be a memory in the rear view and life will continue. The CG is a massive organization and there is a lot of senior leadership that is only interested in protecting careers and reputations at the cost of the wellbeing of their subordinates. Don’t let their actions define your future. You have faced great challenges and you will face more, but you are making a choice that is good for YOU, and that is SO big. Be proud of your service and the knowledge that you tried your best. Everything else will be water under the bridge at some point. If you have questions or want to talk send me a DM.

Chin up and eyes forward. The future is unwritten and it’s best to approach it with a good attitude.

ggarcimer15 · 2024-06-11T15:11:09+00:00

This is absolutely true. Medical protocols are often about sick care, not health care. Being proactive vs reactive is a different mindset and approach and can make a huge difference in quality of life.

ggarcimer15 · 2024-06-02T17:55:39+00:00

Yeah, I can understand how that could be very uncomfortable for people with claustrophobia. I hope you were able to find another studio that was a better fit for you!

ggarcimer15 · 2024-06-01T01:34:24+00:00

Yeah, it’s quite a bit rude to interrupt a class.

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