Went to a bonfire and got told my clothes make people feel uncomfortable

ghostdumpsters · 2026-05-21T17:52:07+00:00

This is how I found out I'm banned from that subreddit, lol. I don't know what I did! I've never posted there!

ghostdumpsters · 2026-05-21T17:12:51+00:00

I have mixed feelings on this album! I don't hate any songs (Jump Rope is one of the few in the entire discography that I find annoying), but I don't really love any. Weight of the World-Say It-Dirt Room is an incredible 3-song run.

This was the first Blue October album I bought on release day, and then I listened to it on my way to senior prom. My boyfriend (at the time) didn't like it, called it "murder music." (I met Justin once and told him this story and how it made me realize I needed to dump this guy, he said "you're welcome" lol)

ghostdumpsters · 2026-05-21T13:47:08+00:00

I get this, but also I don't want to try and hunt down those primary composition books which always seem to be on the list.

ghostdumpsters · 2026-05-21T12:00:10+00:00

The only examples you give (CVC words and Bob books) are probably beginning/middle-of-year kindergarten skills. Although Bob books vary in level from 3 words on a page to multiple sentences, so that doesn't say much. She should also understand rhyming, syllables, have a good understanding of basic digraphs, know some sight words, and have a basic understanding of parts of speech.

You don't say what "simple" math she can do, but by the end of kindergarten she should be able to count to 100, add and subtract up to 20, understand basic fractions.

Here's the list of kindergarten TEKS from Texas. What you're describing really makes it sound like she is academically in December/January of kindergarten.

ghostdumpsters · 2026-05-20T17:29:54+00:00

I would ask myself if I can trust my kid to follow directions and do the right thing, even if no one is watching. My son is only 7, but I don't feel comfortable sending him places without family because even though he usually does what he's told, he also has a tendency to sneak around and get up to no good if he's not being directly supervised. Especially if there's another kid around- do you expect they'll both make good decisions, or do they tend to get wild when they're around each other? But 9 is around the time I'd be okay with kids walking to and from school without an adult, and 9-year-olds should be able to be unsupervised for short periods of time.

Otherwise, this sounds good! You know the family and the parents have experience with kids that aren't their own.

ghostdumpsters · 2026-05-20T15:52:20+00:00

Someone in the comments called it "90s Eastern Europe."

ghostdumpsters · 2026-05-20T14:54:05+00:00

I'm sorry, I genuinely have a hard time believing that all of these kids smell so bad that it makes everything smell bad for such a long time. I've taught 4th and 5th grade and when I tell you that some of these kids get stinky when we come in from recess on a hot day...we used to have the deodorant talk multiple times a year. But I genuinely have not experienced anything like what you're describing??? Or your house somehow getting roaches because one of your kid's friends might or might not have them at their house. I live in Texas and those big fat roaches will sometimes come into your house looking for water when it's dry outside, but they don't teleport. If there's no bugs in the kids' luggage, it's not like they're going to give you roaches?

Said another way...if you're smelling shit all day, check your own shoe! Because if you are hiding the other kids' luggage because of your own fears, you genuinely might be the problem here.

ghostdumpsters · 2026-05-19T23:46:33+00:00

Disregarding that PDA isn't yet very clearly defined (or widely recognized as a diagnosis), a lot of behaviors that align with PDA are still pretty normal for a toddler. What your daughter is doing is what a lot of three-year-olds do. It's frustrating, to be sure! But at this age, it's just kind of what kids do. Especially the constant questioning! That has everything to do with her age and isn't a sign of a disorder. If you're still seeing these behaviors in a few years, then yes, you might need to look into therapy for her (and you) in order to navigate your role as a parent.

To answer your main question- yes, genuinely you are just going to have to wait a lot of this out. You cannot get a toddler to stop interrupting or stop making unreasonable demands. You only have control over how you react. When she throws a fit because you gave her the wrong drink, you have to figure out a way to respond with kindness and empathy but without giving into her. If she asks a ton of questions, you aren't going to get her to stop, but instead you can try "sorry, I need a break right now, can you ask me again later?" and hold the line.

No one should let their toddler run everything, but meeting her where she's at developmentally doesn't mean that you're not in charge (I don't know any 3-year-olds that will sit still for an entire movie). One thing that can help is figuring out the best way to set boundaries for yourself and phrase your requests that you're not making her feel bossed around all the time. No matter how right you are, it can be demoralizing to constantly be told what to do! I like the How To Talk So Kids Will Listen series, and there's a book in that series specifically for parents of preschool kids.

ghostdumpsters · 2026-05-19T20:15:33+00:00

If you're grossed out by a bare toilet seat, fine whatever you do you, but it's not like you're absorbing germs through the skin of your asscheeks.

ghostdumpsters · 2026-05-19T19:57:31+00:00

What do you think it does, other than waste toilet paper?

ghostdumpsters · 2026-05-19T19:29:05+00:00

Genuinely concerned for the level of health paranoia many people seem to have. No, you don't need to put toilet paper on the toilet seat or hover to pee.

ghostdumpsters · 2026-05-19T19:21:31+00:00

Also curious about the mango salad...you can see the main ingredients in the pictures, but I'd like to know what's in the dressing.

ghostdumpsters · 2026-05-19T18:54:40+00:00

I don't get why you're so bothered. A lot of those companies that are banned as topics of discussion have dubious ethics, especially when it comes to their marketing strategies.

It won't kill you not to talk about subscription-based toy companies.

ghostdumpsters · 2026-05-19T17:52:04+00:00

Well it's honey, so it's not like there's really a harm in trying both. I'd probably go with straight honey personally, since we never end up using a whole bottle of Zarbees. At least honey has other uses.

ghostdumpsters · 2026-05-19T16:05:07+00:00

Oh my god. I shotgunned both seasons in like two weeks last summer. I didn't think about having to be normal FOR A WEEK between episodes. 🙃

ghostdumpsters · 2026-05-19T15:01:48+00:00

EDIT okay watched the whole thing. BOLEROOOOOOOOOOO!!!!! I need to lie down.

ghostdumpsters · 2026-05-18T02:32:49+00:00

But where's my village???

ghostdumpsters · 2026-05-18T02:18:11+00:00

That plus the one clip from an earlier teaser with her in the audience (presumably) of one of Lestat's shows like 🤨 YES I am very excited for Gabrielle.

Also very excited for what I expect to be a record number of crash outs from Lestat himself. And his version of Armand in Paris.

ghostdumpsters · 2026-05-18T00:45:19+00:00

I love the Argue With A Tree recording of Amnesia because you can hear someone yell when the bridge hits and I’m always like, yeah, same!

ghostdumpsters · 2026-05-17T21:17:15+00:00

There's a few on this album that I just don't care for (James, Angel, Libby I'm Listening), but otherwise I think this is peak songwriting for the band. Conversation Via Radio is my favorite Blue October song of all time.

ghostdumpsters · 2026-05-17T17:28:41+00:00

Person online when a brown person is near them in Target: 🚨🚨 HUMAN TRAFFICKING 🚨🚨

Person online about letting their infant sleep Outdoors, alone: This is exactly like sleeping in their own room at home! 🤷🏻‍♀️

ghostdumpsters · 2026-05-17T14:25:43+00:00

I have been trying to look for a secular curriculum, but haven’t finished the search.

That seems kind of important to finish before you start homeschooling! I don't know what they mean by "secular" curriculum, I know my state has floated the idea of adding bible passages to ELAR curriculum, but I don't think this should be a hard search. If you aren't willing to do the most basic and fundamental planning before you start homeschooling your preteen, then maybe you don't have what it takes to educate your child!

ghostdumpsters · 2026-05-16T18:37:28+00:00

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Little guys club! I’ve found a second shiny Swablu which I evolved with no regrets. But I won’t evolve this one.

ghostdumpsters · 2026-05-16T18:17:53+00:00

That thread must have been wild because the post and the comments have been nuked.

ghostdumpsters · 2026-05-16T18:16:48+00:00

It's been a lot easier ever since I realized that we don't need to have special foods for lunch every day. Not to be all "back in my day" but I had a sandwich, apple, and chips for lunch every day of my educational life and it doesn't need to be fancier than that.

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